Hi there- yes I've managed to wrestle the PC back. We HAVE to get another laptop . (Can we make it a Pink Dell and tell Sophia it's her birthday present?)
So yes, the posting above is about some people's perception of FIVE MINUTES. Someone I know and love dearly and who is perfect in every other way, seem to think that FIVE MINUTES is a concept rather than a fixed time. That and "COMING". or "IN A SHORT WHILE". Hence many a times, I would be waiting for this otherwise perfect someone, who tells me in no uncertain terms that I was not to move from my spot as he would be coming in FIVE MINUTES to fetch me from work (we car pool) , only to find that the five minutes is anything from half an hour to maybe 2 hours.
Yesterday the five minutes stretched to two hours. The poor (otherwise perfect and lovely) guy was stuck in a meeting and could not get out. And could not sms me. Because his hand was also stuck in a meeting. Of course I was a bit peeved. Not because I was unnecessarily having to do extra hours in the office - but because to me it is a problem that can be very easily solved - by letting the person who is waiting for you, know of any variation to the agreed time.
It's like any contract. One party cannot be changing the terms unilaterally. Any variation must be mutually agreed. If you think there will be any event that will render keeping to the original terms impossible, then you must let the other party know. Ek? Just let the other party know, then the other party is free to decide on the next course of action.
This (otherwise perfect and lovely) person, finds it very perplexing that I see it that way. He can't let me know because there is no point as he was going to get me any time now. Hehehehehehe...
Now, after a calm and rational discussion, (hahahahaha) we have decided that even if a party gives a time for the other party to adhere to - it is only a concept and if the other party feels that he / she wants to vary or not depend on that time, he/she is free to not stick to it. Ie , if I don't want to wait, just go home.
I can't do that you see. Because I'd be thinking- If I take a cab NOW, what if, in FIVE MINUTES, he'd really be here?? Then I'd be wasting the cabfare! So I pun tungguuuuulah
So why not buy a car then? No one will have to wait for the other.
Well.. I kind of like being in a car together in the morning...Because other than this problem, that someone is otherwise lovely and perfect!
Yes SIL- they are brothers and I know you know what I'm talking about.
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