Monday, December 31, 2007

Buletin pagi

Happy New Year !!!!

Heard that my fantastic management (love yah bosses mwah!!!) have decided that we can go off at half past four today...!! Yippeee!!

Some news:

1. My Opah has been admitted to GH - Ward 14 if any one wants to come. She has been in constant ever worsening pain for ages and I (and my mom) cant stand it and hubby has gotten her admitted so that they can check her out. Mom is merajuk with her sisters as noone told her that Opah was going, and actually I think that was our fault as we did not remember to let her know either! (i think hubby thought aunties would tell her and aunties think that we'd let her know).Mak I ni sensitif tau...

2. Congratulations to Azril and Emma on their wedding last Saturday! Sorry lah we all thought we can come with the boy's side (he's my cousin and Aida's brother) but terlambat- you all lah pi awai sangat!! hehehehe. balik dari Simpang Pulai we all import TIGA huge pomelos (limau bali)

3. Congratulations to my cousin Sha for her engagement - you look very nice in your dress..and we look forward to your May wedding. Again, we came in with your fiance's side, sorry.

4. To Zu, sorry the buddy system failed during the weekend. I ate (ahem- clears throat) nasi minyak (sikit) daging rendang, labu masak lemak (MY FAVOURITE) etc etc. Today I will start again.

5. To my cousin Kak Ng- again, you are NOT Fat and you do not have to lose 3 kg- she is about 5' 7 and she is 53 kg..ish ish ish.....

6. To my maid- next time I will not ASK you to follow me , and thus allowing you to refuse. I will do what my mom said and TELL you.

7. My kids (No 1-3) are with my mom and dad. No 4 and 5 went out with their Dad. And reported to me that it was much more fun without no 1-3 bossing them about. hahahhaha.

The end, for now...

Friday, December 28, 2007


I need a holiday.

Ive taken on too much lah I think.

I do a bit of translation on the side, btw. (have to cari makan mah- plus its fun -hahahahahaha - no its not.). I dabble, rather than do it fulltime (you can really make a living if you do it full time you know but lawyering sounds more posh hahahahaha) - jobs are few and far between, but when it comes it pours. Now someone needs something urgently - Dont I have enough sense to say no, you say. Well, I thought I could do it. But typically what was last week a sleepy time at the office has now erupted into major trauma- Sumer client nak chop chop. So what I do is I try to juggle. Malam, buat this translation thingy. Hence I am now at the PC. Siang, buat office work. How much longer can I do this, really , before I get burnt out. Tomorrow morning I can't even look at it. But my standard answer if you ask me if I'm busy is : NOT FOR YOU. Hahahahahahahaha.....!! Padan lah muke aku.

Plus moan moan, feel sorry for myself, I have to cook these days. Yes I feel better as I know my kids eat what I cook (or do they order pizza secretly?) . I'm googling "easy meals for the family" hahahahaha. And there ARE a lot of nuggets etc etc etc in the freezer.

Eh Bro in Ireland if you ever read this- WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRRIED????

Bro in Japan: HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHAH!!!!!! 26 dah adek I nie. Maybe we can go see you in Nagaoka. Biler lah tu?????????? Nak apa dari kaklong?? Cepat cakap!

Thursday, December 27, 2007


We spoil Johan. The other day he cried as hubby had promised that he would come back early, to take him to play football on the "big field". Hubby came home at 7-30 pm. He cried in the phone to me and complained that "Daddy always breaks his promise". (mana belajar words like that??) Said Daddy felt guilty enough (although muka maintain macho) to take Johan out on a mysterious outing, coming home with a pistol tembak tembak. Johan was happy.

We really cater to him. I have also promised him his choice of toys at Toysrus,and the rest are protesting loudly. So---Ok everyone gets toys.( I am really the model of "How NOT to raise your kids"-) bribery is rife in my home although you can always justify it as incentive...

Kids are getting personal tuition tonite. Ie this teacher coming home to give a crash course on BM Science and Maths. It's just for Sara but at RM120 per WEEK maybe I should let the teacher supervise my other kids. Plus Sara may feel victimised. It does not help that Sophia was laughing hysterically when we said the teacher's coming for Sara. Let's see what she says when I tell her it's for her too. Hehehhehehe

Cikgu Ustaz dah berenti- have to go to Kedah.. got another job. But there is a new uztaz coming. Maybe I should also re-learn - Do I have to start at Iqra 1 ?? Hehehhehehe. Sara pun nak katam dah..Sophia pun dah jauh quran..bagus lah but hope can maintain lah.

Die or Diet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sis In Law and I have started this "Buddy System" where we tell each other on a daily basis, what we eat, what we do for exercise. This is because I have gained about oh- 10 kg since I worked in Happiness & Co where there are SO MANY choices for lunch. My sis in law also thinks she is big (she is not) .

Anyway its the second day and I'm allready failing. Her list includes "wheatgrass" "papaya" and "yoga". Mine includes "keropok lekor". Maybe I should lie. I'm trying to suggest "marital exercise" (heheheheh) as a legitimate exercise but so far it's been met with silence from her. . Heheheheh. But it helps - definitely, as I know I have to tell her what I eat, so I therefore, think about what I eat, and therefore I don't eat what I would normally eat. (I can't tell her "double swiss mushroom burger" - malu lah!).

But I will take her advice , and NOT get depressed. Just be motivated. If SHE can do it, so can I. I'm going to go shop for LOADS of healthy munchies today, I promise. Like- er..celery? Sengkuang ? and reduce carbo intake. Tonite have told hubby that we will have grilled protein for dinner. (Fish?Prawns?) It's true- my diet is very carbo-heavy so far.

Motivation- wedding of an OLD friend. 36 , eligible, good family, finally getting hitched this new year, to a 27 year old GORGEOUS girl who reminds me of "Yasmin Watchaaaa!!" whenever she speaks. really really getting old....She is by the way thin as a stick ( I took perverse delight in telling her that being too thin may harm chances of conceiving)- but tells me I am "fine". Don't you hate that about thin people?? That they refuse to let you wallow in your sense of fatness???

People, I am NOT imagining this increase in weight- my brassier size has increased! This is not because I am extra voluptious, but because I have boobies at the back as well as in the front! Heheheheheh! So I AM Motivated. and from now on my list to Sis In Law will say "Celery Stick with salt" or "1 hour swimming"..heheheh (and maybe an occassional "J Co donut")


Monday, December 24, 2007

Musix n Lyrix

I caught HUGH GRANT and DREW BARRYMORE in Music and Lyrics and I LOVED IT!

Never knew old Hugh could sing and that cheesy song "Pop Goes My Heart" is so catchy that its playing in my house over and over again, on account of all of my kids liking it (I did hear someone going "pop goes my fart" though) . Johan kept asking me to click on (ie the you tube thing) to watch it.He said he liked to watch it as Hugh Grant was "handsome". I told Dad this and he said, Jo also asked to play soccer on a field after watching AC Milan so he's not worried. Jo will grow up to be a metrosexual guy (whatever THAT is)

Actually if you guys want a light believable romantic comedy, with witty lines- Hugh being given lines that you'd think he wrote himself, and Drew not quite the heroine you picture but then somehow it works. I was pleasantly surprised by the movie. Another song I like was "Way back into love". I am so tak terror to put up a vid here, so here's the link

Pilah tengok...!

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Moms With Kids

Okay to my officemates(officemate, rather) who reads this, I was SO close to the office last Friday. But because I was on honest to goodness annual leave- not MC, not EL, and therefore not actually required to be at the office, I was able to NOT drop by office, or call, or even think of the office, without feeling ANY guilt!!! That's fanTAStic!!!

Sis in Law and her children, and me with the brood, went in my "grannnnnnggggggging" van (really lah, go send this car to the workshop allready hubby) into town . We took them swimming at noon (thank god it was not so hot) . We lunched on leftover Nasi Himpit and Rendang . Zu and I took turns yelling at our kids to NOT drown please. Cqistina tested her mom's patience by constantly venturing into the deep side - she stopped when she found water getting in her mouth and leaving her spluttering..poor baby..!

Then, we took ONE hour to turn around to Pa*vill*ion. It could have been done in 5 minutes, had we simply walked from the pool to Pa*villi*on instead of taking the car out. I just LOVE to pay more parking fees, that's why.

Since it was so jammed, we stopped at this place called "Be*ryl's Cho*colate Fa*ctory". One of those obvious tourist traps that I always pass by and think to myself "one day I will take the kids there". There is a lobby area where they are SUPPOSED to teach you about how cocoa turns into fat on your thighs. But it was only when we insisted, that they come and give the lecture . Otherwise, it was Taste and Nag your Mom to Buy Session.

But I tell you, it was heavenly - all kinds of chocs (all made by Beryllah) were there. Mint and Coffee, Expresso, Rock Melon, Durian . I bought Durian, Apple, Mango, Rockmelon and another Durian. We must have tasted so many. There was a big ginger bread house there too.

We finally reached the P*av*illion. Mak Oiiii ramai orang. We headed to Ti*mes bookstore. On the way, we got Daya and Sophia's school bag from "Girls" shop, (whatever happened to Globe Silk Store) and Tina had a new skirt (rather unplanned for). There we waited for Dad who walked from HIS office (forced to go there as it was noticed that he was more in GH than he shd be). Dad came and then we ALL had to go home.....aawwwwwww (kids lah, I was like "Yay! Penat nak matiiiii" )

We did stop by Dad's new office for a quick (frowned upon by all the night staff) tour. Ada gambar which is available on request. Hee hee.

All in all, a good day.

Friday, December 21, 2007


Sister in law and family (sans hubby) are waiting at her house for us to come and get them so we can go swimming. I am on leave today - I had thought that we were going off to Kluang for Hari Raya but then tak jadi. My in laws (who came up on Sunday) decided to go back for Eid on the eve of Eid, instead of celebrating it with us in KL as Dad in Law is needed by the mosque committee (3 people have recently died who would normally be helping out. Slightly bad timing)

So yesterday, we went off in the a.m to visit my grandmother, and had a reunion for my aunties and cousins(mom's side). Then we received a call to say auntie M (hubby's) was in front of our house, please come home, so we rushed back. Not before I had imported food from my grandmother's place - thank you aunties !!! As there was nothing cooked in my house. Ye lah. no maid, mind not attuned yet to the fact that if I don't cook, there is no food. (The other day I forgot to leave lunch so I asked Nadine to order pizza)

Came home, Mak M turned up a bit later and asked what was I planning to cook. When I told her, angel that she is really, in disguise, she decided to cook Ayam Rendang Pedas, a dish I have always known as Ayam masak kuali and also this delicious dish called Sotong Basah in Sambal Kacang (tak tau den apa in English- huge wet squid in peanut chilly sauce?) . Other dishes were lodeh, acar buah (import) , dendeng (import from mom) , kari (opah's), korma for the dieting (ie not enough santan- that was me) and also ketupat, ketupat daun palas, nasi impit and nasi tomato

Mak M , Mak Z, Sis in law, my parents, my dad's brother all came we had a nice Raya gaklah, IZAN where were you lah?? Kata nak datang? There is still loads of food if you want to pop by.

I'm really thankful for the help. I am not confident around masakan melayu. Sounds like mengada, I know, but many a times, my cili tak "keluar minyak" , my santan pecah , and either I overestimate or underestimate the timing- My preferred and ideal masakan dishes are- ie, get in , get it in the kuali, get out. Anything with tomato sauce and kicap- fantastic. I do a mean chicken pie, and the matsalleh -bung it in the oven- dishes.

Eh I better go lah, Sis in Law will be F-U-R-I-O-U-S if Im late. You do NOT want to incur her wrath, and despite years being married to the my husband's sibling , both of who belive that time is elastic, she is NOT patient (Dia lambat takpa, HER sister in law is an angel..... heheheheheheh )jangan kids are upstairs lah getting ready.


Wednesday, December 19, 2007



Not too sure if happy or not, but basically when I was waiting for the result (ie in a nanosecond) I prayed that God gives me whatever is best. I mean, I would love to have another little precocious kid around who will grow up and demand that I buy her/him either a motorcycle or a stabilo "premium" pencil colour costing RM16 and not the Tesco one costing RM1.99. But on the other hand, I AM 38, and had miscarried 3 times, so health reasons ..maybe not such a good idea.

Why the sudden concern? All attributable to 2 things- my officemate remarking that I look "unusually" fat, and my friend whom I visited over the weekend having had her last child while she was on IUD (she still has no idea where the IUD went) . Then I thought about the symptoms which I have been putting down to being ill, ie aches and etc etc, and 2+2 = go get pregnancy kit.

Of course Husband objected. After vehemently saying "No lah you can't possibly be pregnant" and then graduated to "Eh best jugak dapat baby" , he said "If you are pun, takyah go buy the kit- if you have a baby at the end of 9 months, means you pregnant lah tu"

And that folks have been his stance since Nadine. right down to Johan. And baby post Johan yang tak jadi tu.

Hish hish of course I went off to buy lah. Bought a cheapo one costing RM7.90 and then it came out with NO line. The kit says if no line, the test is "invalid". Went back to the shop and told them this is invalid and wanted a replacement. The pharmacist boy asked me if I had droppe 3 urine drops on the area. Boy, I can assure you that I did. Then he called the sales people. One very heavily pregnant woman came out and told me, (hahahahahaha this is sooo funny) that no line means negative. I pointed out the instructions which said that if one line appears on the stick, you are not pregnant, you are just fat, but if 2, you are on the way to become a 6th time mommy. She said no, if one line,it means your period is just around the corner. Apa tu ah? Toksahlah ko temberang aku lah....Short of it, is that I left , and went straight to another pharmacy. And bought one that is double the costs, but so good that before I could put the test down the results came out.

And the result is: I am not pregnant, I am just fat.

So I will just have to be content with cooing and aaah-ing over other people's offspring. Haq- hope this answers your question! Hehehehehe. BTW- heard that Nut is still up?.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007


Not talked about the kids for awhile.

Sophia called Dahlia the other day. Dahlia was sitting in front of the telly. Sophia was in the bathroom, then came out , hands akimbo:

"Dahlia, may I speak with you for a minute?"

Dahlia: Waaaaaaaaaat??

Sophia: Who put the shampoo in the toilet bowl?

Dahlia: Not me! (And that is the universal answer to all questions, btw)

Sophia: Well, only two people use this bathroom, Dahlia, you , and me.

Hee hee hee...Dahlia never did own up..but what was funny to me, is the way my Makcik Daughter Sophia reprimands her sister. Even I don't say "May I speak with you for a minute?"

Then, There is Sara. The other day ashik nak marah...Her brother accidentally saw her having a bath (yes...."accidentally" pushed the toilet door- guys evidently start early with this "accident" hehehe) and Sara yelled and yelled. A bit overreacting, I thought.

So I sat her down and we had a nice long chat that ended up with her sobbing and saying she feels so persecuted because her mummy is always blaming her for everything,and when she smack/hit/punch etc her brother/sister/the door, etc I am always angry with her when actually there is always a good reason for her to do so. Basically, Sara does not tell tales. When she gets annoyed, she does not tell me. She would take action. And the recipient of her action, will tell me, and I will of course, be mad at her.

So both of us will change, She will be more of a tattle tale and let me be the Enforcer (or equaliser), and I will stop before I jump on my sensitve second born. BTW Johan felt really bad and came and apologised to Sara

Heeeee.. today I will conduct a group therapy when every one of them will do a list of ten best qualities of the other .

(I read this in Readers' Digest). In the meantime, I have to go pee on a stick guys.

Hi there....

Life is back to normal normal as it can get lah with 5 adults and 5 kids in the house (and the 2 fish and the one cat and the monkeys (not ours)

Yesterday is however very the kelamkabut. Woke up at 3 am, hubby did not sleep at all as (a) there was football and (b) he was copying down on to an Xcell Sheet every single number in his handphone. It was more attractive than the prospect of bed, but then again I was attired in my loose faded caftan. Hey comfort IS sexy what. (ok note to self- invest in some new pajamas. Cant wear lingerie- tak reti. Plus rumah banyak nyamuk)

Anyway 5 am we left for KLIA. Minah brought 2 huge bags containing orang kot and one heavy handluggage. All the way I told her eh Im not confident can lepas, but we shall see.

Once we were there, there was a queue so long that it brought to my mind J Co donuts. Anyway there was another maid on her own going back to Surabaya and interviewing Minah. I told Minah dont give any of your real details away. That maid (Faridah) said she was in Msia for 5 years when all of a sudden she was told to go back. She also dont know why...Ye lar tu..tu yang tercongok tunggu dia tu siapa then? Bopren lah tu...

Anyways just before it was our turn, I said to Minah which bag are you willing to leave if its too heavy. She said , neither, But then I said nanti kena bayar nanti! And she said, pay lah. Anyway, when it was our turn (7.25 am and the flight was at 8.15) - it was discovered that Minah's bags were 24 kg over limit. She was supposed to bring 20kg, she brought 44kg. Geram tak you,I kan dah kata....and she said can she take some out. She had another bag ready rupanye! She was prepared for this and just hentam je with the excess luggage incase MAS allows. Mate, even if org MAS tu nak bagi can, sikit boleh lah, allow 24 kg excess - maybe not. Anyway after she had taken out towels etc, she was 7 kg overlimit (ye ke tu I think the counter guy, En SHAMSUL, bagi lagi free kilos) - she had to go pay something like RM200). I virtually pushed her through the departure gate at 8 o'clock! Left the building at 8.20 am. Meeting at half past 9. Thank goodness for the new Putrajaya KL highway...( but a lot of running and a lot of puffing )

Oh by the way she just called me now.....she arrived and she will give me her number later...All her bags were ok.

Friday, December 14, 2007

Apa lagi, cerita Maid lah.

Today I stayed home, deciding that 3 days of dull headache and sore throat is enough, it's time to take a break and stay home. I don't think the kids liked it much- they had to abandon their free playing and squeeze in their lessons. (Hah! "Lessons" sounds so Alice in the Wonderland kan?)

Anyway in the evening went to send Maid No 1 back to her aunt's place. Went shopping wiht her first. Gave her a wad of cash - she bought Milo, coffee, deodorants etc etc etc... I guess she's going to miss the stuff she has been consuming over here for the last 7 years eh.

Hubby said that the new 2nd maid should also come along so , against everyone's advice, we took this newly minted maid , out. (everyone said not to , not until she's been with me for a month or so).

So maid no 2 is pushing the trolley with a pained expression on her face. I bought her her necessities etc etc (including towels). Kids are with the father , supposedly waiting in the car. I took the chance to get some groceries for the house.

I reached the car- no one was around! Kids and dad came later- and guess what? Dad had also bought groceries..tsk tak ikut plan betol. So now we have 2 huge bottles of coffee etc etc. (We can never do Amazing Race)

Then we went for dinner. We ordered satay for all. Because it was very late, (9.10! My kids were starving and I heard complaints that Sara was eating tissue) I ordered and did not even ask what each of the maids wanted. Husband was concerned that it may not be enough for the maid, Throughout dinner he kept fretting about what the maids would eat, whether they like sate whether they wanted more chicken..He kept asking me to ask them, and then before we went he asked them whether they were ok, and if they wanted more food. I should get a job with this man. ARGHHHH...

Husband is treating my maids like guests. Which is ok except I just wish he would realise that they are not necessarily poor people for whom we should feel sorry for. They have come here to work and for whatever they can get out of us. Yes, we have been lucky with the first maid - she stayed with us for 7 years but then, why wouldn't she? (Warning, "berkira" session ahead!!:-))

We gave her cash in her hand, we send her back to her uncle and family's house at least once a month, (she has quite a large family here and they are spread out in KL.)she was always with her family every eid for every year (she has to go visiting more than us) , and every public holiday and basically everytime we go anywhere she would ask to go back to her family' place rather than coming along. She was not stupid: any holiday with us, would fall under the category of work. Having said that, we took her to Redang, Tioman, Penang, and some islands (she went to Genting herself) ..I'm not begrudging her all that, but what Im geting at is, basically - she did not have a hard life ok! Anything extra burdensome, she gets paid for it. So I think we were nice to her. She was equally lucky to get us. (Ok ok I am aware that I have 5 kids and it was not that easy to look after them then. Go along with me here )

We plan to be equally nice to this new maid but then, I am constantly aware, that this is a stranger , who said to me that she has never worked before but then has a 2 year old passport, who said she was 22 but who told my 8 year old Sophia tht she is 10 years older than her, etc etc. I don't carelah if you were a trapeze artist in your past life but if you are here to work, I will accept you. But I remain wary and will not trust you 100% yet lah.

As opposed to Mr Social Worker ....Personally I think we should not be too naive and think they are lesser well-off guests when the truth is they see us as money bags. (hey Minah did too)..what say you. Of course he thinks I'm too hard and employer from hell and if he is too nice, so be it. He said I am trying to tell him how to behave. I tell him I am only poiting out to him he should not be too nice and gentle and solicitous with the maids in case they think we are so approachable.

We had an argument about how nice he was. And then we had an argument about how we should not argue. We had another argument about how each of us argue. This is me- "We are an extension of each other , we are not on opposite sides..why are you always aiming to "win" - Can't you just see things from my side?" This is him- "Are you saying I have to agree with you all the time?" that what I was saying?? I guess !! Hahahahahaha...married life..dontcha love it. (Yes in an ideal world a spouse should be the other person's partner, support, ally, etc and yah, an extension of you (as far as possible!) Why shd you be less than honest with your partner or less than kind? - This does not mean I am for being attached at the hip (really, it doesn't. really.Please believe me)

Tomorrow I will regret posting this personal insight on my beautiful relationship (of course we / he/ whatever- apologised allready - I can't bear negative vibes) and will try to delete it. Or not.

Anyway my maid no 1 has asked me to fetch her from Uncle' place on Sunday - her flight is on monday morning, at 8. She has to come back as her taxi have to go and send her mah!!! (at crack of dawn some more) -It was not even an issue- of COURSE we would send her.. sigh...we are such slaves to maids.


Thursday, December 13, 2007

Emails !!!!!!!!!!


A bit of a rant on general emails.

We used to have to deal with crank calls. Now we get emails on various subjects which always end with - Please forward this to xxxx number of people if not you will (a) have bad luck (b) be infected with a mysterious disease etc etc.


Yesterday I got an email about a CNN announcement on a virus which will delete your sector zero etc. And my facebook pun ada message about thinking of a wish while reading the collection of stories etc. 90% of the messages in my Facebook are now forwarded emails. It's tiring as my friends are not personal anymore...I'd love a proper how are you message sometimes. Although I guess I have to be glad that you are thinking of me when you forwarded it to me. Well, when you are clicking "Send to all" , I mean. Heheheheheh

Ok you know what I do these days?Whenever I get any emails warning me of anything dire, or even a story - I copy and paste the entire email, and google it. Almost invariably, it will turn out to be :

a. a hoax email or an urban legend
b. around for years - eg the CNN one has been around for 6 years! Likewise the Bill Gates wanting to give us money (hahahahah!! I wish!!) one. (Yang kelakarnye, the ones who forwarded it to me are from Financial sectors!)

I would suggest to all my friends, to do the same. Tommy Hillfiger did NOT say what he was supposed to have said in Oprah show. He did not even appear in Oprah at that time. There was no person in British Airways who was so rude to the black guy and insisted to be moved and in the end the black guy got upgraded to first class.

Check all emails like this with websites such as

Also, whenever you get emails on "halal" status- why not call the officer in charge and verify it? Don't just believe it wholeheartedly or even forward it to your friends without verification. It can actually damage the company's reputation if it was not true. Free free dapat dosa. (sin!)

Talking about dosa..I try now not to forward emails which embarrass any particular person. Ok ok I know a certain Datuk S dressed funnily recently but no need lah to send email to everyone laughing about her..not nice ok! And I don't feel nice to forward it also. How about the postmortem pics of Nurin? That's absolutely disgusting. But what is also sad is how many of us read and forward the emails. No one forwarded it to me, I am glad to say...maybe I've been ranting out loud.

Ok this rant is now over..

Wednesday, December 12, 2007


Once in a while I feel broody.
Yah I know, I allready have 5 beautiful , very vocal, very memeningkan kepala, very LOUD kids. But the youngest is allready five, and since the PS2 arrived, no longer wants to cuddle wiht his mommy. In fact last nite, I held out my arms for a hug and he said "tsk. Only one hug ok mummy?, as he was going to start his PS2 game. And last nite even Daya and Sophia had little time for me- they were engrossed in "Boggle" - my favourite past time at Uni dulu dulu. (I still play it on line sometimes). Tak achi gak as Daya knows less words than Sophia.

And to top it off, my friends have just had a baby (Dad of four +1) and she is soo adorable. Went over this morning and sempat lah menggomol her, She is so cute you want to just eat her up. Siap senyum senyum lagi kat kita, you.

Yeah I do miss that baby smell..

Coincidentally, TV pun reflect this- The not very funny comedy "Yes Dear" had the wives wanting to have more kids,to the horror of the bapaks. The wives recollected the baby years fondly while the husbands remembered the stark reality of it. In the end, one of the character decided that it was not that she was broody, but rather that she could not face the fact that her children are growing up and no longer need her.

Tu pun betul gak kot..Maybe its true for me. I have to face the fact that my children are growing up, and now no longer need me, and its time to look forward and save for their future, (and in the short term, for their books) rather than look back and yearn for the time where we have babies to cuddle and kids to hang around our skirts. However, at the moment, I have to be contented that my belly is still the number one attraction for bedtime- mat salleh read bedtime stories to put the kids to sleep, we malaysians offer our body parts , hahahahaha... But not for long, I'm sure....

Maybe DadofFour+1 will let us baby sit his Hajar one day. ...

Tuesday, December 11, 2007


I just came back from a "forum" at the Mandarin Oriental. My boss said to be there by half past 8. I could not sleep last nite (after one coffee) - stayed up to watch this movie called "Sarah- Plain and Tall" about this woman who came as a "trial wife" to a man and his 2 kids in the country. Oh sedih dan menyentuh hati 'tol.

Anyway woken up (shoved, rather) by husband at 10 to 8. I got ready at 8. I was halfway down when I heard the car pull out. Husband keluar - beli ayam!! Of course, I was dancing around in the living room , panicking that I would be late. He came back 8.20 am. And I was supposed to be there at half eight. I no longer got mad. Its not worth it lah, kan. Lagi pun,i find once you are in the meeting/seminar/forum etc and you are seated, it does not matter that you are late. AND malaysians are always never punctual. But of course I did not tell Husband that , but at least it cools you down and lessened my panic. It also helped that I called MO and found out it actually starts at 9!! He hehehehehe...

My whole married life is littered with either of us making the other person late. (Often, he makes me late) - did I tell you about the time I almost missed being called to the Bar in the UK? Or how I was nikah-ed abt 3 hours later than scheduled? Amazingly, none of the children from his loins arrived in this world late! Heheheheheh..

Takpa lah...he made sure my glasses and handphone are in my bag and my laptop is in the takleh lah marah..

Seminar was good btw. Torn btw networking or makan - Mandarin Oriental, oi!! In the end- makan!!! :-)

Kids - all got into Adni.. Books & Uniform time (Husband just paid half my salary to registration and said we'll buy books next year heheheheheh). All are at home, playing PS2 (finally dapat from dad)


Friday, December 07, 2007

Sleepless Night because....

Am reading this book called "Made in America"- Once I pick up a book, I don't put it down until I (a) finish it or (b) nod off or (c) get honked by the car at the back.

It's by Bill Bryson and it's about americanism...language , history , style, trend Americanism, America the State, and how it all began. Although we have not been taught American history in school, you know, we know more that we think we do. I bet we have all heard the words "Four scores and 7 years ago...." and I'm sure we know that 4th July is celebrated as the Independence Day of the states. What is interesting is Bill , in his very selamba- dok style, explained how it all began despite all the hype that we got. For example, its not the 4th but the 2nd of July. And you know the story abt George Washington and the one where he cut down the cherry tree (I cannot tell a lie) - well apparently that was all made up! A fake!

And it is very interesting to find out the origins of words we have become so used to - like "OK" (first used in 1839) and the dollar sign.. and did you know that the word "Lengthy " and "influential" are all american?

Ok stop yawning. Its in-te-rest-ing, I tell you . Anyway I could not sleep last night. At 1 in the morning I I pulak yang terkebil kebil....worry about my friend who's off to Haj today- ALL THE BEST TO YOU!!!

Apart from the book I also caught up with Grey's Anatomy (seriously that Meredith's whine...ish at 2 a.m it can get to you) - and Heroes (eh what what happened?) and also HEy PAULA- and I LiKE paula!! She's fun! Although a bit of a diva- what the heck , she cannot travel unless in comfortable jeans and she got mad at her assistant for not packing the jeans she liked - oh well she IS Paula, can afford to be DIva.

Eh ok lah. It IS still working hours (although can I say that I wrote this ages ago at home??)

Anyway take care, have a nice weekend.

Oh yeah

- missing my brother. How are you?

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Reflection (pre End of Year)

Takdalah apa sangat nak blog. Its already December and in about 3 weeks we would have reached the end of the year. It would have been my fourth year without being pregnant- (wow, achievement tu). Have I been a better person? Have I been a busier person? I wish I can say I'm ending the year in the Holy Land like my dear friend FTM (Thinking of you now, please don't panic, you will be fine) .Like someone I know said, Haji New York dah pergi, Haji Bombay Ive done, Haji proper I have yet to do. I.e, we had the money to go to all those places but not do the Haj.

Let's concentrate on the good stuff. I still have my husband and kids.And parents. A lot to be grateful for. We are all healthy except for husband who has been complaining of a viral illness since Sunday (physician, heal thyself, they say!) - Aiyoo teruk lah orang tua demam...grumpy sini sana. Air tumpah pun macam nak telan kita. (Tapi kejap je lah) .

Moved house- but still got to do the "fencing" of the house. I did not really think it was necessary , except that Nadine told me yesterday that she felt herself pushed while in bed, alone, at about 12 am. and she thought it was because she did not do her Isha prayers yet.. Sara complained that she was praying and herfeet were showing and then suddenly her sarong was pulled down. I must say that if it is supernatural it must be feeding off the energy left by my mom in law hahahahahah....

Anyway I asked my mom to call this Ustaz to do the cleaning of the house (from spirits etc) Husband is ok with the theory but cannot understand the pepper and the limau purut and the rock salt which the Holy man will sprinkle around the house as part of the cleaning process.

HIndraf- can I not say anything ? A very close friend of mine is Hindu. But one thing , I must have been living under a very small coconut shell as I never realised the Govt practised Arpatheid against the Indians. Sigh... why can't we all get along.....

Kids tuition- I discovered there is no intensive reading course that would take Johan for a month. So its up to mom lah...I tested the kids' knowledge of royal terms in the car the other day, and was thwarted by dad's silly jokes. Eg, I asked what is "gering" (royal for sick) and dad said "Dry" . What about "Semayam"(sitting) . Dad said it meant praying. And what about "bertitah"? (giving a royal speech. Dad said titah is something that only Permaisuri has (think about it - its very gross heheheheh) . By the end of the "lesson" the kids were laughing about and there goes my effort at being a cikgu cikgu. Ish .

Anyway we shall hope that one of them will be Sasterawan Negara and their BM standard will reach the skies. Inshallah. (While the others are of course, doctors).

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Happy Birthday Sara...!

Today is Sara's 10th birthday..(Blogger bodoh cannot post pics)


(What is the use of having a blog if one can't shamelessly plug one's own daughter eh)

Sara Rhianna Yasmin...the fastest born baby of the 5. Can't wait to come out, almost shot out at the corridor of Shrewsbury hospital but Ive allready posted on that. Sara, always in the shadow of Nadine (how do we convince her that she is special and unique)

There was no chance of us forgetting Sara's birthday- not because she was nagging us but because Dahlia and Sophia kept calling me at work, on the way back from work, counting down the days to Sara's birthday. Dahlia had giftwrapped something for her (Sophia complained that whenever Dahlia gives a present to any one , she never lets Sophia sees...).

Not that Sara did not have a looong list of what she wants for her birthday- it ranges from a new bed to a pet hamster . Of course, the camera, handphone and laptop are now regulars on birthday list (I saw the same on Sophia's list except on her list it was pink) . Sara also wrote that she wanted this doll called "Baby Alive" (in her list ada the word "tm" next to the word "Alive") . Did I mention she wanted to eat at Menara KL? Maybe we can do that tonite. Have icecream je lah since Im sure its dead expensive over there! Tak sedap pun kot? (case of sour grapes heheheheh)

We got her a couple of from Books Excess?Express ? (I forgot the name again lah Zu). I was thinking of buying gold. Except now the kids are not allowed to wear them to school .

Today, dad hauled all of them to the hospital (Sara , Dahlia and Jo had a dentist apptment) and then they all came to visit Mommy to have a birthday lunch together. Mommy took them to Pavillion lah of course. By the time we finally decided what to eat it was 15 to 2. And I start work again at 2. Sigh...I missed not having to look at my watch (i mean, handphone, as I don't own a watch) for the time. We settled on "ISLAND BISTRO" on the 2nd level at Tangs (a friend suggested the Kampachi cafe which also looked good) - nasi ayam singapore , kueteow seafood and crayfish, i had the asian platter (fuchook goreng, so oon goreng) . Johan and Birthday girl had fish and chips and Dahlia insisted on chicken nugget and insisted that she eat that with chopstick. Everyone had icecream sundae and Sara had oreo cake (which everyone wanted a piece of) .

I had to dash off by half past 2. I am so blardie LURUS!!!! Couldn't I just skive?? Or come back at 3??? Left the kids with the husband in Pavillion. I think they are swimming now. SIgh...its such a wonderful day lak tu..(as long as you are in the aircond office lah. kat luar panas terik)

SO Sara,hope you are enjoying yourself, we love you very much, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY again.

Monday, December 03, 2007

Over the weekend, we went to Amcorp Mall.. BESTNYEEEEE..

Its a place with loads of little stalls , selling second hand and home made goods. Almost like a flea market. Oh? It IS a fleamarket? Anyway we have vowed to go there again. Sans kids. Dad wanted to shop and stopped at every store he saw but I wanted to get my five kids away from there and was hassling him to get going. Honestly allready I am paranoid, wiht Nurin case I get even more scared.

We went to Books Express. I love that shop!!! Very very very expensive books at a fraction of the price! We got a lot of books . 2 of Bill Bryson the all time favourite travel (and others) writer, Sophia got a comic book of Lizzie Mg Guire- I guess she IS reading. Sara got something on nature she swears she will read, and a "Letterwriting Kit" . Nadine got a couple of tween books. Dah besar...Soon she is on love books eh. to you later....

Saturday, December 01, 2007

MAID Update

I now can pretend I am a tai tai... I have 2 maids..heh heh heh. Jangan jeles....

Let me tell you that I feel rather redundant. It seems to me that all I do from Monday to Friday is go to work, and come home. Play with the kids. Sleep. I don't even have to cook. Or even clean the house! This blog should be retitled the Superuselesswoman. Or ..Superwomanwannabe- Not.

Anyway this is a temporary situation only. It's because Maid no 2 has arrived while Maid no 1 is still around. Although the agents (and friends) have warned of dire consequencesof having them both together, Risk no 1 is to have Maid No 1 tell all sorts of stuff about us and the kids- we decided to risk it as Maid No 1 can train Maid no 2 where she keeps most stuff and what my preference is, and also to prevent Maid No 2 from having a culture shock. Can't be easy to come into a house of 5 perasan-matsallehs kids in a (to me) huge house .

Don't know if its working. We had a few incidents of note. Hilarious pun ye, worrying pun ye, surprising pun ada. On her second day, husband and I went shopping for her tshirts and tracks - my idea of working-at-home wear. It was the good old Giant we went to, and you know I realised something- I like to dress like a maid!!! Loose pants, tshirts . .

I passed the undergarment section, picked some stuff and all of a sudden my husband suggested behind me, if I wanted to take some undergarments for the maid.

I freaked out lah. I mean, its just not PROPER for you to think about the undergarment of the maid! Or anyone who is not your relative in your house. He was very bewildered at the reaction- of course he thinks I'm completely gaga. How do I explain abt propriety? He understands my logic and rationale but still thinks I was gaga to blow up. I mean, come on, wouldn't you??? No? Sigh...

Incident No 2 is when my maid, who supposedly have never been in this country , can say thank you and you are welcome. Plus her passsport is 2 years old. Que??

Last incident - is when she tells me she may not want to work with me as she is not sure she can handle kids! That is the most worrying of all. I gave her another 1 week before I ask for replacement. If she cannot work in this house, where the kids are more or less independent, and the lady of the house is, I hear, an angel (hehehehehe) then she may not like it if she gets "transferred" to other houses where the kids are younger, or if she has to look after older folks, and change diapers etc. At least I do not have any more babies in the house (although dad can be a bit of one sometimes) hahahahah..

Both maids are now giggling in the kitchen. Oh by the way I forgot to tell you that the new maid is 22 and is a newly wed. She looks like she is 18 actually. Whatever lah. And maid No 1 is getting a flight on the National carrier (no chepo flight for her and its on us) and is going back on 17th. However she has said that she may come back and now we have to think about applying for a second maid if she wants to come back. I'm getting the pressure from mom to not let her permit expire.

We'll see lah how.

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

What the Kids are Up to

Hi there! How's everyone? (rasa macam stand up comedian pulak)

Life has been pretty hectic lately. It is of course , the school break. I have 5 kids at home. Without any computers as UPM has asked for their laptop back and I use mine for the office and our desk top is still at the other place. (but is not that great anyway) so kids have to resort to their own resourcefulness in finding activities to do.

But boy are they resourceful! Aside from the now daily affair of cycling round the house, there has been:

1. Tango competition ("partners must be human")
2. Story telling competition (winner will get "payed" RM2 )
3. Fashion show
4. Baking - so far have done apam (which looked like jelly) - pizza (not bad) and muffins (I think)

The first three I know from the posters they put up in the dining area - ie on the A4 paper. Siap decorate and have drawings , AND "advertisement" !! - one poster has a pic of a lady with something and the words "Maybeline- because you're worth it" written in red. Hahahahahaha... I think my kids are wonderful. Hee hee hee.

Yesterday they are on their way to being Ustaz and Ustazahs..We registered them at a local (paying) religious school What we liked was there are only 20 per class, swimming and tae kwon do is compulsory, there are options for archery and badminton etc, and they try to push living an Islamic life holistically, ie live right wiht the right values - not just concentrate on the fire and hell and brimstones etc . They are also big on academia- apparently follow some Singapore books .

So yesterday all 5 of them sat for "entrance exams" - consisting of MAths, English and Bahasa Malaysia and also some testing on their existing religious knowledge. Johan will go to an "Advanced" kindie which is pretty funny as he has not been attending any proper kindi for the last 4 months. The others did ok and as expected. They are pretty chuffed to go there, there are loads of noisy kids there (hey they are kids after all!)

Nadine has been given a choice of attending the SPM classes or the O Levels Classes. I would like her to attend the SPM classes while her dad wants her to attend both. If things don't work out , she's going to have to go back into mainline schooling and I don't think she can do it with her O Levels.

Now the mother of these future ustaz and ustazah is under pressure to be equally a muslimah..

Wednesday, November 21, 2007


Appraisal this week. Yesterday , by mini bosses. Today, by Big Boss. Worried lah! Nak pi toilet pun serba salah- is he going to call me or not???

Have just been informed that im going "in" at about 2 pm.

Good think about me is - Im keen. Bad thing about me is- Im kelam kabut. Thats my self appraisal. I still run in the office. Me, all 60 kg of me, running in the office. The sight is NOT pretty let me tell you that. And why do I run? Is it urgent? Am I going anywhere? Nooo, its just that I panic easily, I think. I need a good calming influence around me. My husband, he is mr calm personified...during labour when I felt the baby pushing and by the way I was left alone with him in the labour room with the midwife outside potterin gabout her other work, I was yelling for him to call the midwife, he just strolled over rather leisurely and I'm sure just whispered to her that Sophia was coming.

Oh well, hope the "I'm keen" part will win them over.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Quickie (not)

Just a quick one.

Penang was great. Park Royal was lovely. Buffet was good. Having parents around was even better and not just because it allowed us to have a breakfast date together while the kids were sleeping. Batu Ferringghi was like Phuket- so many mat sallehs.

Visted my atok. He is my grandmother's youngest brother. From another father. My grandmother's mom, married the Tanjung Malim millionaire , Lal Mohammad, hailing from India/Pakistan??(I think Pakistan as Opah mentioned something about visiting Lahore) - he was the local roti tycoon in Tg Malim. Loads of property around there. One is being sold to some one for RM1.7 Million- aisay man, that's our heritage woit! (:-)

Anyway - then when Atok Lal passed away, my grandmother's mother - who by the way came originally from Indonesia and then Penang, married another mamak- Abdul Hai bin something. With her new husband , this roti madame, had 2 more kids, Opah Chu Bedah and Atok Mamak. Name- Nisha Rahmat bin Abdul Hai. This is on top of her 6 daughters already . My grandmother is the first daughter from the first husband. Atok Mamak was thoroughly spoiled by his sisters, by all accounts. He is now 56. So she has 7 daughters, 1 son, 3 roti factories. My great grandmother was the original superwoman man!!

We went to see Atok Mamak before he goes off for Hajj this 5th Dec. However, we did not expect that he would be poorly. The day we came back we kidnapped him and arrived home at 3 in the morning after taking him to see his sister (my grandmother) and then dropping him to his other sister (of same dad) house- the next morning we went to GH - got him admitted. He has severe heart failure. My husband told me a lot more things but I think wanshana's hubby would understand more!! His kaki (feet) were very bengkak - and his tummy very keras (hard) glad he's in KL now. He's going for a lot of tests....and to him, my husband is an angel. But apparently he has been asked to go to K by EVERBODY before but he refused. MY husband asked and he went. Maybe he was feeling really ill. Anyway Atok, hope you get better soon.

Ok not that short lah this posting.

Friday, November 16, 2007

What now

Thanks everyone for all the congrats wishes for Nadine...

She is well chuffed, bak kata omputeh. I came home and Sara was complaining that Nadine berlagak (show off) all day - I told Sara, you can also do it Sara. And let Nadine show off today.

Well, at one point, worried that I may be pushing the ""A" is best" mentality I said to Nadine," Oh well, if you had gotten less than 5 A we will still love you". We'll go on and on abt it but we'll love lah...Also I said, you must make sure that you truly understand the lessons you learnt and not just study to pass exams.

Ahahahahahahahakkkks..well kids if you read your mom's blog today you will now know that those are all bull***....heheheheheh.I was so happy whenever my exams ended that I was not at all bothered about trivial matters like remembering the things I learnt!! heheheheheh! When my results were bad I was worried about what my parents would think, rather than what I feel about it. So in the end as a mom, I was determined that my kids study and want to do well because they want to and not because of what mommy thinks .

You are your best motivator, ok kids!!

We were discussing their character the other day, dad and I - and we thought that we do not have to worry abot Sophia, and Dahlia. Nadine , ada sikit playful but she succumbs to peer pressure (that school was all about peer pressure) . Sara, I don't know why but my perception is that she absolutely loathes studying, could excel if she wants to but is too creative to be bothered with such boring stuff like MATHS. She hates not doing well though even though she hates to study. Sophia got no 25 recently and is demoted to a lower class (ada ke- oi, she's only 8 , can demote ke?) but we are not bothered too much as her results are all A. The difference between no 1 and no 25 is 4 marks.

Dashat betul sekolah depa.

Next year????

WEll, thanks Mak Z for the offer of using up your cucu quota... but her dad and I (ie, me only and will try to convince dad) , don't think we will send them to boarding school yet....maybe at the age of 15? IS this the wrong decision?? I can't imagine not having my kids with me, but my mom said I'm selfish and she is better off with some sort of structure in her life (ie, are u saying i am very kelam kabut mom?? wonder what gave you that idea??) hehehehehe...
So ADNI it is..(it its not full)

Thursday, November 15, 2007


Nadine got 5 As!! Yay yay !!

All nite we could not sleep - ok ok it may be because I was drafting and dad was preparing his talk this Saturday..but anyhoo we could not sleep...

Phew!! Glad she got dad's brain...


Tuesday, November 13, 2007


What would you do if you lose your husband ..

when you least expect it?

when there are so many commitments left?

when you really really need him to go to Pasar Tani?

when you are so used to have someone to whine to and nag ?

when you need someone to laugh at your very stupid joke or observation?

when your kids are bugging you and you need that extra parental support?

when you have a story to tell and best friend can't appreciate it (or its about that best friend hehehehe)

I cannot contemplate it. I cannot imagine to understand what a person would feel. I would go mad ? I would tear my hair out? I would cry and cry? I would slap the next person who tells me I have to be "strong"? I would talk to myself ? Yes I can imagine doing THAT. Just cause you're not around does not mean I cannot prattle on and on about stuff as if you still are. But..who's going to give out the hugs??

Would I pray for time to move faster , so that the pain lessens, or would I at the same time pray for time to stay still, so that his smell lingers around and his presence remains?

I feel for you , "D". For it would seem that you married and lost, your soul mate. And I cannot imagine losing my soul mate.

Plans for the Weekend

Going to Park Royal Penang this weekend

Chillin' hubby has been invited to be a speaker at one of the many conferences that these docs have lah. Waiting for one to be held in say...Boston ke, NY ke..even Singapore ke....(or Korea ke!)

But in the meantime ..Penang is ok.

Hubby in a huff that they wont give us another free room without having to "discuss it" with other people. And our toll money honey! Make sure they pay for that too! And the minyak!! Hee hee hee

I sure hope BPR is not around...

Tahlil pics

The nite before......
the entire family....
Sara as "Nenek" hee hee hee!

Aunties and Uncles...

I thought my uncles and aunties would hang around for a while but they had to go off to another function which it later turned out was a merisik for one of my cousin - who by the way did not tell me lah why??? Anyway all the best and hope everything went well....

Monday, November 12, 2007


Thank you to everyone who made it to the tahlil yesterday- thanks very much we really appreciated your presence. Hope you enjoyed the food- and the company - Sorry we could not chat too much.

Pics was fun but I am wishing I am on MC hehehehehehehehe

Friday, November 09, 2007


Yesterday was Deepavali..Happy Divali to Indian Hindu friends! Must remember to call N*vi in the states to wish her.
Went to Un*cle 's (colleague from office ) house and boy was the food good! My kids ate and had seconds!!!And then went to another house. To eat some more. And then went to cousin's house - and ate some more. There I had to endure comments like "You dah gemok kan??" Ie You are now fat ,and I have no problem telling you this as I am a rude uneducated person hahahahahaha.

I said "yeah I am SOO Fat. but you know what I dont actually care, thats what is bugging me hehehehehhe"

Then the comments were- good lah, you are happy..

Yeah actually, I am. Happy . But what has FAT got to do with it???

Anyway some pics of my in laws pottering abt in the garden - that was my evilllll plan muwahaaa haaahaah.

Children's songs

My kids really like singing. Yesterday in the car they were all harmonising together to the songs of Umbrella, High School Musical., and other teeny boppy kind of songs. Yup, the DVD player in the car is still busted. No time lah to repair. Doesn't help that daddy does not think we need to repair it (except on long journeys when we are reminded of why we had to have a telly in the car in the first place).

Anyway in the midst of all this singing, I interrupted. Oi, I said, Johan is barely 5 lah, singlah some kiddies songs. Its been such a long time since we heard the "Wheels of the Bus" or the "Puff the Magic Dragon" or even "If you're happy and you know it". Singlah the song that Johan likes.

"Sing the song that Johan likes?" asked my daughters."Ok!"

And off they go singing "You're beautifoooolll" by James Blunt, and "Aku memang pencinta wanitaaa..." and then they rolled about, laughing hilariously.

We did get going on the kiddies songs though, I missed babies I tell them and I'm going to have another one just so that I can sing those songs to the baby. So, still giggling , they followed my lead with the Wheels of the Bus etc etc but of course it got modified- the wipers on the bus go swish swish swish etc and then the Sara on the bus goes fart fart fart..

I noticed that my son did enjoy those songs. He asked for 10 little we sang that, (at the end of that Sara added: "ten little Indian boys...and Happy Deepavali to them!!"" Hissh we have a comedian in the family.

Old Mc Donald, If you're happy and you know it, touch your butt (yes, not in the original version I don't think)- I don't know about the kids but I had fun singing to those. My hubby said to me, "But Rihanna is teaching them alphabet- listen carefully to the song- "ella ella "a" "a" "a" ..."" (the comedian's father)


Studio Pic

Remember the chaos that was us trying to take a

family pic?

Here it is!! The entire family on hubby's side...(parents, 4 sons, 2 daughters, 1 cousin/surrogate son, wives, 11 grandchildren...).

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

Day in Court

Well, the court thing went well. Considering that I was prepared for the worst, the fact that he got charged RM120 for each offence was not so bad....

We both looked like lawyers in our suits but then neither of us had any clue where to go. My excuse is that I'm not a litigator ! Nervous gak lah actually. .Bumped into this friend of ours when hubby was at the loo, told him that hubby was going into court and he immediately said "Do you want me to stand next to him??" Oh my god, Ga*nesan, that was a nice offer, but I think the case is too small lah for you. I believe this friend handles major litigation cases. I can't imagine what the magistrate would say if G* stood next to hubby..hehehehe.

They make you wait at Mahkamah Jenayah /Trafik 1 & 2 , and it's manned by cops. It was supposed to start at 9 but by 9.50 takda apa lagi....Hubby and I sat at the public gallery (I wish I can take pics) -I tell you he was the best dressed person there. man!!..over dressed maybe hehehehe. After about 1 hour , hubby's nervousness was replaced with sleepiness (that's the court's trick to calm you down- very considerate of them) & he told me to go off. So I went back to the office.

Later he called to say that he got the jail sentence. Yelah. funny lah tu.

He said the magistrate was this young girl who looked extremely bored. And she did not look at him once. And she told him to "buat rayuan" ie appeal , and he launched into his well rehearsed story about the car and the emergency operation thing and the colleague having called him because of some "kerumitan" - cehwah - that was inspired honey!. Well, it must have sounded kesian enough..although I suspect that the magistrate was swayed by the fact that he has 5 kids (she asked) . RM240 is still a lot actually.

Anyway yang funny to him was the way he was treated after that- he was asked to sit on the one comfortable sofa away from the other accused people- who was told to sit in the dock/. Eh I hope no litigators read this as Im sure I'm mixing up all my terms...hehehe

So that was that!

Monday, November 05, 2007

My husband is supposed to go to court tomorrow. He was stopped without a road tax 4 days after it had expired- bad luck.

I am such a good wife I am nervous for him...

He's currrently listening to Sudirman .

Im reading up on the court's process here :

Apparently its max of RM10k and also jailable 3 months. yikes...

My husband has stopped listening to Sudirman and now practising his not so humble sounding humble apology to the court., I just hope its not RM10k or worse, JAIL. I know you are not a criminal dear but you may just piss the judge off if you tell him "you'll be depriving a hospital of a doctor if you take my car, oi mate." or such like .

So I suggest this is what yoyu say- I was very busy that whole week- scratch that as the judge will immediately think you are insinuating that he is NOT busy. So ok-

"I"m so sorry for this Your HOnour... I was in KK for a medical conference (to which I did not take my wife and hence this punishment from GOD haha) when the road tax lapsed- upon my return I was going to apply - in the meantime I did not use the car . However, that night, I had to come in from home for an emergency operation- and had to use the car. Because it was an emergency and because it only expired 3 days earlier, I plead your honour's clemency in granting me a minimum fine. "

OR In Malay- "Saya minta maaf, Yang Arif , atas kesalahan saya. Semasa lesen kereta tersebut mati saya berada di Kota Kinabalu kerana kerja dan saya tidak sempat untuk memperbaharui nya. Semasa saya pulang saya tidak menggunakan kereta sementara proses memperbaharui nya di selesaikan, kecuali pada malam itu di mana saya telah terpaksa datang semula ke hospital untuk satu pembedahan emergency. Saya ditahan sebaik sahaja saya keluar daripada hospital. Kesalahan saya saya amat kesali dan saya harap pihak Mahkamah dapatlah memberi pertimbangan yang sewajarnya."

How about that....

I think I will go with him lah...
Is this better

Friday, November 02, 2007


My jaws are aching this morning. Makan and borak.

Last nite went to a "gettogether - reunion - farewell" for a friend and former mentor. This guy is positively brilliant and has the character associated with brilliance- ie impatience with less brilliant persons hehehehe- at least this is my perception of him lah, since I always feel I am THAT less brilliant (by many MANY degrees) person. But he really is a sweet teddy bear when the mood strikes him and when its not his work you are screw-er - I mean - messing up. My daughter Sophia remembers his instruction to be an arts teacher and is unwavering in her ambition ever since her discussion with him -see even my daugther Sophia is scared of you, S**..!! hehehehehe.

Place was called "Market*Place"- behind restoran Kampung Pandan which incidentally is NOT in Kampung Pandan - so not a very clever name lah. We sat alfresco and ordered platters of food- basically its steak, lambchops and prawns and salmon all "susun"ed - placed- on a platter to be shared. I think Gauch*o Gri*ll also had the same concept- ?. Food was ok. Company was better- it was soo nice to see everyone from the old firm- most of whom are no longer at the firm- although I do believe the bond will always be there.It didn't feel like we've ever left actually! There were several new people who came along (new to me anyway) - most of the time they sat with a stunned expression - stunned at our loudness heheheh and probably thinking wow thank god I don't have to work with HER hehehehehehe

I had a good time and have to thank the organisers for the dinner. Now Im thinking - did I talk too much??(my main worry everytime after I meet up with my friends) and secondly- did I say anything I should not?? (gulp gulp?) Anyway it was a good night and hubby and kiddoes came along to fetch their wayward mom and wife at around 11 I think....

ok lah no more late nites..
Im such a bad mommy...I have not had a chance to tuck them in (read, yell at them to go to sleep) the whole I will go home early.

BUT WAIT!! Tonite got appointment to meet up with the maid "agent but not really an agent". Ie the friend's sister's officemate who will travel to the other country and bring me someone who is willing to help take care of house and kids for really very little pay . I have to ask her loads of questions about the process and part with RM2000- So I may balik lambat also.

Sigh nevermind, weekend ada.


I ada appointment during lunch on Saturday!!! Im making kimchi with my Korean Drama /BYJ Fan club ( kindly reserve all your comments) girls at the Zone! (What's a kimchi?- shhhhhh...) Im bringing cabbage! Can't be late for that- maybe I can book a room for the kids there ? At least they can lepak at the pool?

Sigh...takpalah , after that...I promise I will read to my kids at least one book for EACH of them, judge their rooms (thanks to Mak Z who told them to have a "best room" competition) and also play with them.


Thursday, November 01, 2007

Parents Day

Oh yeah I forgot to tell you that my parents came over to the office yesterday. Officially they are now my clients. Anyway I had to call in extra help as my dad would not listen to what I was saying . He was telling me that he had eaten a lot more salt than me, and when I was a tiny baby crawling around in diapers he had battled with evil people in the jungle (he was in the armed forces) so don't lah perasan that I am creverer than him one.....

Anyway my colleague told him exactly what I said hee hee hee. But since its my colleague he could not lah jegilkan mata or what hehehehe. Hope we can do the best for my parents' issue. A lot of bad bad people out there kan.

Their interview took so long that it reached lunch time. So I said I'd take them out to lunch lah. I wanted to show off Pavillion - hahaha as if it was my personal property. I myself have not gotten around to see all the shops. I only glimpsed Tan*gs yesterday. And yesterday I had tea with my hubby at this romantic (not) place called Pasta mania- ok that's the next posting.

So anyway we were walking down and my mom was saying eh tak payah susah susah lah - don't trouble yourself. something cheap is ok...I said that if they don't fancy Pavillion, I'll take them to ina*giku, Its just down my office and its really nice and not too over the top lah. My dad said to me kau ada duit ke girl? (Do you have any money ?).. etc etc In the end I said "We can go to the mamak (indian) shop if you want! There's a stall just next to this building." After which my dad said " Babah nak japanese lah!" (I want Japanese) heehehehhehehe....parents , so difficult for them to accept anything from their kids eh.

Inag*iku is a bit of a sore spot for me, having made a scene a few months back- basically I so loved the garlic flakes that all of a sudden , after wallapping about oh- a big fistful of garlic flakes, I heaved and threw up in the napkin (3 napkins to be exact) - at the table- did not even get to go to the loo until everything was over, and I could wipe my mouth daintily , dust off the specks off my kebaya top (eeeuuuuu) and then walk (quickly) to the toilet.... My lunch buddy said I puked elegantly hee hee.

When I went back to the table my tray was cleared by some poor sod whom I was sure would curse me all his life. And I swore - never to eat garlic flakes? Eh no lah.- I swore never to go back to Inagiku until the waiter resigned . Heheheh

But because of my parents and because iNag*Iku is better than the other Jap place here, I terpaksa lah memberanie kan diri..... And stayed far far far away from garlic flakes.

Anyway its nice to be nice to your parents. My parents never accept our dinner invite or lunch invite or happy mothers day or happy fathers day or even happy blinking birthday- everything would be "makan kat rumah mami je lah" variety - dinner at mom's!

Ok lah back to work I go..

Morning musings


Semalam a few things made me laugh

The kids are having their we were testing them in the car.

I said "ok Sara..I have RM1.85. But I want to buy something that costs me RM2.05 . How much more do I need?"

While Sara was mencongakking in her head, Dahlia said to me earnestly "Mummy, I have RM5 - you can have that."

Hee hee hee

Dahlia is a character lah. So kedekut but so generous at the same time. For example, she told me she has donated RM15 to the school's programme and she showed me her "card". I laughed out loud - its a Bacathon card where you are supposed to go and get people to donate..she has written her name down- twice - as the contributor. Hahahahahahahah...


We had a good laugh also , hubby and I yesterday, over his frantic call to me " The car's been stolen!" . Apparently he went to get the car and it was gone. I was like - huh?? Why would anyone want to steal OUR car?? That calmed him down enough to think further and it transpired that he had gone to where he parked the car the day before distracted. Damn it! Kalau tak boleh claim insurance hehehehehehehehe. .


My family on both sides (both sides of both sides) are coming over for a doa selamat 2 weeks from now.. As with my family on mom and dad, and his family on his mom and dad's side are allready big, we did not invite many friends (except those who read this blog and who know where we live and who we did not call directly- please please feel free to drop by- later the better so we can chat with you- email me for details) Anyways...hubby wanted to cook himself and then buy the meja and kerusi you may need if the house can't fit them all. (It can't). I kept telling him- sewa ! Rent ! Why want to buy and where the heck to keep them after that?? So anyway he had scouted for the prices of these tables and chairs etc .

Semalam we went to this shop asking for the price of a plastic chair-RM23!!! rental- RM2.

Hubby turned to me, and said "Let's rent! Kalau beli mana nak letak??"

Hee hee hee...!!

Ok lah its office time and this post has been written before office time (incase anyone from office reads this hahhahhahaha)

Wednesday, October 31, 2007


For the last 2 days it really feels like kampung house at my place. letrik. Two days ago , the houses on our row and the houses in front, all went dark - the husband could not find the key to open the gate and therefore could not come and get his wife from office (what has the world come to when the husband is at home and the wife is at work- he came home early)- I took the world's most expensive cab back and thank god he wanted to take me home.

Anyway yesterday, the house went all dark again. Before I could rant at TNB it turned out that its just our place. Trying the circuit breaker did not work. So out came the candles. the kids had a gala time playing with the api and running their digits fast through the candle light- yeah I'm not surprised as their dad is the King Pyromaniac. Hahahahah..

Now we realise that we can't do much without electricity- nak masak air pun masak in a periuk as I don't have the kettle you boil on the stove. Can't iron or microwave, can't turn on the telly or the fan. Or listen to the radio. I got up at 4 am due to it being so quiet. The silence woke me up! Hahaahahah- camana nak duduk kampung ni. Mandi pun menggigggillllllllllll.

For the first time in I think 20 odd years, we used the mosquito coil..Ah... the smell brings back memories of kampung and my childhood before we got all techno and used electric mats. Unfortunately I developed an allergic reaction to the smoke (CehwaH!!!!) and today my right eye is swollen due to me scratching it like mad yesterday.

Ok a pic of the kids mengaji in the dark.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Maid dilemma

What a pahlava, getting a maid eh.

We are soo reliant on maids... My maid has told me yonks ago that she was going home this year. She wanted to go back for good in June, but I told her I have not found anyone yet. Then I rashly said - Raya Haji you can go back.. and now its almost Raya Haji allready and I have not even made a single application!

I have actually seen several biodatas..but what with moving house, etc etc ,we never got around to choosing one. So now the only one that is left , according to Agensi Manisah, is this maid called Sutiari. She is 26 , husband is 30, not married,. youngest of SEVEN adek beradek and comes from Java- where all rajin maids come from. I don't actually remember booking her, but apparently the agent told me that this maid has been reserved for me. Today I told the agent that I'd like to see a less depressed looking maid holding a tray of glasses please and the agent said - aiyahh takda lagi lah. everyone is taken.

And by the way this lady has 2 children it turns out - and I now am supposed to interview her - I got her number . I passed the job to mom.

(Agency charging almost Rm6000 and the maid's pay is RM550. !!)


There is this local maid agency- ie local maids. called Pembantuanda. Pay him RM2000, and pay the maid RM500-RM600 and then bob's your uncle - the maid is yours. From any part of Malaysia.

So what do you think- local malaysian maid? Have to send her home once a month (hey we do that allready with Minah), have to buy her ubat and take her to doctor (do that with Minah also), have to pay her cash everymonth (yup, with Minah) - HEY MINAH your standard is like a local maid lah!

Anyway I called- sounds good but then there are no maids for the moment- mainly ibutunggal - divorceees...I can see my mom's Worry Cells activated. Sigh I have to have hubby wear blinkers lah like that. Alahai Im done worrying about hubby lah. He has not given my any reason to doubt him, or think that he's eyeing my maid or any other woman for that matter, and I do trust him when he says that he didnt call me from Jakarta for 3 entire days because he wanted to save money...heheheh.. Plus Im drop dead gorgeous what (hahhahahahah!) - Just discovered that my butt is almost 40 inches !!!! Yikes !!!!!! (my receptionist is a tailor who just took my measurements - ok some other day I'll tell you)

Eh eh how did I get to this topic pulak.. ok lah basically that is my dilemma...local or indon maid. Local, wait one month, Indon, wait 2 months. My office mate sorang ni has a brother who will go to Java and get you a maid for RM4000- within a month. Really ah?

And my maid still nak go back in December...

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Open House

Selamat Hari Raya...

It's still going on...the Open House can be fun but it can also be madness if you go to more than 4 Open Houses a day and drag your tired kids behind ...

That's why, as for our family, we've not gone to too many, but we have received guests. I hope our friends know that they do not need to wait for Open Houses to come visit us. Yesterday we had 3 couples over(unplanned) , and I served plain rice and basically everyday dinner lauk/dishes -not very Raya like at all (ok there WAS some ketupat daun palas around courtesy of my mom who knew her daughter would not be cooking up rendang etc since she left the UK and mom was around) and we were chatting until very late.

Today mom told me that Uncle X has JUST called to ask us over to his house but then this would clash with Friend A and Friend B who have issued invites weeks back. So how? If don't go, my dad would definitely feel I've insulted the entire Sudin compromise, will go but after the 2 friends. Sigh..privelege of uncles to invite last minute and expect FULL attendance.

Anyway I read this article about how the concept of Open House is actually not good as it implies that you can only go on that day, and what happens if you don't get an invite? Kan dah kecik hati.....But personally I think Open Houses are convenient for the hosts who can plan how much food to cook etc but OF COURSE you can come over any other time ...only you'd need to call etc. I know the Malaysian way is not to call and to just appear , unannounced, at the friend's doorstep but in this day and age when the "lady of the house" also work and therefore busy also, it's only considerate to call first.

However, there have been times when we decided to visit our friends, uninvited. We do make sure we bring the food etc so that they are not too inconvenienced by our visit and we don't stay too long!

In Malaysia I believe people used to be very malu-malu (coy) - and in general they still are; For eg they won't say "Yes, I'd love one" if the host asks "Would you like a drink"? . If the hosts are dumb enough to ask in the first place I would bet that the answer would be "Eh no lah, jangan susah susah/ don't go to so much trouble..we just ate etc etc". And the right thing to do if you are the Asian host is to go ahead and make that drink any way . Actually, the right thing to do is to serve that drink without asking them.

In the western world, SORRY'd be taken at face value and you'd leave the house with no drink or food. Hehehhe serve you right. Nowadays though I have been honest and said "Thanks very much, I would love a drink etc etc" - Western training? Or is this the better option? I'm rather proud of the verbal dance we Asians use. Heheheheh.."berlapik" as they say. Subtle and for you to read between the lines.

Whatever it is, do come over whenever you feel like it. Call first though then I can cook for you!

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Semalam pi Madam Kwan at Pavillion- had their mushroom chicken rice- Yummmmmieee.

Eh dia pakai apa ah? What is Madam Kwan's secret ? Everytime we go there for lunch (everytime meaning twice) there is a loooong queue.

Of course in our culture , we believe that there are such things as "Sweeteners" or pemanis, ie mumbo jumbo that makes your shop more attractive than others. I don't know whether such thing exists or not. There are too many anecdotal evidences of it happening. I don't find it that hard to believe that we coexist in this world with other beings, some good and some bad..and I think that people can do very very bad magic if they know where to look, although what happens is all God's will and there are reasons for them. I have heard of people who dabble in magic and the dark arts (some, in the milder cafe latte arts- not so dark heheh) - heeee i don't dare lah.. what if it backfires?Someone said sometimes when you appear too happy others may look on you with jealousy. Sigh happy pun tak leh ...camano. I value happiness over anything else and have recently told my kids that the richest man on earth is he who wants nothing. They nodded agreably while they count their Raya money.

Ok ok im blogging during office chow...

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Don't have any idea what to writelar.......

Dr Sheikh M is back.....

My kids malas buat h-work.

bye bye.........

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Random views

The swing which is now sparking white.
Outside the kitchen.
The forest at the back.

the kitchen.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

High School &*#$@! Music*al Part 2

Aiyooo... all of my kids, from the 12 year old one, to the 5 year old one , know the lyrics to the songs of HighSchoolMusical2. From Johan singing his heart out about batterbatter swing(some baseball swing), to the love duets between Troy and Gabriella . They even memorise the CANTONESE versions of the songs ok!!!

The DVD player in the car is busted, but not to worry , the entire journey was HSM2 miniconcert. What I found funny was that they know how to harmonise! Sophia takes the low note and the high notes by Sara. Hee hee.

Anyway we go along with it. Maybe Im the parent of the Corrs. Who knows eh hehehehehe

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Family Pic

"Johan you had better not drop that camera boy!"

Practising the pose for the photoshoot. Hahahahaha!

Hmmm mak buat apa tu???

Since everyone was around for the first time ever, Bro In law no 1 hit on the idea that we should take a big family pix. Somehow or other all 6 families cooperated and even youngest dentist sister came back from her husband's family place in Muar to join us . After Maghrib we got organised enough to leave the house and followed directions to a studio- no one had the foresight to book ahead hehehehe therefore we found that studio 1 was too small and so we rushed to studio 2. Rushed as it was Maghrib!! The 2nd Studio was better- took about 20 shots I think. We all ordered a photo for each family - so hope to be able to hang it up real soon!

Raya Pics- Finally- Kluang!!(Day 2 and 3)

The Princess Aludya Fayha....
Makan and more makan...mak brought out everything.

Aaahhhhh..thats the best thing about having sisters in law....hehehehehhehe (sorry !!) - we came strolling in when everything was done - hey but we stayed back to clear up kan kan kan?? poser kids. In front of the house.

Majan's Abode

Majan's House.

really nice and co-ordinated

I'm going to change my curtains.

Raya Pics- Day 2 (kluang)

trying to post picture at majan;s house.

arrived at mom's place in Kluang and was shepherded out almost instantly hahahahahah- to Cousin Mazran's spanking new house.

Ray Pics - Day 1 (pm)

Chatting - Bro in Law is NOT staring into space- there is actually a TV there.
Kids and their cousins the blue family.
Mak M and Mak Z...(so much for anonymity eh)
The (ever) loving couple.
The ever elegant hostess and Auntie Izreen her daughter (holding Angpau packets - what kids look forward to)

Raya Pics - Day 1 (afternoon)- Dad's brothers

Raya is for lepakking isn't it. All the brothers here (except for the youngest from my 2nd Wan) - and where was my (only) auntie?We used to be so small..
The guys bonding outside ( that's what they call smoking these days)
Trying to organise everyone for a family pic.


Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...