Wednesday, December 31, 2008


Tomorrow 2009!! yay yay!

Bye bye 2008.....

Memories of 2008- leaving old office. Meeting new friends. Losing my grandma, my grandaunt and granduncle.


2009- nak jadi scriptwriterlah pulak. Nak sambung Arab. Nak kurus. Nak jadi anak yang lebih baik. Nak jadi mak yang lebih baik. Of course, nak jadi wife yang lebih baik...Nak tulis "Confessions of a Malaysian demented wife".

Happy New Year everyone....

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Compatibility per the Zodiac

Romantic Compatiblity: Aries (Kristen Stewart) + Taurus (Robert Pattinson)

Aries and Taurus is ME and HUBBY!!

(Just thought I'd post this up...not that I believe it or anything but of all the "analysis" so far, this is the truest. We do both want to lead the relationship ..and compromise is essential. And there IS a lot of passion and he IS VERY SLOW. although I take offence at the "brash and totally unsubtle" tag- who , ME??)

When Aries and Taurus come together in a love affair, the partnership is a natural union of Love, represented by Taurus, and Passion, represented by Aries. This relationship is all about balance. Aries wants to jump right in and get into it, while Taurus prefers to go much more slowly. This can create a problem; Taurus loves to be wooed and romanced -- two concepts that are basically foreign to straightforward, brash, totally unsubtle Aries. An Aries-Taurus partnership can be a great learning experience for both Signs. Taurus can help Aries rein in some of the more foolish, impractical impulses, and Aries can help Taurus be more spontaneous and adventurous.

Taurus is sensual, patient and gentle. Aries is attracted to these qualities; Aries sees Taurus as their rock, totally stable and loyal forever. Taurus sees Aries as possessing that quality they want more of -- knowing when and how to grab on to life's opportunities. These Signs are a good balance for each other. Aries might sometimes play games with Taurus, playing off that Bullish laziness, or try to push Taurus into making hasty decisions, but the Bull can usually convince the Ram to slow down a bit. Aries brings excitement to the relationship, while Taurus brings security and romance. When Aries wants instant gratification, Taurus can show just how sexy and sensual slow, deliberate movement can be.

Aries is ruled by the Planet Mars (passion), and Taurus is ruled by the Planet Venus (love). Venus and Mars go well together; they represent the two necessary halves of the same relationship coin. The symbols are universally recognized as masculine and feminine, so this relationship is a good balance of these energies.

Aries is a Fire Sign and Taurus is an Earth Sign. Aries wants to take charge of their own destiny, while Taurus needs to be assured of security and stability. Sometimes Taurus can be possessive, which independent Aries won't tolerate. If Aries can assure Taurus that the relationship is strong and that Aries isn't going anywhere, Taurus can be as flexible and tolerant of independence as Aries needs them to be.

Aries is a Cardinal Sign, and Taurus is a Fixed Sign. In this relationship, Aries is not going to get their own way no matter how hard they try -- so it's a much better idea not to try at all. Taurus is a Fixed Sign that won't budge; Aries will get much further with finesse and charm (Taurus is a real sucker for both) than with argument, since Taurus never loses a debate. Both Signs want to be the leader in the relationship, so compromise is essential.

What's the best aspect of the Aries-Taurus relationship? The passionate nature of the partnership. This is an excellent balance of energy between masculine and feminine, impulsive and deliberate. Their contrasting personalities and ability to learn from one another make theirs a mutually giving and satisfying relationship.

Physical: 99% Emotional: 99% Intellectual: 72% Total: 90%

Monday, December 29, 2008

Nak Bagi ke Tak?

Maid wants to go jalan jalan with friends.

My sisinlaw Intan has sounded me out 2 days ago that her maid told her, that My maid wants to go jalan jalan on new year.

I said NOOOOOOO. Somehow the idea of my maid walking around shops unaccompanied by moi and getting up to all sorts of mischief made me very nervous.

My sisinlaw was relieved because she also said no to her maid and she was going to say that I said no too.

I waited for my maid to mention it- takda apa pun.

Then yesterday morning as usual I asked her "what's new with you" etc and she said her friend has asked her to go out , to town. The friend is working in a restaurant and she told her friend that she can't go and also that she is not as free as the friend. I said not as free but a heck of a lot richer. She has nearly a grand of unclaimed salary with me ( I give her as and when requested otherwise we have a slip- I never did open any account with her but her money is instantly available to her lah) .

I know the question that she did NOT ask was if she can go out with this friend. So later that day I told her, you know I feel very funny about letting you go jalan jalan in KL the same way I would be feeling funny about letting Nadine go. She asked me why. I said both of you live in my house and I take care of both of you. I take care of you for your parents also. To let you go around unsupervised....when KL is so dangerous. You may be meeting men, or what., I don't even know your friend. That's why I'd rather send you to your agent/adopted sister's house and let her take you out rather than let you go off on your own. this is not your country some more...dan sebagainye....

The only way I can think of letting her go is if I drop her, meet her friend, get their handphone numbers, then pick her up say 2 hours later.

She said Ok lah tu kak.

Eh did I just say yes ke?

I asked hubby who is by the way always on the side of the maid , and he said- bagi lah it should be ok.

I spoke to mom who said no. Discussed with mom how my maid is not like the submissive kampung maids she used to have. Maids nowadays budak bandar, pakai handphone, naik lrt. etc etc. Tak takut and tak suka kena peraaaaap kat rumah...karang tension. So far dia kerja bagus, macam pekerja lah. I pun boring gak kalau I kena duduk rumah

Apa pendapat di sana.....????

Sunday, December 28, 2008


today my baby brother Shah turns 26.

Happy Birthday Shah!!!

I remember when mom was pregnant with you. She was throwing up in the bathroom and I went and asked "What's wrong???" . Dad , who was with her, turned to me and said- "Don't you learn Ilmu Kesihatan?" I was 14 then. no,at that age, I had no real clue about the mechanics of babies and the making of one. A state I would like my children to be in, if truth be told.

Anyways , mom and dad acted very embarrassed about it because she was old- she was (GASP!!!!) 36. Oh my gawd here I am contemplating having another child when I'm 40 and at that time mom thought she was old. The youngest then, Sazzli, was 7. Mom did like to space us out a bit.

As a 14 year old I had to help take care of you. I remember feeding you with your bottle - mom said you never graduated from a 2 ounce bottle ever. Er?? ye ke? Anyways you grew up to be an adorable toussled hair baby boy. Where DID you get your curly hair btw?

You went over to visit me in the uK when you were 10, remember? All my friends loved you especially when you sang "When I see you smile" by er Bon JOvi. So cute...I think I took you strawberry picking. sorry lah that time I was very the angau with your brother in law.

You got into St John, before you left for MCKK at age of 15- can't be fun, joining boarding school midway. All the others would have made friends, But you survived

I did not imagine that you would be the one learning Japanese and going off to Japan. You were my baby brother and mom's baby and destined to be pampered all your life but you took the hard road- respect lah bro! Now Abangpol will get you to read anything japanese. remember he bought a tin can of polish and it was in Japanese and then he got you to read it and it said "Black" and his car was silver? Terkkejut dia...that was so funny.

Now you are 26, you are still my baby brother. We know that you cannot be nagged too much as you will get stressed and harrassed- you do not have my capacity for fighting back hehehehe you just absorb quietly and then go mad- like mom and like saiful heheheh.

We all love you, we are very proud of you and we are STILL going to spoil you rotten.

Happy Birthday !

PS Bila nak ada girlfriend ni? Dah 26 !

Friday, December 26, 2008

Last Wednesday

Wanna hear something bizzare?

Serendipity moment.

I was going to meet my friend N**. Okaylah- NUR. Anyway she was my colleague in the previous firm, before she went off to the U*NH*R. (The boss called ME and asked if I wanted to do the job since I had after all sent in my application, but then since that application was like 4 years before, it didn't really apply to my current needs. :-))

Anyways. She went off to do the refugee thing and discovered that she was naturally talented at it. She is anyway very intelligent although she said the silliest thing sometimes. I had that in common with her plus a sense of the utterly ridiculous and we'd spent many hours merapu-ing.

She's now pursuing her Masters in the land of Nestle.

So where was I..ok so we had an on the spur of the moment date- 3 p.m at P*avill*ion. I was at the car park , keys in hand, about to approach my car. Deep in the bowels of Ampwalk basement carpark. Suddenly, HONK HONK.

My parents!! In B2!!

Of all the times for them to make a surprise visit- although I had always asked them over many many times for lunch etc etc.

So mom and dad heard where I was going, and they said, they'll send me.

So off we went to the Pavillion. I was allready late, so I walked a bit faster. I said come and join us ok. Mom said- go ahead lah, I want to go shop also. So i sort of skipped to the Loaf and went upstairs (N was waiting on the upper level)

I was a bit anxious but figured my parents would catch up. If I was totally honest I was hoping that they'd go shopping for an hour or so before they decide to join us. We have not seen each other in 6 months and she had IN-TER-ES-TING non parent friendly stuff to chat about. Mom said no lah she didn't want to intrude.

of course my friend looked amazing. All that Swiss Air kot.

I had sat down not more than 5 mins when the seafood pizza I had for lunch came up to bite me and I had to run to the loo(eww- TMI?).

We finally ordered a latte. (read- tooexpensivekopisusu) and we settled in for a lonnnnnnngg chat. I was half anxious thinking of where my parents were but trusted they were ok and having a fantastic time shopping.

Suddenly! I saw my dad and mom approaching,my dad shuffling towards me.

"Kau pergi mana girl?" he said, irritably, "Babah jalan tengok tengok kau dah hilang!" (where did you go? I was walking and then you suddenly disappeared!)

"Er..hi babah!" I said,"come!come!" A bit unsure whether the friend would mind having a tete-a - tete with me, my mom AND my dad. "I had to run to the toilet tadi" I said.

It turned out that when i walked ahead, they had missed the turning I took and they took the escalator straight to the upper floors.

Dad was allready looking around for a chair. Mom looked so embarrassed - she kept saying "Takpalah, let's go, leave the children"

"No lah, aku nak minum ni" my dad said.

"I thought mummy pi shopping?" I asked.

"Mummy nak, babah taknak" mom said.

"Hmpph, malas lah aku, nak beli apa? " My dad retorted, "If you don't have anything to buy, tak payahlah buang masa"

Totally did not get the concept of window shopping then hehehe. kesian mom...I nak gelak pun ada.

"takpalah mom, come and join us lah, bukan borak apa pun, borak kosong je..." so we had the waitress organise extra chairs and we included them in our conversation. My dad pun interviewed my friend (yeah, my talent came from him) and she was bless her, gracious about it. Her dad knew my dad's brother -they were from the same school. She was asked- whether she was married, why was she NOT married heeheeheh- er-sorrylah ye N.

(Afterwards, I apologised for the intrusion of privacy and she said your dad is just like my dad- my dad is annoying. I laughed - yes, my dad CAN be annoying I said, which earned a long "I didn't mean that" and "your dad is FUNNY, MY dad is annoying!" hehehehehe- s'okay. I know what you mean!)

Sigh....My dad- if he ever leaves us,there will be a HUGE vacuum that no one and nothing can ever fill. He is such a personality, so sure in his opinion, very funny and yet very serious, the ustaz and the lecturer all at the same time. Plus I can never talk to him without arguing with him, you know. Why is that?

Anyway after they had coffee mom insisted on leaving so after reassuring themselves that my husband would come and get me safely (yes a bit sheltered, aren't I) they left. And I went on chatting for another 3 hours.

hee heee- just wanted to tell you my date with my friend, And my parents.

Tag- 16 Random Things You (Don't) want to know about me

Directions: Once you’ve been tagged, you have to write a blog/Facebook note with 16 random things, facts, habits or goals about you. At the end choose 16 people to be tagged, listing their names and why you chose them. Don’t forget to leave them a comment or tag them in your note to read this.

Thanks to Shana, you guys will have to be prepared for sixteen random stuff about me.. here goes!

1.Hmmmm..first up apa ye..I'm very chatty? WHAT a surprise eh? I can't stop chatting and think everyone is interesting and really don't have any guard to put down or up or whatever. At the same time I'd be wishing that I am less "bubbly" and more "proper". Waaaaaahhhh!I'm screwed up!!!

2. They called me "Goldfish" at Alevel college. well, one guy did anyway and it kind of stuck. Apparently due to the plumpcheeks. You think?

3. I went to Standard 1 at the age of 5 - this was in Labuan and was obviously because I was too much for mom to handle and better off in school. Boy was I an active child- Labuan was lovely...playing football with the guys, pergi belajar sembahyang kat surau pakai kain batik (ikat kat belakang), buang rotan my dad kat hutan belakang, kena kejar dengan dentist around dental clinic....aaaaahhh memory..

4. I cut myself badly twice. Once in Labuan, trying to open my "keropok udang" with a huge sharp knife - the keropok udang was a prize for coming in 6th in a race - eh, menang gak kan. I have no athletic bone in my body is that my fault. Anyway I sliced across 2 fingers, and for the 1st finger (middle finger) they stitched it up at the clinic, but for the 2nd (index), I had to go to hospital. Second time I dropped my opah's heavy duty scissors ONTO my foot and had to again, be stitched. Operation-one for a gum that did not stop bleeding (that was when I was 6 - couldn't have been fun for mom) - one for a taring in middle of mouth, and 2 D&C

5. I have been pregnant EIGHT TIMES. When you think about it, I am such a scaredy cat , my husband used to have to take my blood for the blood tests himself when I was pregnant and yet I thought nothing about having babies 8 times. I lost 2 between Nadine and Sara and one was after Johan. I suspect they were boys.....tak kuat!

6. I wrote once, long ago- I managed to type out 3 manuscripts while waiting for SPM results - one was a soppy bizzare lovestory about me and my friend Ogy who went to this University for our summer jobs and I fell in love with one of the lecturer at this university- who was...RajaNazrin hehehehehehehe. (hey, who was ever going to read it??) The other was about me and Zu on a LoveBoat kind of scenario. All very chaste- I SO can be Stephen*ieM*eyer hee hee. Now, no more imagination lah to write anything.


7. I stayed for a year in Melaka - Kem terendak. My best friend was Hemalatha - I used to sell daun gajus - from the tree depan rumah I. Cikgu -cikgu beli. Ada yang siap nak bargain lagi. With a 10 year old? Bagiii lah sedekahkan, aparah. Best friend I masa primary tak pernah melayu.

8. I love anything paper and pen- I used to make and sell greeting cards. Sebelum I had kids I used to go read cards at Memory Lane all the time.

9. I took French when I was in Bedford with hubby- not very good at it, and husband loved to say "Robert nest pas la"(sorry Bella spelling salah) Robert is not in and called me "jambon" a lot because it sounded cute - until I put my foot down because it meant ham. entah apa apa entah.

10. I am veryyyy forgetful. "Tak balik penang for raya?" I once asked. "tak lah sebab saya orang Batu Pahat"was the answer- is one of my classic booboos. Yet I can retain useless information for years.

11. I keep trying to sew. When I was in Adelaide tunggu hubby potong a lot of possums for his research project, and taking all 5 kids with us and living like paupers ok, PAUPERS- this Philipina lady taught me to sew for a while but again, I am very bebal and tangan very KERAS so tak jadi sangat. So fiddly lah, sewing. Kenaaaaaapa lah mom tak masukkan dalam SRT.

12. I drive barefoot and I sleep naked. No I don't (sleep naked I mean) but just wondered if anyone is still reading this drivel hohum hee hee!

13. I cannot eat hot food. I had tonsilitis since I was young and always had to miss school and it was always "we'll operate when she turns 12" and then I turned 12 and then the thinking at that time mercifully changed to NOT operate on tonsils. Hubby does not believe me as he say adults do not have tonsils. I do, so there. Lauk lauk I semua "putih" ie tak da cili.

14. My thumb can bend backwards. This is verrry fascinating to my husband who thinks I'm a freak. Sophia can do it too. I can't roll my tongue though. All my kids can.

15. I nursed my children until they were past 1 year old. All of them. Nadine was the longest. Sorry.Johan was the longest. Hence the outofshape boobies heehheheheeheh. Plus I used to raise the kids from one handbag- botol pampers etc semua sumbat dalam myhandbag. No such thing as baby bag. Hippie.

16. I got kidnapped kat Pasar borong when I was four, while mom was pregnant with my brother Saiful and also while I was waiting for her to buy kuey teow. I got dumped in a corner and mom eventually found me. And I love kueyteow.

So there you are. 16 things...if you read it all the way through, thank you. Who do I tag?
(mainly my cousins)
1. Aida
2. Azwan
3. Izreen
4. Izan
5. Lana
6. Noni
7. Aishah
8. Haq
9. Kitchenguardian
10. Fulltimemom- can do it in FB what....
11. ThankfulMe
12. RoyalShoppingArcade!
13. You, AnONY!! come on, Manveen you can do it!
14.Lala in Lalaland
15. Mumsie!!!!!
16. My husband if he ever has the guts to appear online hee hee hee.

Ok hope everyone will oblige- then we can learn more about each other!

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Thursday Diary

I have not had the chance to blog at all.

What's been happening ye...

1. Sophia has got the worst version of chicken pox- she has the most and the biggest spots. I said - Sophia, you are the worst struck. Johan said- yah Sophia, you are a truck. As of today she is up and about and feeling better but boy I hope she won't be marked for too long- she is the fairest of my children pulak too.

2. Mom and Dad's house is 95 percent ready. Today is cleanup day. Hubby pulak on call and brother went to work in the morning and so did his wife. So in the end it was me, my maid and my kids. Dad was NOT happy but then when my dad does any work he usually likes everyone to be working too..heee hee sorry dad! So much to do, the workers removed the plastic covering that my mom had carefully put so that now everything is dusty and I spent the first half of the day wiping things up and arguing with my mom about what to do first. I told them just finish upstairs first lah mom. Mom pretended to agree then the minute we had our back turned quickly got the maids to resume cleaning downstairs duty

3. Now I am at home, having been chased out of my parents' house to take care of my kids and my brother's kids - my worry is the 1 and a half toddler who is now sleeping peacefully and is usually very very clingy to the dad. Oh yeah, thanks to DadofFourplusOne and KitchenGuardian who have kindly agreed to hire out their maid to me for a couple of hours. My dad buat dialogue drama pulak when I told him this - tak payah lah susah kan orang, kita ni ada...

4. I am obsessed with things Twilight,it';s supposed to be for teens and I am nearly 40 and a hopeless romantic.... so shoot me.

5. Yusuf the toddler is awake and how to take care of toddler agaiin?

6. Oh yeah we were talking about having no 6- if it is a girl we'll call her-- Nisa Selena... in honour of our carr....hehehehehehe.

ok the crying is worsening...byeeeee

Monday, December 22, 2008

The MakcikBloggersMeet

Makcik Bloggers met yesterday at one of the hotels in KL.

Best words to describe the meeting?

Kecoh!!! Havoc!!! Fun!!! Unexpected!! Surreal!!

Unexpected as no one seemed awkward with each other (I'm sure I spelt awkward wrong) .

Surreal because we'd be mentioning stuff we read in each other's blog - personal stuff which is weird because you are essentially, strangers! I for one, am known now for my romantic trysts with hubby despite having 2 such outings in 2 years but hey hubby now that I've put it out there, you have got a duty to make it come true ok least once in say six months.

Anyway everyone was soo friendly. Ada je connection. Hubby of WS is the same batch as brother of Principal. The "Mother" (Ibu ler tu) works with MrsN's and MTT's friend (and my classmate for 2 years).

At the end of it, penatmuka senyum and penat mulut bercakap. True to form I went home worrying whether I had talked too much (I had), and whether I should have shut up (I don't think that was possible). I pray I have not offended anyone though! (Cakap sedap mulut je kan hehehehe)

We ended with promises to make this regular- KAYleeda.... your turn!

Now who is going to let me have some pictures.....?

Saturday, December 20, 2008

chicken pox- 4 down 1 to go

Dahlia and Sophia are now down with Chicken Pox.

YEsterday maid wanted the weekend off. Today is her birthday. Our present for her- A prepaid card and trip back to her agent.

Sophia and Sara were also going off to their cousin's house for a sleepover. Sophia especially, was very excited. When we arrived home, she announced that she had packed.

When I got back, Dahlia grinningly told me she had chicken pox- she showed me some spots on her face and back. No wonder I thought she was slightly off the last couple of days.

I thought- ok, so next is Sophia or Nadine's turn lah. I checked Sophia nonetheless and was surprised to see A SPOT.

No staying over at cousin's house lah!

All of us went to Kajang to send maid, and then went to Brother's house. Hubby was absolutely adamant that Sophia cannot sleep over even though she will only be with Yana who has had ckn pox, and even though Sisterinlaw Intan said it was ok. Her other 2 sons, yasser and baby yusuf, havenot been exposed before.

Sophia merajuk and nangis teresak esak...I would have let her go but yah, I guess it's not a nice thing to do, if we leave her. Guarantee kena the other 2.

Sisinlaw kept saying takpa lah, takpa lah. She'll be with yana je.

What would you do ?

So we went back, adn i LAPAR GILA. Hubby so sweet, drove all the way to A&W and went to queue for food. He is not big on demonstration but he does all these stuff which I really terharu. Small stuff like, I have to go to a client's office and knowing how hopeless I am with directions, he would fill up the car to the max. More often than not I would get lost anyway.

So anyways back to these 2kiddoes. I have to mandikan them air semambu today.

Nasib baik jugak depa kena in school hols now.

Friday, December 19, 2008

Joint account

My husband and I practise the joint account system.

It all started years ago after we got married. He was a Junior House Officer in the Uk and I was following him , happily abandoning my legal career indefinitely in the process.

So the first week there, I was basically incomeless and had no cash ler.

Anything I want, I can ask my ahem- husband (teruja sangat dapat title baru)

But I found, asking for money , to be an unpleasant process. It is never refused but it is often accompanied with "Why?"

So I told him, I need access to your account.

Mula mula face reluctance..tapi eventually the wisdom of it prevailed.

Hence, the joint account.

Obviously all the expenses come out of the account and there was no issue as to what my contribution was because I was not working- but I paid inkind lah...heheheheh. Eh, I used to iron mamat punye baju adalah 20 helai sehari ok..I cooked all the time and was basically the isteri mithali. Yang I herannye now, how come I was not bored? I was happy as a bee.I had no friends of my own, my world was basically him and his friends - oh yeah, and our existing friends yang dok UK. (this was the early years of course.) After a while I took French, and got a clerical job (Eh duit gak tu) which did not last too long as it was too clerical lah. (masa tu sombong sikit...sekarang doing the same clerical job but under different name, ok je)

But I managed his finances le. I would be paying all the bills, tukar credit cards, arrange for his taxes etc.

When we got back , he and I continued the joint account process. Still sole breadwinner . After a while, I got work too and the moolah went to the same account.

Anyways, When both of us worked, we never sat down and discussed- you pay this and I will pay that. E-veh-ry thing came out of the same account. Keluaaaarje. I didn't have the thought that Rmxxxx out of that is mine and I can splurge.

Even when I had to open a different account in a different bank (following the company policy) the account would be joint.

The upside is, we don't quabble about money. Always no money tu biasa lah.

The upside is, we always tell each other about our expenditure. (usually me lah since I yang belanja benda merepek selalunye) . One time he forgot to tell me he had taken money out up to the daily limit and I was in Johor Bharu and when I went to the ATM I could not take money out-erks!! So this telling each other is verrrry important.

The Downside is...neither of us has any money of our own! Although I have another account which I try to put some saving into- he knows this ler but at the moment account ni macam dah nazak je.

So when I give money to my mom, she thinks its my money and when he gives money to his mom she thinks its his money, but actually , they are wrong as it is OUR money hehehehe

Tu lah ceritanye......

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Les Majestueux

(Hope i'm not unwittingly funding terrorism or child labour with this)
Anak anak I dah besarlah.

I just read Sophia's journal and its full of "today was the worst day " or "I am so mega bored." there's one entry and it said "today is 6th of December (refer to the above)" . "refer to the above??" what is she, lawyer in training???

I hate it when I read that they had a bad day or what. Of course they don't tell us that they had the worstest day ever. Maybe because I don't give them a chance , what with the yelling about have you had a bath, how come you are STILL on the computer.

Maybe I should lay off my kids eh. But then I have very few rules- mandi, makan,sembahyang, buat kerja skolah, that's it.

Of course, you are going to tell me, i should not read the kids' journal. Well, yes if I was a mom somewhere else. Over here in my house, all diaries are compulsory reading - only in diaries/journal you get to hear your daughter speak as she does to her manglish.


Tomorrow taking kids to Twilight. Finally. I went to tanjunggoldenvillage and bought 2 adult tickets and 1 child. Taking Nadine (she has been SO NAGGING me- EVERYONE has seen it mummy! So what, Nadine) and Sara . Sophia Dahlia and Johan moaned when I told them, they're not coming. Should I take Sophia then? She won't appreciate it. Maybe dad can take them somewhere. Maybe I'll take Sophia to the office tomorrow.
Spend mommy daughter time together. I know she'd LOVE the shops!


Yah, there are several very interesting stalls down in Ampwalk. One selling bricabrac, books lah, CDs, artwork, and stones. So far I have bought one very nice (to melah) bracelet. The teenager is such a sales person. She would match stuff and recommend stuff and promote stuff to me. And she loves me because I am not asking for discounts. Yah, I'm stupid.

Anyway her mom is also selling very good non-ori bags. I tak berapa gila brand sebenarnye. But her mom brought over some nicebags with double initials. Siti's favourite. So we looked lah. I am not a fan of the monogrammed version, to be honest. I'd prefer the epi leather. I LOVE the epi leather. tapi nak beli ori, mahal nak mati...Tapi tak suka nak beli tak ori...

Konon konon if I ever buy, it'd be an ori lah. Ori anything lah, tak kesah lerbrand ke or what. It's the bag not the brand. I don't care that this version costs like rm14,000 or what at the shop. do I like this bag or not.

So anyway yes I do like one bag. Its a non-ori doubleinitial bag. As a bag, its very nice. Leather, White. Big, can put my cute laptop. But the tag is rm700. Mahai woit!!For a non-ori bag lak tu.Ok ok you get the picture right.

yayaya I should treat myself right, I work too. Well, I have been treating myself just fine. there's the sunnies, then the make ups also branded . Yang bestnye hubby tak pernah get himself any expensive stuff - and we have a joint account so I don't feel that it's my money or his money.

meanwhile the girl who's selling this tak habis habis confirm auntie ambik ye auntie?

Auntie angguk jerlah......

No willpower.

Monday, December 15, 2008


I was pondering where to go, in the end we drove out to Pedas(Podeh), Negeri Sembilan. Or rather, Kg Sungai Terap. Before we got to the kampung proper we explored the area, which when I was a child, was inaccessible due to lack of roads. All I know was my Wan's house was "this side" and Atok's kampung was from "that side".

To get to my kampung (Wan's) you have to head to Kem Bina Negara Pedas. From the main road, turn in. Usually we would, after about 15 minutes, turn right at the tyre announcing Kg Sungai Terap. But yesterday we went further on, to Atok's "side"- we saw many other roads with the tyre mounted on a board announcing their kampung names. We went into one of them and the makcik pakcik out there gardening smiled at us thinking who the heck are these ppl with their noisy car.

I thought- hey, you could be my relative!

Hubbywanted us to stop and play in the anak sungai - I didn't think it was a good idea as the anak sungai he suggested was off the main road- if you go in all the cars can see you.Eh malu weh. nak carik proper tourist place but my bladder was screaming. Kesian ...

I think hubby liked the kampung. It's actually quite scenic, set in a valley with hills at the back, he mentioned that people should turn Rembau into bali (godforbid). Banyak sawah padi yang dah kering. River everywhere. (one runs in front of my kg house)

My kampung actually consists of ONE road.Semuanya wan dan adek beradek's houses. Beratur next to each other. Sekarang occupied by their cucucicit and anak beranak - but atleast occupied! If I bump into them in the market tak kenal- Selalu kena tegur- Ni Shilaaaa ko? Anak PakCik Kasim? (nama terus tak glamer- Shil-AAAH-bukak sikit mulut).
Sampai je rumah kampung, terus tengok pool. Alamak, colour PERIDOT- lime green. It did not look as if we could be swimming . My cousin the present president of the Sudin family club said that her mom had put in the chlorine that morning. When my brother arrived he said that it was probably ammonia she put in so we dumped some more chlorine in. The pool was doing a pretty good imitation of a pond. Ada frogs, ada frog eggs, ada dragon fly.

Kesian Tina, sisterinlaw's daughter who stayed with us yesterday, she wanted so much to swim. Tapi hijau anak oi...dia siap bagi idea suruh buang air kotor, lepas tu taruk lah air bersih, apa susahnye auntie ni bodoh tol... (I'm trying to train them to call me Maklong - tak melekat sofar)

But pool or no pool, kids being kids had fun nonetheless, pandai pun main "Musang" (or our version of What time is it Mr wolf) , main cards, main sorok sorok, Riuh gaklah rumah papan tu, dengan my kids, and SIL's 2 kids, and my brother's 3 kids- riuhhhh..

I had the same type of fun when I was younger- kalau ada cousins lagi naik hantu- pi sungai lah, pi curik ciku lah, main polisentry lah (I baru lah tahu nama dia Police and thief). masa tu rumah tu my dad's cousin duduk (aka adopted sister) - until her husband and her got the LabuSendayan windfall and then she upped and left and built her bungalow down the road and severed ties (what was THAT all about). Makan is nooooo problem.

It's really nice to see the kids use their imagination for once. Taknaklah their childhood memories consist of "I main PS2" or "I pi tengok wayang" je.

We left about 6 pm.. kena tutup rumah semua. You feel such a connection to the place your grandparents lived, your father lived...

I would not mind coming here more often.

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Sunday Blues

Every weekend dok pikir...mana nak pergi ?

1. Kemas rumah sana. Dah setahun pindah tapi barang banyak lagi kat sana. Orang nak sewa pun tak lalu nak masuk, punya lah semak.

2. Pi FRIM- dok hujaaaaaaaan je?

3- kemas rumah sini- I need to sort out the clothes that the kids can't wear any more.

4. go see parents? They are at some wedding or other.

5. picnic? see reason no 2

Actually I really feel like going to the beach- maybe we can do that. Even though it may rain.


You know, ever since I can remember my mom has been telling me to save . RM10 or RM50 per month , at least. I never had that money to save! How can I possibly think of saving when I have creditcard bills/rent/this and that to pay?

This guy PAKDI at the website: makes it sooo simple - pay yourself first!!! And save!!!! We're now devouring his simple to understand, witty and honest articles about simple ways to manage your money. Save and force your self to save.

Why didn't I listen to my mom.

Saturday, December 13, 2008

An Inspiration

Yesterday we visited my husband's auntie.

It is rare to meet someone like my husband's MB. Not to sound very membodek, but you need to meet her. She is - inspirational. She is always upbeat, always positive. She always has projects and the thing is, she carries them out! You hear of people who talk about what they want to do and their ideas, and still talk about the same ideas the year after. Me, being one of them. MB does them, and follow through. She is always energetic! What does she take? I never see her down for long.

I never see her down lah, basically. From the first moment she met me years and years ago, she came across as a very warm , very happy person. To be honest my perception of Johorean women was garnered from my uncle's wife who is a bit on the cool side(maybe to her niece only?) but Auntie MB put shot to all that.

And another thing I liked is her style. She is never rude or crass. She has a way of telling you exactly what is in her mind, without having to raise her voice a single decibel. A skill some politicians may well learn. I'm sure she gets angry or upset too but she handles it , and achieve what she wants to achieve.

Wouldn't it be nice, if there are more positive people out there, who, when faced with adversity , take it as a challenge, don't whine to all and sundry, but get results,and always bubbly.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Stuff that happenned in our house.

Hari tu kitorang pergi KL Tower

Sorry lah sebenarnye camera dah rosak so tak da gambar. I think kena beli baruler-- how much was your birthday pressie Izan?

Anyway tak lah plan nak pergi, dah nak maghrib pun. We were around my old school the Bkt Nanas area and dah nak balik, but entah kenapa tiba tiba husband terbukak hati turn the car to KL Tower.

Seronok sakan anak-anak I. Thank you adalah 1000 kali.

Best jugak kat atas, maghrib so the sun was setting and the citylights were being turned on gradually. It was really pretty.

KLCC look so close! Especially seen through the binoculars . Nampak balcony semuanya. Maid tangkap gambar pakai her handphone.

Of course, tak makan tak sah kan, so we got the kids and maid hot dogs each.

After one round I dah penat (laa..) so nak balik.. I sempat gi masuk the duty free and bought the teddy bear yang amat lah cute - siap pakai jaket lagi . Since I cannot buy for one kenalah beli 5 - nasib baik RM10 each- and Johan gets the biggest one (sebab ada 4 different varieties of the smaller ones so each girl got one type)- I told him he has to share with me.

They all pun namakan the teddies- entah apa apa nama- booby lah, harry lah etc. Johan's was Harry. So anyway the next day at work I got this call and Johan nangis teresak esak. I sampai tak dengar what he was saying. it turned out, his teddy lost its nose. Ada ke? Then after 5 minutes of this very menyayat hati's cry, he quieted, Kak Ning has found the nose.

When I got home, he said, the glue that he used was not strong enough. Dahlia then said she has a superstrong glue. Laaa awat tak kata. So I told her, lend him the glue. Ok lah, semua beres.

5 minutes later Johan datang lagi kat I.. complain...Dahlia glued the nose upside down!

Dahlah, I told him its ok and it was only his imagination that it was wrong. he is now clutching the bear whereever he goes.

He has never had a bear before. Hence the extra kejakunan.

Whereas the other mini bears?

Sophia's under the chair. Memang lah nak bagi mummy naik hangin.


This morning one of our MANY MANY cats hurt its tail. My husband told me and I refused to look at it.. After the gym we went (sans me) to the vet and was told that his injury in the tail is now infected, there are maggots in it-- eeeewww and he may have to have the tail cut off a bit. And he's staying in the hospital of course. Husband kata ni mahal ni. ye lah , better cat than kid right .

This is the cat yang gender confused. Dia menenen other kittens even though dia sebenarnye JANTAN. I read it up, its normal.


The other night hubby picked me up and we went to - RE*dBo*x . Hee hee...rasa sungguh naughty since the kids thought we were caught in the most godawful jam.
EMPAT jam nyanyi ok...makan and then nyanyi some more. sampai serak -serak. The other other day , we checked into Traders for the night. Mengambil kesempatan as hubby has conference the next morning nearby. Ahhhhhhh bliss to have the bed to myself.


Baby Alive dah mati- erps takda bateri. Now in Dahlia's cupboard and not Sara's as Sara has sent her there and call it her "hotel". Hari tu I balik, mengamuk as the Baby Alive pakai plastik bungkus ayam. Rasa macam dah cerita je? Anyway soon after that they put the clothes back on. And dahlia kata Sara made her scoop back the "poo" out of the potty into the bowl as the poo is the food that comes down je, and she did not want to waste. Hee hee. pandai anak mak.

They complained that the baby is so needy. Dah makan, sebok nak wee wee. Pas tu nak hug all the time. Tu lah, nak jaga sangat.



You know the expression "Forgive and forget"?

Or the dialogue- I forgive you but I will never forget?

Usually applying to some heinous crime or some unforgiveable hurt done by one person to another.

How nice it would be if we can just - forget.

No need to forgive lah, just forget. Or alternatively, remember more. More of the good stuff - so that the good memories we have with that person who hurt us, can overcome the bad memories.

Sometimes we cling to these wrongs very jealously , not willing to let them go and bringing it up whenever say, we need to do something nice that involves that person. We may say- yah, but the other day so and so was so rude to me, so why shoulld I help her now? Weapon maah...

You may well be justified, that person may well have been rude/etc etc to you but.what are you going to do about it? Takkan nak bergaduh or berdendam sampai tua? silaturrahim is very important isn't it.

In a family trying to sort out the estate of a loved mother/father who has gone , for example, more often than not, it's not that it cannot be done, it's that the siblings refuse to get things done - reason? So and so has done something wrong, Or, so and so should be the one to do this and that, because he was the one holding the title/account book/pension book. Hurt feelings, suspicions etc, fester the longer the estate is not sorted out so that one kain batik missing pun can be an issue kan??

That's the problem sometimes, we have too long a memory. And in the meantime, things don't move.

Another thing is the ranking. kakak tua cannot lah apologise to adek. adek lak, refuse to do the same. How? When will the issue get resolved?

Tu lah, sometimes, it'd be nice if we can forget a bit more.

not forgive, but forget.

Sunday, December 07, 2008

Kedekut or Careful?

What to do ye?

Daughter no 4 , the careful one, is very careful with her possessions. (Cicit wan dia, and cucu Auntie Yot dia haahahah) She is not letting her sisters borrow her books. They want to read her DumBDIARY and it's just a flat no from her. No reasons given. So they steal it from her. And she comes and complains. I tell her to share. But should i force her to share? I tell her, if you don't share, then others will not want to share with you- then is the message, do something nice so others will do something nice to you? (what's wrong with that?). Still no go. So I asked her, why don't you want to let Sophia read your book?

She won't put themback, is the answer. So I tell Sophia, Dahlia has the right not to lend you her book, but if you want to borrow it, keep asking nicely and if she puts conditions, follow lah. And be careful with her book. For example, she hates it if you fold the corner of the page just so you remember the last page you read.

So, Dahlia finally agreed to let Sophia borrow. But she is making her sisters run through hoops. After I eat, lah. After I do this and that many things to delay. In the end, I saw Sophia finally reading it, NEXT to Dahlia, under her close supervision.

But then it was nearly midnight and I forced them all to sleep.

NO wonder Sophia cried hahahahahah.. Kesian. baaaru dapat baca, dah kena tido. Takpa, tomorrow masih ada...

But since I have not heard any more complaints, I guess the problem is over now.


Landslide in Bukit Antarabangsa

"Retiree’s hopes dashed on seeing hand clutching mobile in rubble"- a father called his son's handphone only to find it clutched in his hand, his hand sticking out of the earth.


"Enough is enough" says PM

Those are just a few of the shocking headlines yesterday. Thank God for Star Online.

I have long been disturbed, distressed and bothered about the rate of development at the hills of UluKlang. And I'm not alone. I don't blame those who live there...we all want the environment and the peace, I totally blame the developers who perhaps,should have sought for other lands to develop, or did not disclose totally that it may be unsafe, or did not take 500% the measures that they needed to take to make it safe. It's not right that hills are levelled to an inch of their life in Ulu Klang area - and continued to be levelled -just because they can.

Well, the rants of individuals, have gone unheard. Ulu Klang area continue, as we speak, to be developed. red angry earth greets you instead of the green trees that the developers use to sell. We have houses by the river, houses deep in the forests, houses on slopes- such steep slopes that you wonder whether they can stand the test of Malaysian weather. All very prestigous houses, mind you, all very expensive. On the way to work you will find me hyperventilating to see the hills and the bamboo trees uprooted to make roads for the tractors. Also hyperventilating to see how Sime development continues to regards the pockets of land and trees within Melawati as temporary landbanks , which they will turn into more office and shop lots (which we obviously need desperately).

We all know why this goes on- MONEY. Money has changed hands, loads of money will be made. Everyone wants to live next to nature, regardless of the cost TO nature.

Well. God has a way to drive the message home. Innocent victims had to suffer loss of loved ones, loss of property, inconvenience, all before Hari Raya. I suppose aptly, it is Hari Raya Korban, as they have sacrificed. The outcome is that PM has said Enough is enough, and TPM, (the more powerful man) has said, NO MORE development on hills. If, these 2 announcements become and stay true,then the sacrifice is well worth it. As was quoted this morning in the Star, someone said ,in 3 months time, the tractors will continue.

In front of my house there is a hill, and allready I see development on it.Hey, my montly payment includes the view ok?? Jokes aside, the development has caused the river to be red with soil (and you wonder why there are more flooding) Behind my house there is a slope, so everyone slept in myroom last night in case the hill decide to visit us while we sleep.

And not just here. Lately, Gasing Area, Damansara Area...everyone is telling the authorities and the developers, STOP and preserve the environment!

Wonder if they will listen now.

Friday, December 05, 2008

Hey there

Johan has chicken pox...

now at home, being miserable.

husband says the ubat that ppl tell me , cant be given to him as he is a child. It's supposed to surpress the spots.

Plus, he has a tooth coming out at the top of his gums. really really high up, on the upper gum. Have to take him to - jeng jeng jeng...the dentist. When I was 6 I had to have surgery sebab I had a tooth protruding where it was not supposed to , in mycase, in the middle of the roof of the mouth.


saw the site yesterday for the landslide that covered 11 cars. Actually had to pass it, on the way to a client's house for signing. Hubby sighing why I don't make t hem come to the office, as he has to be my chauffeur and wait for me. Come to me, you will not have to lift a finger hehehehe


Joke of the day I got:

Five tips for a woman...
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.
3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you.
4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.

Foot Note:
One saggy boob said to the other saggy boob: 'If we don't get some support soon, people will think we're nuts.'

No, i won't send it to women i know.


Oh by the way, that email where there is a pic of a burnt baby called Alexandra and if you forward the email teh parents get 3 sen? that's a hoax so don't lah forward it ok?

And ,I think if you forward stuff, must make sure delete all the earlier emails, what do you think?

Ok time to go back to work.

Thursday, December 04, 2008

happy birthday SARA!


Sara, now that you are ELEVEN,mummy and daddy think you are a BIIIIIIIGGGG girl. So no more crying over not memorising the Surah surah and we are NOT going to let you ponteng again just because you did not do your homework was the last time okk....You have to be responsible for your own homework, your own room, your own kasut sekolah, ok? Sekarang dah besar. Eat more, as well! Hope you don't look for what you don't have and instead appreciate all that you DO have and you have a LOT to be thankful for.

Sara , we don't tell you enough but hope you know that we are proud of you, we think you are a wonderful girl with a BIG ambition and creativity, and we know you will grow into a beautiful young lady who too too soon, will no longer need her obsessively protective parents!. In the meantime, enjoy playing with that BabyAlive as long as you can!

Happy Birthday Sara sayang!

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Kids' Day with Mummy at Office

Ok- 3 kids in office is NOT a good idea.

Yesterday morning felt sorry for jojo,and took him to office with me. Why i felt sorry for him was the night before , he went to the loo and then came up terrified and when I asked he said while he was in the loo he "imagined" that I knocked on the window and then I was chased by a hannnnttuuuuu . He really cried and was really scared. I told him to think of something happy. Imagination pun nak takut ke?

Anyways. I dropped Nadine and Sara at Arabic class, bought some food and drawing pad for jojo and off we went to work. He was quite good, sitting alone with his psp.

then I had to go get the kids. So off we went and after getting them, everyone had a M*c D lunch . Sophia and Dahlia, who were at home, also got their order in. Dahlia made the order and said she wanted a fish fillet and Sophia wanted a spicy chicken *m*c deluxe.

Sampai rumah, Sophia nangis...she had actually said she wanted NON SPICY chicken. Teresak-esak pulak tu. Tak sampai hati pulak...suruh dia makan fish fillet dia takndak.

So off we went, Sophia and Johan and I , to work, via Mc D. Dahlia pun ikut on the grounds that I had asked her first to come to work with me (?ye ke?) and anyway she is ready. All three of them promised that they would be quiet, and not run around, and also would do their Bahasa malaysia exercises. Which they brought along with them.

Once they arrived...walawwwww... All three of them sat for a while in my room. for 10 minutes.

After 10 mins........

1. They started to run around
2. They wanted milo
3. They were hungry
4. They wanted to use the computer to play games
5. the PSP died.
6. Every time I left the room when I return Sophia would be playing some game on it.

In the end we put them in the spare room - then I moved them to the meeting room, gave them paper and closed the door. Haa peace and quiet. Sorry lah Haq hope you dont mind.

Then,they emerged. Lapar. And where was that milo? I took them all to Secret Recipe, they had a cake each. No way was I going to get them SecretRecipe Milo , so I bought milo and made them a cup each. They all had their cake and milo in the meeting room and declared me the best mom ever! Better than daddy!! Highpraise indeed!

They let me work for a while- then I saw paper planes cruising in the office. their big drawing blocks made big paper planes.

We left when dad picked us up at 7. I made them pray and thank goodness they can go to toilet by themselves.

Phew! One kid, manageable. 3 kids- pandemonium!

Monday, December 01, 2008

Good Morning.

Hi there....

How was your weekend? We went back to Kampung , my family, my parents, my brother and his family and my husband's brother and his family. It was good, there were a total of 10 kids in total and they had a good time swimming and basically lazying around. My husband showed his kerajinan yang tak disangka sangka by mowing the lawn. We pay some person money everymonth to mow our own lawn and yet balik kampung jadi hero. Discovered that the land belonging to atok (and now, auntie, courtesy of adat pepatih that gives all harta pusaka to the girl) extends to the bendang sawah opposite the house. Talks of developing it into a say, lembu business , ke or apa ke, by my excited hubby, was dampened by my realistic dad who told us it's complicated as the land is in the name of my auntie so can't just do what you like with it. Land eh- it's always messy.

Ok. back to work. Johan is with me now, having thrown up twice this morning, once in the car.. He's a happy bunny and is now with his psp which I told them I will send back to the shop if they get corot in their coming exams.


Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Snap (I should be) Shot

Yoga- what is the big deal.

The one that goes "ohmmmmmmmm" and teach you mantras- I've not come across those in the fitness centres. If ada style like that- APAKEMENDA TU ?? memang lah haram. Ish kena ada fatwa ke?

the one that goes "lets all try to lift our butts on one finger" - er that one takdalah haram kot?

eh I rasa the Fatwa said the same thing kan? So what is the kecoh?


Other religion- Alaaaaaa I know, janganlah kecik hati..Just because I don't eat pork or drink does not mean I am insulting you lah..Kita kan kawan...relaks ler brother.

Why can't he just accept that this is one's faith and belief and leave it at that? Take it from one person who has spent years justifying why don't drink and we can't eat duck liver pate in five stars michelin restaurants okay...omputeh tak insulted ponnnnnnn?


Fatwa on penkid- is this tomboys or lesbos or seriously tomboy gals that one sees as waiting on tables at Pavillion where you wonder dia ni pompuan ke laki ni?? If yes, and you are the fatwa majlis, are you going to sit around and say- oh well this is just too too bad, but what to do! If I was a council I would also want to address this gender bender issue. Effective or not, I have to take a stand then I can face God with a clear conscience. Hey , if my daughters wear pants, shoot me if I mind. But if my daughters start to bind their breasts and walk with a strut and have girlfriend, well. Just shoot me.

Sorry I am very backwards, I suppose. Gals should not have relationship with gals and guys should not have relationship with other guys. if you want to justify that love is beautiful, then we should just have relationship with any old thing that moves- one's favourite sheep for instance (euuuuuuu)

For guys, to like other guys- that is just plain cruel ok mate. There isn't enough guys to go around in the first place without us girls having to fight for the cute ones with a MAN too.


Quantum of Solace

Last night sempat lagi tu pergi tengok this long commercial for Sony Ericsson. The plot- well that is the plot - the hero has to spend the entire length of the commercial (cleverly disguised as a movie) - looking for a plot.

And James Bond has superhuman strength. I langgar pintu pun boleh lebam, dia jatuh berapa floors,ok lagi tu.

And ppl in Bolivia etc have no curiosity at ALL. When they see ppl walk through with blood on the baju, they're totally blase.

And M, the entire deal on James Bond is he is licensed to kill and there has never been any "issue" about this ?

Although it would be nice if James stop and think- why am I doing this again? Er..cause all me brains have gone to me - er muscles.

BUT HAVING SAID THAT!!! I totally enjoyed it.

Hee hee hee. And now I am really yearning for a new Sony phone lah.


Monday, November 24, 2008

Sara, don't read this posting.

Sara is going to turn 11 this coming 4th december.

She has put this list on my computer called "things I want for my birthday " or something like that. No 1- Rabbit. No 2 Baby Alive

Tsk this baby alive thing....last year she also asked for it. Her auntie aida promised to get it for her. I thought..wah sporting lah Aida ni, benda tu mahal oit.. They finally went shopping for it...and when Aida came home with Sara she managed to talk her out of it.

And this year, it resurfaced!!! Aiyoooo...

You know what "Baby Alive" is right? It's a doll that can talk and pee and poo . It costs, from nearly a hundred bucks to RM260 kot. That does not include the price of its mega expensive diapers. Sister inlaw has one and a couple of months out of the box, it does not look like it costs what it costs ok.

And any way Sara should be way way too old for BabyAlive.

Yesterday we went to Alamanda to celebrate BIL's birthday and also fulfill my girls' demand for clothes. ("We don't shop lah mummy....!!) Ohmygawd I have girls I forgot I have to shop like every MONTH. We were there,without the chiken px inflicted girl, and we decided to make up for it by buying her presents.

I told the kids that they can choose a present each and I'll pay for it lah.

Johan chose a denim wallet. Nice. Her sister likes blue, he said. Dahlia chose a scrapbook . Nadine has no idea. Sophia came carrying a Baby Alive and said "sara wants this, mummy". to prove a point, she called Sara and Sara said yes, she'd like one. daddy said NO. Nadine said NO. I said...alahhh bagi lah if not she will continue to pester us next year when she REALLY will be too old for it. And I remember my one unfulfilled wish when I was small- I wanted a DOLLHOUSE. Takdapat puuuunnnn.. sampai sekarang terkenang kenang heh heh.

So I said to hubby- Beli lahhhh sekali sekala je ....and lepas ni dia tak mintak dah...

Hubby I said- ok lah. then we went to pay, Then hubby said- yang murah sikit takda ke? and we started to look at the range- ada yang boleh pee tak leh poo. (to me, good thing that). Sophia called Sara "Sara,do you want the Baby Alive with the toilet?"

Hmph jawapan mestilah Yes lah kan. So mummy took over "Sara, kat sini macam macam baby alive nak wets and wiggles tak?"

Sophia took back the phone "OR do you want the one with the toilet?"

Hmmmm we are smelling something very fishy.Sara ke yang ndak awak yang ndak Sophia oi?? Heh heh. Sara jawab- "Iwant the one that can do a lot"

Ok lah Baby Blardie Alive yang do both business it is then. nak sejukkan hati hubby I told him, it's a lot cheaper than having the real one!

So we went back armed with loads of parcels and showed them to her and then told her that we cannot give to her until her birthday proper!

She did beam a lot and was furiously writing in her diary later on that night (I know lah)

I guess she's happy! I am either (a)a cheapskate parent or (b) spoils them .

Sunday, November 23, 2008

The Saturday

Sophia and Dahlia came home last night- FINALLY! They went to stay with my brother's family three days ago. Thanks Pol, for taking care of my babies, apparently they had a blast and went bowling and to Aquaria. In a way it was good because Sara was at the height of her chicken pox-induced misery. My sis in law said it was interesting to experience having 5 kids (they have 3 of their own).

Good to have all my children back with me. Today can take them out somewhere, Although Sara is still quarantined at home (poor thing).

Yesterday we were supposed to go to (a) H&Y's Doa Selamat and Anniversary do and (b) my BIL's birthday do. All this after hubby checks his patients out, of course.

What actually happened was...hubby came back at 2 in a cab saying the car is at the workshop. Then we left by another cab, to the H&Y's house for the Doa selamat. And hubby left me there and went straight to collect the car. And at about 5.30 he came with the car to fetch us from H&Y's house. Then we went home to drop the kids as it was decided that as we couldn't bring Sara out, we won't bring anyone of them out with us to Epa's house.

Then, we found that my parents had arrived at our house. A bit later, my brother came too to send my daughters back. Maghrib and chit chat before you know it, it was dinner time and we adjourned to the kitchen to cook dinner. Dadadididududu- they left at 11.30. It was good to have my family around me , and I notice my brother and I are now in the "make parents happy" phase.

of course, we missed the party of BIL- today we are thinking of going to BIL's house if he's in, to give his present.



Saturday, November 22, 2008


I read this article in the Sun recently and it talked about dreams. Daring to dream, and how, over time as we become adults, we lose our dream.

Got me thinking.

Yeah I was one of those who put down safe options in those thingy they make you fill at school- doctor, lawyer, psychiatrist (i loved to listen to ppl's problems so I thought)

I suppose, I would not mind being a published writer. Write a book that ppl would actually read. Hahaha. Travel the world (How original)- and stay in one place for at least a month (just read A year in Provence- bestnyeee). Learn Japanese, Korean, Spanish, Arabic (amboii banyaknye, English pun tak pass), be a counsellor (still love to listen to problems); be an actress (seriously. Anyone wants an old 40ish plain old fat woman as a bit actress?); be size 8 (this IS my dream kan) .

Are those considered dreams?

Friday, November 21, 2008

No time to Blog but.....

1. Sara has bad chicken pox. Blisters are everywhere some are scabby. She is very sad and depressed. We got her calamine lotion even though husband was caught muttering that it does no good whatsoever and we should wait it out.

2. Dahlia and Sophia are with their cousin. God knows how I let them go off, but they wanted to spend the night and now 2 nights at my brother's place. Ok lah.

3. I am dead bz doing an agreement which is very dodgy.. get letter from them to release me from any liability QUICK!!!

4. met a guy for coffee last night. he kissed my hand. Pretended to be ok and sooo suave but actually...eeeeeee!!!!

5. Have to respond to comments made by friends to earlier posts. Sorry guys...memang my dad dah cool down dah..

6. Going to Spore for Anniversary. MAS flight for 2- RM1700. Tiger Air- RM300 . Eh???

7. Happy Birthday EPA!! Epi thinks your birthday is today whereas I think its tomorrow. And considering he is your brother this is bad.


Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The earful

I just got an earful from my dad just now.

the gist of his long and heated lecture was that he and my mom feel hurt and neglected as we have not been to see them. We did not ask them how their renovation works are going at the house etc. We are too taksub or obsessed with our lives. We don't ask them about theirs.

Sigh..I told my dad whatever he said, is true. I'm sorry that he felt that way, I suppose we are so so busy during the week and during the weekend. Actually I talk to them every 2 days and we spent a whole weekend together at the kampung the Sunday before last. last Sunday was Cameron Highlands.

But at the same time a part of me is smarting at the unfairness of it all. Could he not put himself in our shoes for one minute- we are chasing time we don't even know where the time goes. If we're not doing things, we're crashing out from doing things. I'm not saying that it's right, I'm just saying that's the way it is. Family commitments and grocery commitments.

My conversation with my dad was a jeckyl and hide thing- certain parts very submissive (when my rational part of the brain kick in) and other part sarcastic and indignant(when the temper and the need to defend self frombeing attacked, kicked in)

My gut reaction is not to talk to him ever again!!! (hahahahahaha!!the spoilt brat). But what I guess we will have to do is to go see them tonight. and eat humble pie. (Eee susahnye) No matter that I think my dad is very quick to see what is lacking and very quick to judge. They are my parents and they deserve better. And they CAN yell at me and Im NOT supposed to merajuk (sebenarnye- eee merajuknye sampai hati you say that I tak sayang you dad. Tak sayang betol betol karang baru tau haa)

Hmmph! You just wait kiddoes. when we turn 60 this will all happen to YOU!!

School Hols Blues

1. Barely a week into their school break, my children are allready wailing "I'm booooooooooooreeddddddd". Sophia keeps asking "can we GO somewhere next week mummy??" Nadine tells me that her friend has invited her to go to KLCC Skybridge today. I asked her to get more details as in, who is chaperoning? No such thing as leaving my precious bundle for whom I had laboured for 2 days in the hospital , at the door of KLCC ok.

Sara unfortunately is not well.. her left lower eyelid is swollen and painful. Hubby went to get some medication for it, and declared it either a bite, or some eyelash stuck somewhere. Anyway hope it will settle soon.

Dahlia is well but complaining that her ulcer in her mouth popped and therefore it hurt when she reads. Eh? I did not get the connection - until Ustaz came for their Quran session- oooohhh she is in too much pain to read. But she did anyway.

I am thinking of enrolling into the UIA quran lessons ler. Apparently having spoken to my friend D*a*d*a, there is such a class for adults - I asked her, is it embarrassing? She saidd there are even ppl who cannot read at all! Also I should go for a bit of formal tajwid lessons as well. Can't have my kids tellin me abt all the Mat Asli (Who, you say? OK come to class with me) and the ifrak hakiki etc etc..malu ler beb...

Johan is Cameron Highlands he hardly came to sit by me, he was that happy playing with his cousins and following his most favourite cousin ever- C*a*m*arina. She is a real lady's lady who, my sisinlaw Zu tells me, has a lot of admirers. But this is of course a secret that Johan will kill me if I tell you-ooooppps too late.

2/ Anyways my friend has just come back from a gorgeous honeymoon at Pangkor Laut resort and the entire day yesterday had me drooling over his trip. The thought of being able to read and sleep by the beach...heaven. Another heavenly thought- unlimited food. I've never thought of it but actually its quite stressful having to think about PAYING for things kan? or , if you go abroad, not being able to eat the steaks etc because its not HALAL. Where they went, the food was prepaid, in abundance, very good, and halal. Ahhhhhhh.. Neeway,we will sort something out soon re: hols.

3/ Just got a call from a friend who wants me to CHAIR a conference. Chair?? Mula mula suruh bercakap- i was not that happy as I am not the authority on that subject- boleh lah kelentong but then takut tak tau lak orang tanya...and now he wants me to chair....2 days conference!! Mak oiiitttt....

I said ??? What the heck, just do it. Gulp.

Ok back to work guys....

Monday, November 17, 2008

In short

No 1- takziah to Lin on the passing of her husband , Ghazi, yesterday.

Lin's parents stay next door to my in laws. Every Eid we would go visit their house and vice versa. tak Eid tak jumpa lah. The mother came to stay over a couple of times at our house. And yet, we have been the world's worst friend ever . 6 months ago he was diagnosed, and hubby helped him see the right people and get the right diagnosis, and thereafter, we did not go visit him at all. It was always a case of "we were going to". But with our busy busy life, entah apa yang busy na, we didn't manage to. So now that he has passed on, we (I, rather) am beating myself up no end that I didn't get to visit him and his family. Lin, we will be there for you and your family. And to everyone, don't put off visiting your close friends when they get ill. I can die from the guilt but I will however buat muka tembok when I go for the tahlil tonight. I hope she will be given the strength to deal with his going and her supporting her 3 young children. And now I will also nag my husband to stop smoking. JUST because most smokers don't get lung cancer, does NOT mean you won't ok .You know it, and I know it. Once it happens, you have so many lives that will be affected. Your life, is held on trust for your kids. Ok ok lecture is over..Yes, a surgeon smokes. He should, his wife drives him crazy you see hehehe.

No 2- just got back from Cameron Highlands. for those who want to go to the UK but have financial or time constraints, go to Cameron Highlands. Now. It was wet, it was gray, it was cold. What more do you want? UK lah tu! hehehe. Sejukk woooooaaahhh. And hujaaaaaan je. And Dahlia got sick. And TNBBUngalow was really really nice. Nanti ada gambar I post it up 'k. We all balik dulu leaving the others there because my hubby has patients to see (at the new hospital - yay!)

No 3- had a chat with cousins over the weekend. Talked abt our hubby and their ego. What do you think, I think all men ada ego, even the most laidback and the most lepak yang macam kena queen control. They give us face, and they take our abuse, and we don't even realise that we are ordering them to do this and do that and take care of this and take care of that, sekali comes a time, the tiger awakens (usually around 40) and they show their taring and THEN!!! You will be ter"kedu" and realise that yah, hubbies need respect after all. So girls, no matter how cool your hubby is, accord him the respect that his status as husband and penanggung dosa you , should have. And I believe guys change when they get married sebab they feel that they are now responsible for anak orang. good guys lah, losers will probably think- yay! Aku kawin!!

the end...see you soon.

Thursday, November 13, 2008

And the Award goes to....

(this post is more a rambling and probably wont make sense)

Today was the Performance Day of the Kids.

Nadine was getting a prize for being first in class
Sophia was getting a prize for best in English and also was performing asong and dance or what. I MISSED IT!!!! I went to send Johan and sara home.
Dahlia was getting a prize for being best in Computer Studies, best in English, best in the entire year 2 and first in class. I MISSED IT TOO! Same reason..
Johan was performing as a prince and getting best in English and best in Akhlak . I saw the performance but went to the car to keep his clothes after the performance and by the time i came back i had MISSED THE PRIZEGIVING ceremony!!!!

There should be an award for the most BLUR mummy around. That would be mine. I would win that.

I called hubby wailing that I had missed the performance and he said - KENAPA BALIK?? he was in hospital after coming for about half an hour. I said - well, i sent the clothes to the car and sat for a while DOING MY WORK!!!while waiting for the kids to finish their LOOONG drama. Who was to know that it was not that long after all?? I went to send Sara and Johan because they were getting so restless during the special awards and spilled water on each other and the place where we were sitting was looking like a mini tip, and they were going through the special awards of which there are so many - So I took them home and also on the way the petrol was almost ZERO so i stopped to isi the minyak and when I went back to the masjid where the performance was held my friend was coming out and she was saying - WHY DID YOU TAKE SO LONG???? SOPHIA WAS SOO GOOD!!

Waaaahhhh!!!! Waaaahhh!! ralat terkilan and I had waited from morning pulak tu

Oh well...and the ditziest mommy award goes to.....

Sara by the way was not picked . She should get the most improved award as far as I am concerned. Of course she was very upset . But I had to tell her Sara , your time has not come yet and god is saving the best prizes for her if she want them. You have your own talents ok. You are funny , write stories, cartoons comics, etc.

In the end there was yet another award for best performance. Sophia came 3rd. And Maizurah Hamzah was one of the judges and she came to the podium to comment on the standard and seriously I felt like we were at One in a Million or something.

I like it that this school is so holistic and gives out so many award. I like to see the secondary students being so pleasant and so confident and they look so happy! I like that they have 32 nationalities at that school.I like it that the kids' ambition are no longer just nurse doctor lawyer but GLOBAL FINANCIAL CONSULTANT, AERONAUTICAL ENGINEER and all sorts of strange thing that 13 year olds normally have not heard of. Oh yeah, they achieved 25% 5 As. Congratulations. !

I think if money permits, we'll keep them there lah.


Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Nobody likes lawyers

What do you call a doctor who comes last in his class- ?

What do you call a lawyer who comes last in his class?

hee hee.!

Truth is, who loves us lawyers? We are considered most of the time, unnecessary expense- bayar accountant, bayar travel agent, bayar etc etc ...can, bayar lawyer macam eh, maleh nye...after all rubber stamp only right...everything got i believe that Uncle who told me before I started my degree , that LLB is actually an acronym for Lama lama bodoh! Tee hee hee.

And if we are appointed by other ppl to deal with you, our popularity rate goes skyhigh. I am getting a barely civil to you email dripping with hostility because our appointment was shoved down their throat. Or maybe not, maybe it was a simple email but I need drama in my life so I'm making it up, hee hee.

Whatever it is though...I like lawyering. Ok it's no 3 choice after 1. writer and 2. stand up comedian, but it's not that bad.

Although i probably would make more money doing what sophia thought I do when she was 3 and she told her teachers at kindy that I was a "lo-lo- lorrydriver".

hee hee!

Monday, November 10, 2008


Just came back from another getogether of the Sudin clan- to welcome the bride and groom to the kampung. We cooked them a bigg lunch. I went to rembau market in the morning with my auntie, sheepishly admitting to her on the way that I don't usually do the wetmarketing stuff- hubby does it. I'm not a primadonna but I have a super mom who does everything. So now I train my daughters so taklah kekok macam I nanti ok?? (sounds so ngada ngada but there you are) .

The lunch was good as usual...ada lah cerita dibelakangnya where a lot of ppl are tersemput dengan another person over some breach in protocol and perception of being discourteous etc etc..alahai my family ni kalau tak da tersemput atau tersenget...tak sah.

Today kids are at one Mosque at taman Melati as they have Talent Day which apparently is the "heats" for the real performance day this Thursday. Good luck kids! My girls have allstarted to wear the hijab when they go out with us - their choice.

Ok blog later. Got to finish something.

Saturday, November 08, 2008

My Gucci and Prada

Report Card

It's REPORT CARD DAY today...

I didn't get a chance to go grill the teachers because hubby left in the wee hours of the morning to go to the HOSPITAL and then he went straight to the SCHOOL and guess what he left his phone at home so I could not nag him as to his whereabouts (smartmove honey) and then he came home at 1 pm with an armload of exampapers and report cards. In the meantime we know we had to go to a tahlil but he allready went from the way home from the SCHOOL. Ok so all our social tasks today, has been done. except we have to go to PD for a tahlil / doa selamat this evening.

Anwyay back to report cards....

Nadine and Dahlia got no 1, Sara got no 5 and Sophia got no 4. No changes there.

HOWEVER...there are too too many Bs on the card, mainly on BM and also in Maths...
The teachers commentd that there should be more effort put in by the girls although they have done "excellently". Hubby is NOT happy especially when Sophia's teacher told him she has not done one BM homework since March. Free free je cikgu tu kena marah sebab KENAPA tak beritau...?

So now, as usual, we have to do post mortem. Senang je nak tau kenapa tak do better- tak belajar what. And too many distractions- and not enough structured learning. Sometimes I kesian gak sebab their school habih around 4 and they get home by 6 , so macam kesian lah nak hantar tusyen lagi lak..

Tapi for Sophia and Sara I think kena lah..BM 67 marks is not good ok. still the teacher said prestasi yang baik. Prestasi yang baik amende tu. So we are sending you to tuition ok girls. It's a tough world out there yadiyadiya mummy pun dah malas nak leter.

And it does not help that mummy and daddy ashik "merendek" je and balik lambat...
And I will check their bag every day. Ya ya ya ya memang selalu kata nak buat but then after a while we lose the momentum.

And ASTRO is out ok girls..until we get home.

And let me think of a time table for the Wed, Thursday and Friday nights that you are free.

And Nadine maybe you should go to a boarding school now now now.

Friday, November 07, 2008

Haiiiii..its Friday again....

I kat rumaah...yesterday we had my hubby's only remaining link to his late grandmother- the brother. 75 and very fit. Another one. The older generation ate healthier food ke? Or do more work?

In my case feel about 80. My memory sucks. I have not told you (because of my deep embarrassment to open the pekong di dada but what the heck) that I went to my neighbour's house for Raya the other day. He is a prominent lawyer. I know who he is. I did my research on him last year. But last year the open house was soooo crowded and we did not get to talk to him at all. This time round I thought the same, I did not count on him plonking himself in front of us this year to talk to us. So knowing who he was, I was nervous ler. This is what I said:

"So..You're with Zulrafique kan? "

And this is what he said:

"Yes. The firm carries my name."

URghhhh . Yah - he's Datuk Zul Rafique. And I knew it pulak tu. Why did I say that.

"Oh of course lah", I continue to put my foot in it, "your firm is very good (in a patronising tone)" - DIE SOME MORE!!!!!!

And the other day, wedding Anny- I went up to this group of ladies and gents. And Mak B was there and she said, Shila do you know who this is? Frankly no, but I heard someone mentioned Tajol Rosli so I said yah of course! but sorry today everyone is uncle or auntie.

Silence. from the NOT Uncle and Auntie.

I should shut up on some days.

So if I reach 40 with the brain of a 40 year old I would be happy.

Wednesday, November 05, 2008

Breaking News

My eldest daughter has become a WOMAN!!!

Mixed feelings- happy for her. Scared for her. She can bear children now yipes- where do I get chastity belts please?????

Oh dear Daddy......!

oh yeah. breaking news no 2- Obama is the new President.
Whew! I've just arrived - I'm the despatch and stamping office boy today.. apa nak buat, kerja. I'm just happy dapat siap everything before 10. We started with a new bank which wants things that are not legally required but want me to do it their way. It's no use and there is no point to reassure them that NOT doing it their way is still legally ok. Just do it as instructed. Sometimes having a brain is a hindrance.

Anyway. I saw my eldest Uncle yesterday, Uncle Junus. So chuffed as he gave me RM50 to get coffee and told me to keep the change. I allready paid lah Uncle but I will keep that money as a momento - money from my Uncle wooooh! Anyway Uncle wants me to sort out the family business- eeeeyeerkh. My Uncle is the first son- the elder 2 girls died earlier. He is 75 and very fit. He has had 8 neardeath experience - so he is slightly apprehensive abt the future as to him he has only 1 life left!

He has always been the successful one in the family and has had many feuds with different brothers. My dad's from Rembau and I don't think they are known to be placid men ! Ego as high as a mountain each one of them hehe .

At the moment 2 of my dingdong relatives are having a dingdong cold war. From very the close to very the cool. I wish I can say this- Listen kids, I don't care who is hurt with whom, who started what , who said what to whom, who did not tell the other about XYZ, you just bury the hatchet and move on. OK? Like someone said, orangkampung when they have kecik hati etc they never revisit the issue - say sorry or what. They just pretend that nothing happened and start talking to each other. So I hope my 2 dingdong relatives and their partners would start the healing process. Leave ego aside and forget about holding out for an apology. The younger one- show respect to the elder one. The elder one- show some brains and maturity to the younger one, HOKEH? Life is not that much different than managing children eh.

Kalau kita gaduh dengan orang boleh lah merajuk setahun. Kalau kita gaduh dengan husband, haa merajuk lah engko..sampai bila nak tahan right. So in the interest of peace, make peace. Dah sejuk karang, discuss lah amende yang tak kena...tapi jangan tersemput lak kan....

For me, there is only one sure fire way to recover from an argument. For my hubby to say sorry, whether he is right or wrong hehhehehehehhe...

heheheh bestnye meleter orang...

Anyhoot, better go off the blogospehere now. See you soon!

Sunday, November 02, 2008


Congratulations Anny and Herman on your wedding 2 days ago. Yesterday we were at the reception at the Dewan something something Mahfuz- an unusual concept combining a reception in a hall concept with a wedding done at home concept. Practically it meant having guests come from 12 to 4 in a steady stream. Having to give the goodies to newcomers and making sure they don't miss out. Some were missed out much to the irritation of Mother of the Bride. can only do your best at weddings is what I say...and an irritated mother of the bride is par for the course I guess.

My legs were killing me. A few paux pas when I called Datok Seri Tajol Seri , "Uncle" . Haa lantakler. All in all the wedding had an atmosphere of a home wedding, and I think it went well, bar a few hiccups! I think Im going to marry my kids off at a hotel lah pulak...tak penat sangat!

We came home early cause hubby had a patient to see and an operation to do - I dropped him off at HKL and drove us back and straight away fell asleep. At 8 he called to say he was done and I went sans kids, to fetch him and headed for a BBQ at Shah's lovely place- it was a reunion no 2 for KPP roommates- we managed to pick things up where they left off 20 years ago . I could not join in their reminiscence of their time after A levels - I had gone off to the UK by then, We left at 12 something!

Today- reception at seremban for Anny and Mak B's doa selamat!

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Corruption- must we accept it??

Have you seen NST's headline today?

Money politics is allready darah daging in UMNO.

It is a widely held belief that Malaysians are corrupt. We are not alone, the perceptions out there also say that Indonesians are totally corrupt, and so are the Thais. Singaporean are also corrupt but just have better PR hahaha. The best thing about a blog is I don't need to verify anything and anyway I said it was perception and as such highly subjective he he.

Anyway the exact degree of corruption is up for discussion. We know bribery is wrong. We know it is haram. We know of ACA.

But in Malaysia it is never bribery. It is always "gift". or "Commission" . or "Incentive". The person asking has no shame because it is not a bribe. The person offering has no compulsion as he needs his work done/approved etc.

In Malaysia I think a lot of transactions can still be done without having to grease anyone's palm. However, to hurry things up, sometimes we give "incentives". I have never had to do that myself but I have seen with my own eyes, "incentives" being given in exchange for speedier issuance of this or that.

The recipient buat muka dono...and is happy to have some "duit raya". Like I said, its never bribery.

If the above was a gift, how about "Commissions"? Commission charged for giving you preference over others, for getting you contracts/works etc. Officers in a position of power , who has to do that job anyway, will do the job or make sure the approval/contract goes to you - at a commission! Land price goes slightly up because it incorporates commission-Cost of building incorporate duit kopi - and it goes to the department to be shared .

What do you think of the above practice. It's wrong. But we participate in the game because if we don't others will. because if we don't the project gets delayed, or terbengkalai. It is expensive to maintain your ethics and integrity.

Malaysia, Malaysia. can we not emulate others in this? can we get rid of this cancer? Can we make the thought of corruption so abhorrent that you feel very geli if you take it and your tongue feels very heavy to offer it? Can we?

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Divali & Raya

How was your 3 day weekend..? And Deepavali celebrations?

I am happy to report that I have quite a number of hindu friends. Sometimes, we don't realise that our social circle do not include other races. I think its important to know abt the way other people live ..but then I memang kepochi pun...heheh

Yesterday only one invite. The rest are being held next week and the week after. Yesterday we went to Uncle's house. We became close when I was at the old firm and he drove me around for meetings. Pinjam je lah, he was working for Big Boss. Uncle very generous, so many helpings he pushed on us . There was a goodnatured fight with Low the IT guy , over the delish fried fish that Auntie just cooked. Hot and crunchy. My friend Nivi used to serve that too and I can never replicate the crunchiness. Apa rahsia?

Anyway I admire this Uncle because he has 4 kids all in or have been in, Uni. Semua "menjadi" lah orang kata. This is amazing to me especially because he was the sole bread winner, he was not one of those earning 5 figure income, and he worked long hours. He told me his secret is his wife was not working. Alamak..I thinkwe can also do it, tinggal lagi a bit harder. Plus anak kita kena NAK belajar. Sometimes we send them to tuition etc but they think its for us so they do it sambil lewa. How to make them feel its for their own future ye? I told my kids you need to take care of us so make sure you get good jobs and one of you had better be a doctor ok! Teruk ke I ?

Then, a Hari Raya visit my late opah's sister. Opah Chu. Stayed soo long chatting to them about our past.Atok chu said arwah onyang I yang selama ni I ingat from Pakistan, was from AGRA?? YE ke??? And his name was LAL MOHD bin MAHAGURU SHEIKH KASIM and he was sent to Tg Malim to spread the religion as a "Da'i" but then he went to the roti business pulak. And my late onyang perempuan pulak, came from Jawa(before married LalMohd ni)(oh Aku Jawa rupanye!!!) and her father's name was Mbak Mentow and he was very berilmu, kalau kita naik kereta , saing dengan dia jalan kaki, dia sampai dulu dengan terompah je, punye lah magic. (Ok you can imagine my darling skeptic husband's face. I told him,this was a different time, jin and orang halus is very biasa, not used for black magic but for work and they are simply another community within us, just that we cannot see them. Nothing supernatural at all. He he!)

My kids mengaruk boring. Ish ish.. kids kan. Dah tua macam I ni baru appreciate .

Balik- penat. TIDO....

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Why we came home.

A lot of people have asked why we came home, after so long in the UK - if you count the years of studying it would be more than 13 years for hubby, and about 10 for me. We got so used to the lifestyle there, but we did talk about coming home, especially once Hubby got his FRCS Part 2. There were no more exams to do. He had to decide whether he wanted to apply for registrarship or go home, or go to Dubai to earn loads of mulah like some of his friends were doing.

The first option would involve another 6 years, and applying for the right job.

The second was a great option only it involved getting a massive pay cut. I mean, inthe UK you get paid the same but you can buy a lot for your money. One pound can get you milk, bread and etc etc. I used to get a huge trolley full at Sainsbury with just 50 quid. My expensive shoes from Clarks cost 30 quid. And that is expensive ok. Over in Malaysia RM50 dapat apa...satu plastik bag kot.

Going to Dubai was not really an idea supported by hubby, despite stories of earning USD 50,000 per month lah, etc (ye ke!!!???) It would be a totally unknown lifestyle, education wise etc.

In the end one thing decided it for us- the kids.

We wanted the kids to have a Malaysian upbringing. We wanted them to have their opah, their aunties, their grandaunties, their uncles, their cousins, their extended family. We wanted them to use water instead of tissue paper in the loo, eat with their hands, pepper everyword with "lah". being muslims, we wanted them to to mengaji lessons, too! We wanted them to be -Malaysian.

Also, we got a bit tired of not being settled, always being the outsider, always suspecting that hubby did not get whatever job he applied for because he was not white. His other doctor friends from Asia got consultant posts in areas where there were many asians, which limits one's options a bit. It would be nice if we can go to somewhere we call OUR COUNTRY. You know?

Don't get me wrong, no one was openly racist. The UK has very strict anti racism laws and its splashed everywhere. But, racism still happen and we felt that however comfy it was, it was still not our home.

So last-last we decided to up and leave. Mak oi, the packing was HELL. Selling our car, selling our TV and stuff, getting a container to ship things home. It was such a hectic time.

Do I regret coming back? No, of course not. I do miss being able to buy fresh milk for less than one pound, I miss car boot sales , and I miss the public facilities there- I miss the libraries! I miss the scenery- when the weather is just right it was very beautiful. I miss the tabloids. I miss the B&B. I miss Sainsbury/Safeway. I miss fresh fruits at very cheap price. I miss the privacy ! Believe it or not, Hubby misses wearing jumpers. Ada ke.

I do NOT miss having mat salleh ask me about Malaysia, Islam and our food and say "How interesting!" in the way you would say when you see an interesting specimen at the zoo. Would you go to America / UK and say to them, "you speak very good english!" ?. whatelse- I do not miss the cold in the thick of winter . I do NOT miss the lack of SUN! I do not miss the high cost of utilities. mak oi, heating bills....!!

Say what you want about Malaysia,there is so much warmth here. No where in the world 3 major races live in harmony - really, we do, forget about the policies our govt think up for us ,as a group of people we get along great!( This Monday we are going for Divali open house (god there goes the diet).) And everything is about family and friends. We went to a friend's wedding in the Midlands and was shocked to find out that she did not invite the next door neighbour! I told her if it was in Malaysia the entire village would be there.

If I were to leave and go migrate somewhere I would miss the "suratkabarlama" chant, the azan, the kedai mamak, the kipas angin(fan)- and the family. And there is so much opportunity for hubby to progress.

We left just the 2 of us, and came back with 3 kids!Of course we suffered because of the pay cut. And we had no savings from the UK! But I'm glad we got to "build" our family there and learnt to live life the hard way (ie no help!).

I have a few friends and family still there. My brother for one. I say, finish your training, make your money, and in the end, come home. Home is still the best place.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Been BZ

Well...its been a bz kind of couple of days.

Although I did go AWOL on Wednesday- met an old friend who was whizzing through KL on the way to her home in Dhaka. I am so sorry for being worried about work ok friend , and for smsing and calling ppl relating to the work thingy. I get anxious ler.. and guilty.

Today I found that one doc which is supposed to have been included in the pile of docs is not's my fault for not checking properly as I assume it was there...assume is a way to make an ass out of a you and me. (get it?). This kind of slackness irritates the heck out of me but nak marah sapa, its my fault in the end. I need a checklist and/or a very good secretary. Sigh.looks like the checklist is going to be the one. :-)

If I had stayed in the UK, agaknye I kerja ke? It never crossed my mind you know, to apply for a job there. I did work at maybank , and then with a lawyer , but once I got Nadine, it was housewife life for me. I loved it though, and did not hanker to go to work. Looking back how was it that I was not bored??? I found loads of ways to keep myself entertained:

1- I took Nadine to playgroups, and I joined the local Mother and Toddler group. every wednesday is coffee morning- pi have coffee at one of the mothers' house. Borak borak kosong while our kids terrorise that poor woman's house.

2- I took Nadine to Tumbling Tots.

3- I was in charge of our domestic affairs- had loads of fights with the local manager of properties for overcharging us rent/electricity etc. Wrote letters to various council or other about this and that.

4- I went shopping with my friends - in Chelmsford it was nivi and weiling- a malaysian nurse married to a hongkong doctor- we were the broke ones while she had money.

5- I lepak with my friends. I called my husband a lot.

6- I managed our finances which at that time meant switching one credit card to another cheaper one... hehehe .

7- I planned our holidays - we managed to go to Madrid, Malaga, Tenerife, Istanbul, Washington and NY, hmmm tu je lah kot. Semua murah murah maaahhh

8- I took up sewing! favourite hobby is to buy kain murah murah from LauraAshley (2 pound je per metre) and also loads of remnants - but sad to say I suck at sewing.

But mainly--- I got pregnant!!!

And that, was a full time job ok.

So 7 years flew , really!

Hubby kept buying me suits at Sales you know, penuh harapan that I get a job. Although I don't think he minded being the traditional breadwinner and me the wife, mom and general cook . Well now that Im working at LAST, I kind of miss gak sometimes the surirumahtangga tau, handle the kids 247 and you have full control. But penat lah. I always tell ppl I go to work to rest.

Anyway I better go to do that work I tell you I have...! Tata!!

Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...