Monday, March 31, 2008

The Nikah!

Well the Deed is Done. My brother is married off. Tiga kali sebutan - on the kadhi's insistence. First time, to calm the kadhi's nerves, second time, to practise, third time , was the real thing. (I am in last night's make up, blogging by the way- yayay, tak yah gi keje today)

And we are pooooooooped! Kids are forced by the tyrant that suddenly possesed daddy, to go to school this morning, despite the fact that they slept at 12 midnight. We came back from the girl's house at about 11.40 pm.

Oh sorry- Masliyana's house- erm my new sister in law.

The hantaran was finally done the night before, and we brought it over to mom's. By the time got over to mom's there were allready ppl in the house,penuh sedara etc. (Yes lepas ni turn you all ye....saya sedia tawarkan perkhidmatan..hehehehe. Cousin on the right is getting married this year.)

Brother ok lah, tak gabrah sangat. Last minute change to the dulang holding the ring, to accommodate the baby blue box it came in. And the baby blue pouch which held the charm bracelet - the langkah bendul present. Baby blue box tu mahal wor.(your sister and sister in law no 1 wondering if kakak-kakak orang yang langkah bendul boleh tak dapat babyblue box tu hehehehehe)

Anyways. Cousins Uncles aunties all berkumpul at my parents' place. Punyelah riuh, dengan makan kuehnye, dengan nak make up nye, sampai by the time we all go out nak pergi rumah perempuan, dah lambat! My baby brother "bang" before we left. Chaotic a bit when we tried to assemble who is holding what- barulah nak pikir.

Got there at 9.15pm.The girls' side had a black and white theme. Reminded me of office je. The bride's sister and brother in law (to be) are lawyers (litigators) maybe that's why its black and white. They did a little pelamin- ada white backdrop and a black chaiselounge. Very nice.
(My mom hugging Masliyana's sister after putting on the charm bracelet on)

Nikah went ok - different a bit lah. The Singaporean cousins of Masliyana commented that in Singapore it is very simple. (yes but I also cannot find the kiblat in Singapore uncle) Everyone mispronounced the poor girl's name. Takpa , lightened the mood. Kadi said he won't give a sermon and went ahead and did it anyway. My foot died several times. Bride and groom had to be there in front of kadhi . Then when we thought we could all go and eat, the kadhi asked (with mic) where the surat jawi was. And spent the next 10 mins on administrative matters. Aiyah man can't you sort that out later ah.

Oklah..I sat at the hightable (takcukup orang) with my baby brother. Lepas ni you lak ok Shah!

My very eligible brother working in Japan- please contact me if interested.

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Hantaran Adek

My house looks like a florist's place at the moment.

This hantaran business is no joke, eh?


There are white roses, cream roses, peach roses, twiny viny stuff, the baby's breath thingy, the ribbon, the pins, the glue gun!! (We mean business). The theme is red gold and white. Well, white roses anyways. My mom wants us to re-use the very expensive bekas/tray that she had bought for the engagement but its got a lot of akar akar kayu and anyways the other side has allready seen it what - to accommodate mom sister in law and I had to modify the said "bekas". Boy jenuh gak ek?


You know, before this year I would not say I was very close to my sister in law, we know each other as sisters in laws do lah, we see each other at my mom's place, at family dos etc. We did "accidentally" go on holiday together once in Frasers' Hill (as in we went and then bumped into them) . She is the quiet type- where things would be "tersirat" rather than "tersurat" . Secretly I think she bullies my brother hahahahaha!

But this year since she sent her daughter (my lookalike in temperament apparently god forbid) - we see her more often. And now we are involved in this hantaran business I finally feel comfortable with her. Eee I come across as such a dragon sister in law ek? After hmm 10 years kot of their getting married I FINALLY feel comfortable??


So back to the hantaran business- we've got all this stuff on the dining table waiting to be formed into something that can be sent as a gift without embarrassing my entire family. Yesterday Auntie A came over from her clinic and she saw our work and was commenting this way and that way- she is anxious to help as the thingy is like- 3 days away and there is no sign of life from the family. Totally understand- but we are Mrs Last Minute!! We thrive on challenges!! Heheheheheh- don't worry , insyallah we will be allright. Today have to go get gold cloth.

I am panicking about the doa selamat. Hubby does not want to "sweat the small stuff" but there are a 10000 things I am thinking of. Bila discuss with my husband he goes "apa apa lah" which is is man's talk meaning- dont bother me!

Things to do include- get the carpets, get the chairs, move the dining table, get the wedding cake (thanks Mak B!! Love youuuu mwahhh!) invite the surau people (really honey we are in FRONT of the surau, how not to invite lar) , get the hantaran ready, get the house ready, get the clothes ready, get the kids ready, get rid of the cat smell from the kitchen, where do the catering lady think she is going to put the high table, and yah do I need extra flowers- what is the agenda, what happens if the girls's side is early, what happens if they are late etc etc etc

And of course, go to work in the meantime.

Ok will keep this updated.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Time flies..

We are finding out slowly that our girls are growing up.

It starts with them asking me about changes in their bodies. Then its the trip to the garment shops. Then they are sharing my toner and cleanser (yes, Auntie Zu, the cleanser that you made are being used occassionally by Nadine and Sophia) and then that stops when I buy them their own cleaning stuff, then they need conditioner for their shampoo and all of a sudden the ol' biasa biasa shampoo ain't good enough and it's got to be the shampoo for "long and black" or something like that . Then, the other day at the pharmacy, what was in my basket- "leave in conditioner". They said they need it as they have no time to wash their hair in the morning but they want their hair to be soft still. Leave in conditioner?? Mummy pun taakda.Now they talk about "facial" . and "spa".

Such divas. Of course, only 3 divas...Dahlia is still my donaldduck cum stitch cum lilo cum adorable baby.

Anyways mummy is now a redhead. Daddy has bought "Medium Auburn" from the local pharmacy and took grrrreat pleasure in torturing mummy by colouring her hair for her. Yes, all that tugging at the hair follicles in the name of getting the colour all over the hair , was most fun for my sadistic husband until I had to tell him that hey I am NOT under general anaesthesia ok!! Sakit tauuu.!!!! Anyway never mind, I love you for wanting to do it for me, although why you want to do it in front of your DAD I don't know and I have no idea what he must have thought about it, but suffice to say today he has gone home.Suspiscious?? Indeed....

(he thinks its nice but mak sure marah...heheheh)

It was not supposed to be so red but then husband forbade me from washing and I fell asleep halfway so when I woke up the thing was on my head for the last 50 minutes so the next time you see me do me a favour-don't laugh.

It's been really nice having father in law with us, he is no trouble at all and I'm not saying that because my cousins read this..heheheheheh. He has made friends with the local masjid guys and got an invite to a wedding on his own merit.

Ok lah this is during working hours although if anyone from the office reads this I have written this post AGES ago ok.

Funny Post

Oh yes came across a veryyyyy funny post by JulianWong : An Open Letter to the PM. Do read it if you want to gelak kahkahkah.. Quite clever.

Friday, March 21, 2008

Some pics

2002 in Adelaide..Sophia was 4
Sophia was around 6 kot.
My nine year old little lady with her new bracelets and ring and necklace thanks to the very talented Auntie Zu who did it herself!!
Kids having their meal- it was endless Pizza and coke!!

MrsN's muffin and the homemade gooey chocolate cake. Did not actually plan to do it like that but the kitkat won't stick to the icing and had to modify like this. Dad did it. I have not tasted it yet!!

Sophia's Party

Yesterday was Sophia's party. We had it at Pizza*Hut. Her friends mainly, and cousins. And ofcourse, DadofFiveKitchenGoddess and their brood. Thanks guys for helping me out with the balang of sweets.Thanks MrsN for the lovely muffins!! (Yes I bully my friends)

That very morning at 6 I had to send Hubby to Hospital as he had theatre. Balik je, siap, and then wait for the kids to siap then went out again to buy FIL newspaper. Then went out to BAG&S cake supplies to buy the- er supplies to make cakes. Spent a fortune on stuff like colourful cones, cake spatula, cake mixes, cake weighing scale (er yes bought for the first time)- You'd think its the first birthday party for the first child. Then sent the kids home with the cake barangbarang. Told by Ningseh "TAKDA TELOR!!!" ..Takda telur nak buat cake apa kan, so out again I went for the eggs. Then came home deposited the eggs and out again for the party packs. Ideas sudah ada for games to be played while sitting down (yalah,this particular P*izzahut is not a birthdayparty kind of place, they are basically just providing me the space , and supplying the menu) ..At the Jajan shop , bought "prizes" for the kids. Stayed there until noon. Went home. Nadine and Sara in kitchen, cake just put into oven. The plan was for a 2 tiered cake with M&Ms all over the first tier, and kitkats on the second tier. I even bought the biscuits that they use in Tiramisu.

Then got a call- Sophia's friends are allready there. Left home with the kids (sans Nadine who wanted to stay for the cake)..then found that PizzaH*ut allready served the first course- thank you! Soon, everyone started to arrive. Kids had eaten, came around to ask me "Ada game tak? We all bored laaaaa".. So out came Game No 1 which was a Memory Game- you have to remember the things I showed and write in correct order. We had 2 of those. Thanks Dahlia for lending us your play food.

OF course, everyone won. Amazing - but then Zu said they copied each other's list....pandai..The clincher was the "Guess the Number of Sweets in the Balang"- NOT an original idea as was done at friend's party recently- sorry ah tiru idea. But then it was perfect as they could do it and NOT run around.

After that, it was make a card for Sophia time...everyone got glitter and pens and paper- yikes no glue! Thanks Uncle Epa for dashing off to get the glue.

Party ended around- 5.30?? Lama gak ek?

All in all I think they had fun... Phew!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

New Cabinet!!

waaahhh!! No more Rafidah Aziz???!!! I sort of liked her as the Iron Lady of Malaysia- I hope Muhyiddin Yassin is equally good - ok ok I know about the AP fiasco but I still want my rep to be able to tell the foreigners who are maybe trying to bully lil' ol' malaysia, wher to get off.

And Azalina as the Tourism Minister??? Ok...lets see what she is going to do !!

Datuk Syed Hamid- good for you Sir time you come up

Ng Yen Yen- who is to sangka that that lady I met at the TV show - will be a full on minister?? Rezeki orang betoll

My husband's minister pun dah tukar ministry- well padanlah dia macam bolayan je with the naik gaji request...

Jamaluddin Jarjis sudah jalan - comment there as related by marriage to a person who is related by marriage ...

AND The RM2 million money found in Bag in Australia is a MINISTER!! (Which goes to show that you never know in politics)

Some want Tan Sri Razaleigh Hamzah to come back- well that WOULD be a turnaround...but he is old allready lar....

For the full list- check out the STAR today!!

Sophia's Do

(cartoon from thankyou!)
Am panicking- Sophia's birthday is 2 days to go!! Despite her notice to me of about eight months, and despite her saving in my PC, a document called "Plans for Sophia's birthday"..I have not gotten around to properly plan it!! Bad mummy, bad bad mummy.

First thought that I'd have a party for her at the Lecka2 at my office. The manager Tom said ok lah, if I pay RM300 for food , he'll open the branch for afternoon- apparently it is only open at night. Heh?? Icecream? At night? Anyways yesterday I went and- I was told that they are busy until the end of F1!!

Then I rushed to Ampang's Lecka2- only to find that it's been closed for about a year!! (or so said the Dunkin Donut girl) - and Dunkin Donut said they are not sure if they can have a party for my 20 girls..

This morning, even my husband was infected with my panic- he started suggesting other places like Swensen, Kids Sports (Sophia's parents obviously cap duit) - when I remembered that Sophia had once said "Pizzahut pun TAKPAlah mummy!" in a "Sigh...what to do" kind of tone..heheheheh.

(The wonderful thing about my children I must say, and I must puji diri that they NEVER , not as long as I remember- sulk if they don't get anything. If they want something, and they don't get it, they will accept it, and move on. But of course, they will repeat the request. So their tactic is to wear us down..Usually it works. Because they don't throw tantrums, we are more inclined to want to give them what they want. They are masters at persuading us to get them stuff. They make lists, they circle the picture of what they want..they tell me how nice the things are...etc etc. But if I say NO, then the matter is dropped lah. Like handphones. Its a definite NO. But the requests get repeated once in a while. (tu yang susah pi prebet school ni tau. Sumer orang sana kaya))

So anyways...last-last I have managed to get PIZZAHUT to say they will have a party for her..Sorry ye kalau tak dapat invitation, I have been given a list of ppl to invite..but come anyways if you are around ...It should be at about 1- or 3? (still tak decide).

Now have to organise cake- the vanilla pod guy told me that they can't take my order as they have to make 3000 cupcakes for the F1! The "Piece of me " cake woman is also mega busy as well as mega expensive.... Tulahhhhhh sapa suruh last minute..

Monday, March 17, 2008

Abah is at home with us. Sakit dada. Hubby has made appointment to get him seen by Dr Azlan IJN. This would be his third trip there. Mak ever-cool nya, has gone home. CLingy or easily worried, she ain't.

Wedding in Tg Malim and Selayang
It was a very family oriented weekend- Hubby's family came over last Friday- the entire Jabar clan- on Saturday we had a wedding both on abah's side (his nephew) and on mom's (her cousin's daugther) - one in Tg Malim and the other in Selayang. Convoy of 4 or 5 cars.

It was nice to have everyone in the house- have not seen all of them since we moved house. Or was it since Raya? Now I know why we took this house- so that we can accommodate everyone haha - tu pun Paiz Lina and Fayha had to share Sara's room - single room. Only have 3 rooms with double bed- maybe we should get a sofa bed in Sara's room kan. The kids all bunked in with us. Then we can call everyone more often. I'm thinking, family holiday.

Wedding in Westin
Saturday night we went to Dburn's wedding aka MCKK reunion for my husband's batch. -- verrrry nice, the bride and groom had no sanding sanding, just dinner, but got performances lah. To "honour" the fact that it was done in Westin, i went to the salon to blow my hair- this would be my very very very first time doing that. I don't spend money on me. At all. Kalau nak ikutkan, low maintenance. Of course my husband thinks I don't need it- so sweet , but so wrong.

Tak gunagak, as the blown hair all went lepet after solat - (Level 4 at Westin) . Enjoyed the food, enjoyed the company.



Rules of the tag:
#1. Pick the month of your birth.
#2. Bold the 5-10 things that most apply to you.
#3. Strike out everything that doesn't apply to you.
#4. Place the list of all the months under a cut.
#5. Tag 6 people from your friends list to do the same.

JANUARY: Stubborn and hard-hearted. Ambitious and serious. Loves to teach and be taught. Always looking at people's flaws and weaknesses. Likes to criticize. Hardworking and productive. Smart, neat and organized. Sensitive and has deep thoughts. Knows how to make others happy. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Rather reserved. Highly attentive. Resistant to illnesses but prone to colds. Romantic but has difficulties expressing love. Loves children. Loyal. Has great social abilities yet easily jealous. Very stubborn and money cautious.

FEBRUARY: Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. Sexy. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest and loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizes dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions.

MARCH: Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate. Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Loves to serve others. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Observant and assesses others. Revengeful. Loves to dream and fantasize. Loves traveling. Loves attention. Hasty decisions in choosing partners. Loves home decors. Musically talented. Loves special things. Moody.

APRIL: Active and dynamic. Decisive and hasty but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Emotional. Aggressive. Hasty. Good memory (WAKAHKAH!!). Moving. Motivates oneself and others. Sickness usually of the head and chest (Always knew I was sick in the head) . Sexy in a way that only their lover can see. (wat you ugly or what..)

(May is my husband's: )
MAY: Stubborn and hard-hearted (boy you got that right!). Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally (that's you babeh!!). Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck(yah, has one major pain in the neck- me! hehehehe). Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing (Could it be because of the SMOKING???). Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children (this is such a lie) . Hardworking. High spirited. Spendthrift.

JUNE: Thinks far with vision. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating, tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Able to show character. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Brand conscious. Executive. Stubborn.

JULY: Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. Dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Likes to be quiet. Homely person. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Prone to having stomach and dieting problems. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover.

AUGUST: Loves to joke. Attractive. Suave and caring. Brave and fearless. Firm and has leadership qualities. Knows how to console others. Too generous and egoistic. Takes high pride in oneself. Thirsty for praises. Extraordinary spirit. Easily angered. Angry when provoked. Easily jealous. Observant. Careful and cautious. Thinks quickly. Independent thoughts. Loves to lead and to be led. Loves to dream. Talented in the arts, music and defense. Sensitive but not petty. Poor resistance against illnesses. Learns to relax. Hasty and trusty. Romantic. Loving and caring. Loves to make friends.

SEPTEMBER: Suave and compromising. Careful, cautious and organized. Likes to point out people's mistakes. Likes to criticize. Stubborn. Quiet but able to talk well. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal but not always honest. Does work well. Very confident. Sensitive. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Must control oneself when criticizing. Able to motivate oneself. Understanding. Fun to be around. Secretive. Loves leisure and traveling. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Very choosy, especially in relationships. Systematic.

OCTOBER: Loves to chat. Loves those who loves them. Loves to take things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care of what others think. Emotional. Decisive. Strong clairvoyance. Loves to travel, the arts and literature. Touchy and easily jealous. Concerned. Loves outdoors. Just and fair. Spendthrift. Easily influenced. Easily loses confidence. Loves children.

NOVEMBER: Has a lot of ideas. Difficult to fathom. Thinks forward. Unique and brilliant. Extraordinary ideas. Sharp thinking. Fine and strong clairvoyance. Can become good doctors. Dynamic in personality. Secretive. Inquisitive. Knows how to dig secrets. Always thinking. Less talkative but amiable. Brave and generous. Patient. Stubborn and hard-hearted. If there is a will, there is a way. Determined. Never give up. Hardly becomes angry unless provoked. Loves to be alone. Thinks differently from others. Sharp-minded. Motivates oneself. Does not appreciate praises. High-spirited. Well-built and tough. Deep love and emotions. Romantic. Uncertain in relationships. Homely. Hardworking. High abilities. Trustworthy. Honest and keeps secrets. Not able to control emotions. Unpredictable.

DECEMBER BABY: Loyal and generous. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Fun to be with. Loves to socialize. Loves to be loved. Honest and trustworthy. Not pretending. Short tempered. Hates restrictions. Loves to joke. Not egotistic. Good sense of humor. Logical.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Some pics

My Sophia having her hair washed at the salon for the first time
Johan after trip to barber..dah besar dah bujang I ...

Morning nap...before getting pushed.
Swissdamailaut Pool

Congratulations Raja Nazrin! (and your wife, of course) husband tak jadik, dah dapat anak... Tahniah lah Raja Dr Nazrin Shah and your impossibly accomplished queen- Zara. At 52, first time father of a son- when he finally married, he married a beautiful and smart woman, who promptly gave him an heir! How disgustingly perfect is that..hehehehehe

Anyways, was telling hubby that Zara ni age dia, macam dia second wife lah. I mean, had Raja Dr N married at 20 plus, his wife would probably be around his age now too and a wife of 35 years of age would probably be his second wife.... And his first wife would probably get soo pissed off..the first wife to be ni, probably could foresee this and decided early on to leave and marry someone else. Hahahahah ...hope you have gotten over your ordeal with the kidnappers, Kak WZ!

Hubby said something that cracked me up..he said, anak Raja Nazrin can marry anyone of OUR daughters..But ooops, our daughters would be older..So , let's make another one. Hahahahahah! The thought of having a baby in the hope of marrying her off to anak Raja Nazrin is funneeee...tak dapat bapak dia, dapat anak pun takpe hahahahahah...

You guys DO know that this is all gurauan right.....I already have myprince charming...and he does not need to worry about who is MB of Perak......nasib baik tak kawen dia , kalau tak kan dah menyusahkan hidup...hahahahahahah

Friday, March 14, 2008

Reports from Home

Just got a call from my daughter no 2, Sara , yawning and telling me she feels soooo lazy.

You and me both babe.

I've been receiving calls every 10 mins (it feels like it) - from the entire gang who now is at home.

Reports- mom in law and family are coming over tonight. Attending a wedding tomorrow in Tg Malim Perak and another one in Selayang. We are going too. My Opah tahlil how? Also same day what...but husband's edict is that - kawin sekali saja. Yaaa but this is my opaaaah...

Anyhoot. The kids have done their passport. In a fit of madness we bought tickets to go to PantaiEmas this June. The tickets are sooooo much cheaper than the M*AS . But as we are slowly finding out...the tickets are only the beginning - there are the passports to be renewed, the visas, the warm clothing - its Winter. And once there- the apartment, the food and car rental, the theme park , etc and etc. Oh well this is a long overdue thing I had wanted to do for them. Whoever scores the highest in their May exam can sit by the window in the plane. Everyone has their seats booked and everyone is getting an international meal- God knows what that is. Let's hope that Airasia won't mess up the flight details or what. .

My daughter Sophia is truly meant to be rich- her birthday plans- either at (a) Sunway Lagoon or (b) Aquaria or (oKAYlah MUmmy!) (c) Petrosains-...Petrosains is the cheapest, at RM700 for the party. Aquaria will set you back about RM1500. Maybe we'll take it to the local party centre ie our HOUSE- hahahaha.

Can't bear to let her down, that's the thing.

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Only The Good Die Young- Takziah

Takziah and our heart goes out to you Helza, for losing your husband to osophageal cancer (cancer of the gullet or oesophagus). Another one who has left us far far too early- he was barely 40. One year my husband's junior at Kolek. She was my friend and former colleague - I've known her since 2002- ish. Her husband Zul and her had four sons.- four very young sons! We did not keep in touch much, occassionally calling each other up, until one day in Feb this year, I heard that Zul was diagnosed with advanced cancer- and that was before CNY! I heard that he wanted to postpone chemo until AFTER the CNY hols- so that he can spend it at home. He had very advanced cancer -it was allready in the lungs. Remembering D, I knew the outcome....but it was unthinkable that he might leave his wife so soon...

All of a sudden 2 weeks ago I heard he had been admitted. We kept saying we should go - but when I got a call from a friend saying that its critical, we rushed there, with the kids in tow. He was breathless, and very thin, but other than that, he was not strapped to any machines, there were no tubes attached, and he was surrounded by family. I could only give her a hug, hoping to convey my sympathies. It is a very heavy test indeed, and they are the very best of people . She is humble and modest and sweet and by all accounts, he was a moderate, pious man.

So we went, prayed for him, his mom was sitting by his bed, berzikir, She left soon and Helza sat with him, repeating holy verses in his ear- We stayed for an hour 9 something, we left for home. Spoke to his sister who said the family had accepted it and had refused all sorts of treatment- chemo, dialysis....husband said later that that was probably wise...I was saying I would probably try anyway..Just cause you know the outcome does not mean that it will definitely happen- Allah SWT can throw in a few surprises....(I'm all about hope,me) But it was not to be.

Kids waited outside in the corridor. Dahlia came in and said this man is dying, mummy. And about one hour later...we received the sms saying that he has left us....

from Allah you came and to Allah you return.....

Zulkifli Mohammadon- may Allah bless your soul and place you with the believers, may Allah protect your family, and may Allah give them the strength to go on....

Wednesday, March 12, 2008


Well, we finally left at around 10a.m...picked up mom and dad as well who had sportingly agreed to come along. Constant supply of dvd kept the trip pleasant although after a while the kids found their own games more entertaining than the choice of dvd we had - Sound of Music, Ratatouille etc. We took the long and winding road - never again!!

The resort is very beautiful - macam the brochure lah. They gave us the semisea view. - each room pandang sea, and ada balcony (very useful to sangkut the wet swimming suits)- we went to the beach at about 5 and the waves were so strong- mom came along and tried not to have a heart attack at the sight of my kids happily being tossed and tumbled by the waves. I was right next to mom yelling at them to get away from the sea - while dad swore that he was indeed looking after them even when he fell asleep on the rock.

I saw Rahim Razali and family. All I could do NOT to say "Eh datuk!!! Eh Apakabar datuk... I memang SUUUUUKA kat you laa!!" - hehehehehe. Instead I senyum and buat tak nampak sangat. I told dad and he said "so?"


Dinner was at Lumut- what a coincidence, my cousin Apit was also in Lumut for work for that week. We told him to wait for us to get him for dinner. Of course, the road out to town was dark and winding, and of course, we got lost. We took a left instead of right and we ended up past something cemetery like and signs going "Please let the lorries pass " or some such stuff and then we came across a kampung!! There were people sembahyang in a bangsal with no walls- and cement floor! We stopped to ask directions (from a man who came out of his house without a shirt) and turned out we should have turned right! Of course, we had to get lost on an almost empty tank of fuel all the time we prayed that the car would not judder to a halt!!. It was pitch dark !! We did get to Lumut in the end, where we picked up my ravenous cousin, and ordered 6 types of dishes and wallaped them all.... I stayed in the car at first as by the time we arrived at the restaurant Sophia Sara and Dahlia were asleep. Takpalah they already ate at the hotel ie the mushroom soup, the milo, and the nuggets which we packed from home. My mom was soo impressed at our foresight. We have five kids do NOT want them to get hungry.


First thing the next morning hubby and I walked by the beach. Kids were snoring in room- we left them one handphone and told mom and dad. What romantic topics of conversation did we share eh.....We talked about the shameful amount of rubbish that we saw along the beach!! The people of the hotel only cleared the rubbish around the hotel je, but all along the beach it was terrible- tupperware, coke tins, mineral bottles. We rescued one "Belangkas" and watched it move to the sea - I tried jogging - after about 5 steps,I almost died and stopped.Then there was a hammock which I went on- hubby thought it was very funny to swing me very high causing me to shriek - Yee-essss. i remember our courtship- our "romantic" walks were always full of him trying to poke me with a sharp holly leaf lah, or trying to scare me with a freshly plucked chicken laaaa...kuat menyakat betol! I remember crying when he gave me a gift of a red hat with a string (yeah, he liked unusual gifts) , and once I put it on, he pulled on the string and it really stung when it hit my chin!!! Grrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. But now we have 5 kids and occassionally it's nice to be "sakat"ed again. Moral of the story- SAKAT MENYAKAT can lead to five children...hahahahahahaha

Hubby and I should NOT go to the sea with the kids.. I always forget how stressful I find it , as he is soo relaxed and I only think of drowning, undercurrents and dangerous jelly fish. Hubby took the free canoe and rowed almost half way to Pangkor, until the lifeguard blew on his whistle to bring him back. He did that with Johan who cried and with Sophia who said to the sisters "I should never have trusted daddy". Hahahahahaha

Verdict of holiday- resort is nice,very friendly indeed. Good for company trips as have a lot of activities. Got free archery and free canoe/kayaking. Got karaoke room. Got loads of restaurant. Got golf. If you want a short break its quite ideal . However if you really want to swim, go to the East coast lah. The water was murky, we can see Pangkor from where we were, and there was a huge drain emptying into the sea, just where we were swimming!! That was a bit odd...I smelt something really off.

Monday, March 10, 2008


going here today. A bit late as I'm finishing off one agreement. Semalam tak sempat...And will now go and get ready as hubby is glaring at me, kids are all ready, stuff is in the car...and Im in my jammies

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Marah ler..

Okay...BN did not get 2/3rds. Good Luck on sharing power , guys. Parliament should be better now as there are more women so less likely to think with the "other" head hahahaahah

Honestly- am worried - hope there will not be any May 13th 1969 incident- unless waiting for May 13th 2009??

Read in international website, a comment about nonbumis feeling like outsiders or guests rather than citizens..

I guess that must be what "minority" ethnicities everywhere must feel , not just in Malaysia . In our neighbouring state recently, I so felt that I was a minority. I could not even find the kiblat in my 7 star hotel!!! (Ok that's Intercontinental ok) . I only saw Malays in stalls and dressed as students or makcik- where were the power suits oi?? In the UK there were racial riots and they only just started to get Indians etc in the government, We have had power sharing for 50 years ok.The USA is just considering having a black President.

What are they talking about - guests and outsiders indeed. No "guests" or "outsiders" get treated this well anywhere in the world, I believe. Benefits such as education, health, economy are shared by all, tak ke? Whatever privileges given to each race has been negotiated - see the "Social Contract". Do Malays gripe about not getting ever to handle Ministry of say, Works? Bargains have been made- promises also made and kept! Now will the Social Contract be amended?

Now that 5 states have gone to the opposition and Penang to a one race party- I am anxious that there will not be any discriminations by the ruling party. For all the rhetoric- show us that you do not favour your own race to others. Let me tell you that in any environment where one race outnumbers the other, it is HUMAN NATURE that that race favours its "own". There are discriminations done to Bumis too, I have heard. It happens ok. We cannot avoid it, just live with it lah. Take these incidents as isolated evidence of bigotry and try not to let it mar your otherwise good life.

To the foreign correspondents- Do you have any other idea on how to run a govt on such a tight rope - ethnic tension my foot- of course lah ada bodoh@! Show us in your country how "non natives" are treated- even though they are given citizenship? Say, inthe UK? Or, in the USA? And somemore can comment on "ethnic tension". PUHLEEEZ. Kan? Kan?

My point being, I think we live in a good country and I think every race has been given a slice of the pie. OF course things can only improve but to say that any race has been marginalised when there has been so much prosperity- is like so not fair.

Sigh....where is Malaysia going. How are we ever going to resolve this. The discontent is the loudest tu yang masalah nye. If I were Malaysia I'd take everyperson who makes that "guests" comment and shake them by the shoulder and tell them to just get it together and stop focusing on the negativity.


Who can sleep lah? Nail biting suspense!! Will BN get 2/3rd majority or not??? What the heck – 60 opposition seats in parliament????? Wow!!! It’s the most riveting election ever !


So Election process is corrupted eh??? Not corrupted enough then, with so many defeats!! Boy I bet that guy who splashed paint on the chairman of SPR feels a right plonker eh. Buang cat je.

I voted today! Well, it was between an apple and an apple what… just in BN and in PKR. I had said before that I feel tempted to just vote the opposition just for the heck of it- after all, everyday I pass this big banner outside my house’s compound that says “Dah lama dah, cuba ubah!” cajoling us to vote for the other side for ONCE- that must have sunk in ! (THEY WANT TO BE HERE)


BUT !! At the end of it, I remembered under whose ruling was I raised until I am who I am today, under whose policies was I, my family, my children fed and kept safe and rather comfortable. The policies which gave us consistently good economy , the policies that consistently earned us respect from international observers, the decisions that gave us the KLCC , a national landmark (a “waste” as heralded by the alternative party then and yet can you imagine Malaysia without that now??) and the party which gave us excellent infrastructure and NOT resembling say, Bangladesh.

So I am grateful, and like a bersyukur person I am, I voted for BN. Also on the basis of “Better the Devil You Know”, really. How do I know that the PKR is going to work? Any alternative govt formed to defeat current govt cannot be anything but motivated by pure politics rather than motivated by sheer concern for the wellbeing of the nation. You sell your soul to the devil because you want more seats in Parliament.


Of COURSE lah BN had corrupted politicians. Of course the politicians and civil servants made money from say, projects etc. Are you telling me that you would not?? Most of you damn well WOULD , and you’d call it “commission”. Which government is whiter than white, tell me? I suppose, the Barisan Alternative! Let’s see how they cope once they are actually given power. People take cuts! That is a given! It’s not right but it happens. Everywhere and with every party, in the world. And cronyism? People help out their friends! People choose to work with people they are comfortable with ! Cronyism, corruption- It’s not peculiar to race, it’s not peculiar to region, or culture. It is HUMAN NATURE.! Betul tak??


Hubby and I discussed this once. I said that as long as the economy was good and people were happy, no one would revolt. At least we are not like some African country where the politicians are corrupt AND the country’s running to pot. At least, whatever happens with the politicians, the ship is sailing smoothly. Are you telling me that you are not proud to have the first Malaysian astronaut??

Economy rules…From the times of the French revolution to now….is it a coincidence that as soon as petrol price goes up, people want a change in government?? Also…the touch with the common folks- to reassure them that they still matter. I guess, with the state of the government now, a lot of people feel the complacency…and the feeling of powerlessness. And listening to the analysts talk, they say that it’s the personal touch that matters. The AhBeng, Mak Lang, Ravi, etc don’t care about ECER or NCER or what have yous…we know, whether we have someone who cares for us or not.


Believe it or not, earlier today I had said that while I did not want BN to lose- I wish they’d get a goooood scare, so that little Napoleons building mansions in Klang, or corrupted politicians would learn that the people do have the power to oust you babeh!!

I guess, tonight, I got my wish!

Shah Alam? PAS!!! Bkt Antarabangsa?? PKR!! (Tak sesia kau membebel haritu ye Azmin) Samy Vellu out?? Wow!!! Izzah now in Lembah Pantai?? Sebenarnye kan Izzah, I don't like sangat lah your dad...I feel he is willing to sacrifice his principles for power....aisay, sorry ah. I seriously cannot get over the image of him dancing (remember?) and I don't like the personal attacks that's been launched by the opposition lah....And I feel that their promises are unrealistic.....and rash!! They promise to stop projects which are wasteful. But these may well be necessary projects . (Nadine wants me to vote them based on the manifesto that they gave out to every house). Sophia too. So , if my CHILDREN pun can be roused away from their cartoonnetwork to feel sympathetic to them- apa tah lagi voters!
personal approach, personal attacks, agressive, more savvy- that's what won them the seats.
Sigh...however....It's got to be taken positively, this huge win by the opposition. There is no other choice BUT to take it positively, and for GOD's sake...let all those elected to Parliament remember their promises , work together for the national good- don't stir up trouble - and stop behaving like monkeys the minute they step in there!!! Otherwise we'll be shaking our heads again and asking - we elected THEM????

Now praying to Allah SWT to give this country what is best for it - which only He knows.


Saturday, March 08, 2008

The Hantaran

Mom had put me and sisinlaw Intan in charge of my brother's wedding hantaran. Remember my second brother- senior registrar in Dublin and our heart doctor, drives around in an Audi, living in Ireland and has hooked up with this medstudentgirl who is 7 years his junior- where were all these men when WE were at University hah? Oh I forgot- I did hook up with my doctor but tinggal lagi audi je takda masa tu. heh heh heh. Registrar or no registrar my brother is still the "Adek" , 8 years younger than me.

I was caught unawares with the whole getting engaged dad was soooo excited about it that macam dia pulak nak kawin hehehehe! I and Saiful my first brother had NO clue who this girl was - we all (ok - I je) pun got on my huffy high horse going- who IS this girl who OBVIOUSLY will have such an easy life with a man who has everything allready- ini namanya er...dengki? cemburu? Entahlah. I wanted recognition as the eldest sister? Macam matriach pulak ek?

Anyway the nikah is coming up...and because of a complicated thingy involving her elder sister getting married and therefore my brother cannot do his wedding before that sister's wedding (alahai...buatjelah)...the wedding reception is going to be postponed to December. Why not get married after the elder sister's wedding you say? Because my parents (my dad) wanted them to not fall into the ways of both of them are in Ireland. Alahai dad, you have given him all the education you can, up to him to be a good boy. Nothing we can do to stop them anyway. But you will BURN IN HELL mwahahahahahahahah!!! (Evil laugh)

Ok I merapu - sorry. So anyway back to this hantaran thing- so my mom said no needlah to go get my aunties help- memeningkan and intan can do it. So we all pun dah excited...and starting to think about the theme colour- baru pikir pink or purple, . then, dad said RED! So red and white it is..My brother and his wife terus tempah baju merah.....Then I think mom started to get calls from the wellmeaning aunties to help and when she said her daughter and daughter in law were doing it , she must have received comments like "Pandaike diorang tu Kak Ani??" or "Red is sooo oldfashioned lah Kak Ani nanti tak cantik!" etc etc etc. So she tergugat sikit lah. I started getting calls from mom going ..kaklong sure ke Red is nice? (Mom is always subtle- she never told me she was being harrased hehehehe)

So now instead of the original (might I say, Dad-initiated) red dulang ( I wanted the baldu traditional kain ) and white roses, mom is going for white and red roses. Ok lah kot...Today sis in law is going to Jalan TAR to source for the material. She has gifted hands. Im just going to give ideas and try not to ruin it in my clumsy attempt to be "creative"..I love creeative stuff but cannot put it together to look nice.

Tulah cerita hantaran we all....pening gak ek? Kejap mom wants 7 dulang, kejap mom wants 9..kejap ada cake, pas tu takda...eeeeeeeeee. We shall see how it goes..

Thursday, March 06, 2008

Yikes where has the time gone??????

Ok just a quick note to do in March:

Organise Sophia's birthday - the Barbie room in Sheraton expires on 15th March - 5 days short of her birthday - a pity as I'm sure she would love me forever and ever if she get to have her birthday there.

Organise the hantaran for my brother's nikah. Small nikah and reception to be made this Dec but I insist on having a "do" - which brings me to point no 3

Call up the kakak caterer for the do- what to call the do is also a prob- cannot call it kenduri as the other side has not got any plans for sanding sanding yet.

Get passport of kids ready- want to take them to CoastEmas one day in June . Air Asia is soooo much cheaper than the others.

Sort out the other house!!! Sort out the stuff STILL inside- paint the house and SELL - or does anyone want to rent it? It's VERYYY Convenient and the neighbours are great! (immediate neighbour on my right from front of house especially, are thoroughly fantastic and I miss your food Yans!! Plus Jojo misses the boys...)

Dan banyak lagi dan banyak lagi.

Today manyak busy...the conference bearing fruit...except now have to read a lot meeting at 4, with someone we met in Singapore...banyak lak soalan mamat ni..aku ingat you tidur dalam presentation tu! Rupanye ajak's not supposed to be my line but they want me to understudy it....ok ke i "swtich" portfolio ni?

nvm long as my immediate boss is ok I am fine.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Lose Weight the Lazy Way

I made my husband late today by taking so long to get ready. I had a top but I wanted to find a skirt - all of my skirts had one common feature- they belong to a twelve year old. No lah, more correct to say they belong to a woman who had just the one kid. Due to my infrequency of clothes shopping - (seriously I don't, not for self. Not in KL . Not wiht kids. But get me near a stationery shop and I go mad) Where was I- ok due to my infrequency of shopping, I am still storing suits, skirts, even blouses darn it - of about 12 years ago- good quality ones hence they have not fallen apart considering how long they have been with me - they were of course bought during my housewife days in the UK- bought I might add, by my husband in anticipation of me returning to working life instead of sponging off him heh heh heh. Anyway today the suits have groaned in protests and the zips not only refused to latch but also refused to zip even halfway up so let me tell you this lah suit ok- I GET THE HINT!!!

The NightOut

I have some serious making up to do to the kids. I have not gone to see them do their co-co- swimming ke or what- today Sophia, Dahlia and Yana have swimming until half past 5. Semalam Nadine has Shabbab (marching thingy). I have not seen their books for absolutely ages. I have not read to them or what at ALL. Semalam Hubby and I came home very very late....Takpalah ok this weekend is quality time weekend ok.


A group of friends and us went out last night - in honour of our 2 friends Madam TaiTai and MrS her hubby -who are home for a ridiculously brief stint from their post in Dhaka. Madam TaiTai had mentioned she liked local food and the restaurantknowledge-challenged me was tasked to organise the venue so when someone suggested Bijan I jumped on it. and Bijan looked very nice indeedy. Although very pricey- VERY pricey.RM40 for some masak lemak.. Ok ok you can say that Thai restaurant and Indian restaurant pun charge the same for the same type of food but somehow when its Malay food it's different. So, at the last minute,we decided to go to Jake's at Starhill. Also mampuih punya mahal type of place but at least you don't eat food you can cook at home. (I mean "You" as in not me) . BUT Madam Tai Tai I have to let you know that I did do a bit of work on it yah...I was on the verge of ordering the set menu in Bijan - I had made them fax to me the set menu! Well, guys we know where to go for 4 sets of malay dishes, lauk pauk, 2 appetisers, dessert at RM60 per pax, don't we. ...However, not too bad-I do have it on good authority that you love steak and you did not mind. kan kan kan hee hee hee.


Sampai kat Starhill we had to pass "Shoo*k!" and it was buzzing -with a live band etc. So we decided to go there, not knowing that our guests of honour were allready sitting at Jakes and had to leave the place again. We left her the horrible job of telling Jakes the reservation for a LOT of people was cancelled. Hee heee. Teruknyeee your friends.

Anyways...Shook was quite ok - except they put us sooo hujung that if you wanted "ambience" of an "ambang" rumah you got it lah hahahaha...moving was the theme last night - at first we were at a long table for 12, then a friend came saying apologetically that her son had fallen in the toilet and she had to go home - heard that the son had to have stitches put in- very sorry to hear that Y and hope he gets better soon, ok. So with smaller numbers we moved to the round table -location was private and no distraction like music or singers to bother us. Hee hee.

Did you know that at Sho*ok! you get to order from other restaurants too? Some of us ordered from Jake's . Some of us ordered fish and did not even offer to the wife , *sniff*! Heh heh..

Anyway - it was really lovely catching up with them, Memang lama tak jumpa... Chat punye the end have to go back....I was yawning but hati nak borak lagi...

So 'k guys...must do it again when you are next in KL- and have a good breakfast tomorrow and stop showing off to those of us who have to work hee hee. I love your blingbling by the way MTT and thanks for making my husband say "Diamonds are forever" heh heh heh...

Tonight I am going over the kids' books and rota.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Tale of Four Kitties and Two "Horny" Cats

Never knew that cats can have the same instincts as us. (BJ maybe you can confirm this). My cat Brownie, the 4 times preggers mommy- recently gave birth to 4 kittens. You can tell who the father is because among the four there is one grey kitten. Brownie is white with ginger patches. At the old house she had two boyfriends (or "husbands" as my kids call them because of COURSE she could not have babies if she was not married yet!) Anyway you would know who the father of any particular litter was because they would be faithfully reproduced in her kittens. Surprise surprise, there is a grey tomcat in my new area.

Now the previously never seen tomcat is always around and the kids tell me (and the maid also supports the story) that they are touchingly affectionate. Brownie brings the husband to see the kids (hidden behind the curtains in my LIVING ROOM ok - if Brownie pees on the chair she is so DEAD). The father visits the kids often , I hear. And most recently, Brownie has learnt to ask for food FOR HIM. After being fed, she would nag and nag until she gets - not just ordinary food- but sausages. She would hide it and the maid said, later this grey cat would come in and get the sausage from the hiding place.

Brownie!! Don't be stupid girl!! He's not going to be faithful to ya! Let him go before you get hurt! You think he's going to save any morsel of food for you, girl? Hee hee...Apparently they kiss as well. Who has ever heard of cats kissing?? On the mouth??

Hee hee hee anyway the good thing is the maid is slowly coming around to the idea that the kittens are here to stay....unless there are any takers?

Oh yeah - a picture of them being coached. I sure hope they get good fast. I love the coach- the kids love him too. He's very funny. He calls Ball "baw" and he makes the kids WANT to pick up all the balls- or baw. It's now twice a week . Amazingly the youngest pun can stick the one and a half hour.

Monday, March 03, 2008



Finally after many weeks of postponement due to Hubby's neverfree weekends, we got to go back to Kluang to see MomInLaw and DadinLaw. Left for Kluang after Zu's tahlil for Uncle Taufek- sedar tak sedar it has been a year since he left us. I could not imagine a reality when he would not be around - he was so central a figure to his children, his grandchildren, his wife, - but God loves him more I guess.

Reached Kluang at about Maghrib...after many many junkfood and toilet stops. Kids had not had that much junkfood for a long time so they ended up with tummy aches.

Mak and Abah are well. Later that night Brother in law wanted to go bowling so off we went to the newest Bowling alley in Kluang - and thinking that its just KLUANG, kids did not bother to change from their pajama looking baju. Sekali pergi JENG JENG- tersegan sendiri. Saturday night- orang ramai lah. BIL of course wiped the floor with us, he was so good. Sara cried sebab never got a point pun. So competitive .


Ok I am so used to the fact that as a medical person, hubby is always obliged to answer calls from hospitals . Nowadays, he gets calls from BOTH hospitals even when he is NOT on call. That's still ok although I wonder why he does not let his colleagues who ARE on call, handle the issue.

What I cannot tahan is his patients from entah mana mana, who are neither friends, nor relatives, calling his HANDPHONE at odd times during weekends, when he is neither working nor on call, and ask stupid questions which if they had bothered to go to the CLINIC , they would get the same answer to. Gerram . Is my husband your personal physician or what . And then when hubby refers them to see so and so doctor because that particular complaint of this patient is not surgical, hubby is expected to MAKE THAT CALL to that doctor to arrange for it!! That is too too much I tell you and I am amazed that there are people who would impose on someone's kindness like that. IF he is on call it's not so bad, but he was at a tahlil and he is entertaining this person's distress call who, frankly would get treated better if seen by a GP.

Sorry ye, as a doctor's wife- free time is sacrosanct! I told him to switch off the phone! While driving some more.


Semalam second installment of the tennis lessons. Balik je dari Kluang, buat homework,makan and then off we all went. Sekali..hujan- they moved to the squash court to practise their exercises. We went to the coffee house to minum - although we watched for the first hour. The lessons are interesting- they don't actually get to hit anything yet, but just exercises on how to serve, toss the ball ..tee hee . Hubby took video of the training session so I also can do lah later hahaha . I am SO Not co-ordinated , its scary.

There are a few pictures I was going to put up but internet explorer said there is a problem. Tsk. Try later. Ciou...

Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...