Hi ! How are you? I've been ill these past 2 days. I developed this huge swollen tonsils which made it hurt when I swallow - I fully blame the new office (of current firm)- we went for a visit last Wed and it was full of dust and paint fumes etc etc. And then I had to rush for a talk on Islamic finance thing...then on Thursday I woke up with this golfball in my throat and lead weights on my leg and also aching joints. So MC for 2 days. Although I felt well enough to join the gang in moving yesterday. Although by 5 I surrendered and went home (on MC afterall)
A long post today to make up for the absence:
1- Me and Hubby- the Supirs
Proper moving is today. Am going around 10 and expect to be there until late. Today is going to be crazy day for whoever between Husband and I, designated to pick up kids (probably my husband-again) . This morning there is TaeKwonDo grading for the girls. Last night sent Nadine to Qiyam at her school . This morning Husband sending the other 3 girls to the grading and then pick Nadine up- she has grading too! She wants to come home first to have her bath before going to grading. My Miss Diva refusing to have a shower at the school- there is a long line she said plus its yucky. Ini belum boarding school! After getting her home, have to send her back to grading, then have to go to office to move stuff - then Hubby have to go give a talk abt colon care. Then at 3, birthday party, and then at 8, barbecue (parents only) . Phew!! We need another car honey!!!!!
2. The COCO at ADNI
Because my kids just joined this school this year, everyone's a white belt holder so far. I bet in their classes a lot of their classmates have moved on. I'm glad that Adni stresses on selfdefence. Sara was showing me what she had to do for grading and I was impressed! Hahaha...
Sara definitely enjoys this school more than the previous one. She gets chosen for just about every other competition there is. Pidato lah, Public speaking lah (She won first prize), and now, she's been chosen to be part of the team for the school journal. She'll be one of the reporters. We make a biiiiiig deal out of it , of course. Partly to build her confidence. She needs something to be very good at and all her own. Nadine was the superstudent (which is why Nadine is extratakut if she does not perform- maintain her record mah) . So is Dahlia. Sophia is the Prefect. So now, Sara is the school reporter.
Now its up to us to make sure that the kids do not lag behind in their studies. Husband said to Sara's teacher- Banyak B ye? And the teacher's response- Eh Ok lah tu! Husband was NOT pleased. But on the other hand, kan, depa ni baru, relaks lah...
3. ARE GRADES IMPORTANT???
They know how important good grades are for us. I don't know if we are wrong or not to emphasise this- although I have said that to me, good grades merely mean that you remember what the teacher has taught you. I must be so garang - always yelling at them to go study. I read in their diaries stuff like "Mummy will be furious with me as I have a couple of Bs this time..she was so furious with Sara when she came back with her report card- I better not tell her I got my report card" ....so sad to be feared! Tapi tak gak belajar!
But I don't want them to think we're ok with them not doing well in school - I told them the other day that I love them even if they get Ds but I want them to WANT to be the best. And I want them to show me they have worked hard and tried their best - ni tengok Astro 247 camana...
Although I don't want to pressure them. HOW??? I want them to learn for learning sake- you really WILL need to find out how to calculate this or that, 38 years on, you know, girls. I was SUCH a useless student and therefore usuallly cannot answer my husband when he asks me trivia question like who was the 41st president of United States or where is the longest river in the African continent (I bet you anything that he would know)- I even forgot that Chao Phraya was a bloody river for god's sake. The look on my superior Husband's face- heee boring boring. You married me for my looks and my ability to have loads of kids from my wide hips honey, don't you remember. And!!! Giving birth to FIVE of your children earns me the right to be right. even if I'm not. Heh heh heh.
AND!! You may say it's not good to be so academically oriented, but these days results matters as things are ssoooooo competitive.. How to get to Harvard or Oxbridge otherwise or even NUS?? (in case I have a local grad reader- local universities are good too, ok)
4. ME -NOT THE EXAMPLE
Sigh...how did my parents cope with me...I was just content to glide through studies. My bar exams- well, yah, I studied, takda lah macam nak pengsan. I took it twice. The first time, I went to one exam and halfway there I asked my friend (Hi Shadida Ibrahim wherever you are) - "Eh this is Evidence kan?" She turned to me with a horrified look and shrieked "SHILA!!!!! Today is CIVIL PROCEDURE!!!!!!" ..ok, I failed that paper , no surprises there (but if I pass I had to go home and leave my boyfriend ...(who was by the way telling me to go home and do the CLP allready as the Bar is very hard to pass) ) - And when I passed my bar the next attempt (Hah I showed YOU Mr Boyfriend/Hubby!) I think my friend Shadid was MEGA Surprised. (So was I, but I had to pass, JPA was not going to pay for any more resits) . I have been verrrrrrrrrry lucky to get by with minimum effort (eh ada lah effort).
Which is partly why I am so motivated now. (Hah!!! She says, dengan perasannye) - (I mean, I think I am definitely more motivated than some of our younger grads these days....if tak spoon feed and tak easy, malas!!!) I REGRET putting minimum effort - heh heh. I should have been hungrier! But I am still this easily contented person..takes very little to please me. Heh heh..Ok enuff abt me.
5. DAHLIA'S SURPRISE ANNOUNCEMENT
Yah, last night Dahlia announced to her dad, that a boy likes her.
"A boy likes me and I like him too, daddy."
Cool je kan? "He likes me because I'm cute and I'm smart"
When hubby relayed this to me (I was in the shower) I gelak and thought - boy she's part Johorean allright!! (NOT lacking in self confidence) And then I thought- hangon a minute- she's EIGHT. What is she doing "liking" boys?
So I asked her- Dahlia, you like this boy? Yes. That's nice, Dahlia, you must like boys just as you like girls, as friends. But this boy likes LIKES me, Mummy.
What do you mean, "likes LIKES" you? As a GGGGGGGirlfriend????!!! Dahlia.! YOU.ARE.EIGHT.YEARS.OLD!!!! You.still.sleep.with.your.mummy! You CANNOT have a boyfriend at 8!! Nanti tak jadi doktor !!(ok no logic there)
Flashback to me telling my mom that Tengku M wanted to kiss me - at the age of 5. Hmmmm...Ignore ignore.
Dahlia has one answer ready. Uncle so and so had a girlfriend when he was 12. Which Uncle Dahlia??? And what is he doing right now???? I bet he is jobless right??
Ok, freaked out a teeny bit. But really. She's 8. I know its cute. I pun nak gelak. She said to me, A lot of ppl said I'm cute, mummy. Hahahahhaha! heee perasannye!!!!
In the end I said to her - Dahlia , when they say that, tell them- You should see my mom! Hahahahaha (maybe I'm part Johorean too heh heh) Nolah, tell them, thank you , and thank Allah as my looks come from him. And of course you can like boys , they are nice too. But maybe not anything more than friends ok Dahlia, until you are 28.
In the end the mother in me won over the "Friend" and I said to her sternly "ALL you have to think about is STUDYING ok Dahlia! I don't want to HEAR about boys liking you. BUT YOU MUST TELL ME EVERYTHING". (confusing her and me thoroughly at this point)" ITS BERDOSA TO KEEP SECRETS FROM YOUR MOM!"
That is my proposed Motto for my kids . My mom has been telling me two things since I can remember - (a) Education is everything and (b) always think of her when I want to do anything. DAMN effective,ok . I could not forget what she said even if I wanted to and I would have to think of her, if I wanted to do anything out of the straight and narrow. If you ask the other party, he'll probably say it was his fear of God and the Retribution that kept us on the straight and narrow! (nudge nudge wink wink)
Anyway I want "Never keep secrets from mom" to be what my kids curse- heh heh. Something they would feel compelled to do. can tak?? It's really HARD to know what to do!
Oklah. now I have to get dressed and go send Nadine for her grading. BYEEE