My maid is still in Batu Pahat at the agent's house (did I tell you her cousin was also there)...she was supposed to come back with the agent but then the agent's relatives were involved in a horrible traffic accident in Kahang and they all went to see the injured in ICU or something and now my maid may come back late tonight.
My reaction - on the one hand , mygod this is a horrible thing to happen and I hope that the relatives get well soon . On the other hand- you are so not going back to see any relative mak nenek etc without a definite way of coming back, woman. or at all lah, come to think of it. I am vacuuming mopping and washing up ok maid oi. On the other other hand, it's good once in a while to do housework after leaving it so long in the hands of a domestic...dah mengada-ngada. Kids are discovering that a mommy doing housework is a grumpy mommy indeed. I have 4 girls ok so I intend to train them in the arts of sweeping etc . At the moment I'd be grateful if they can just pick up their dirty laundry and put in the dirty laundry bin.
UPdate- she just came back- 2.00 am. Apa lah dia sembur kat I ye, I could not rasa marah langsung.. Tapi nanti I will tolak her gaji...haaaaaa... dont pray pray wiv me ok (habis garang lah ni- sheesh im so pathetic)
Expanding the Family the Instant Way
Second thingy- we went to a friend's house for raya yesterday and she said there is a baby for adoption now , about 1 week old, 2kg and a boy, do we want it.
Immediate reaction- yes we do.
2 minutes later- yes we do but ohmygod can we afford it, should we do it? We allready have 5. Spoken to this friend's sister (who by the way was a very famous tv personality and time seems to have stood still for her in terms of her looks, she is still that pretty as she was 20 years ago) and she did the adopting thingy and she said go for it. We have so much love to give a child and the child would not be deprived of his natural parents, he would just get another set- us!
We allready thought of names for it, Farid /Iskandar/ Najmi /Faris etc (Sophia suggested Michael or Eddie- er no lah kot. She also kept calling him our step brother and I said not in your life ok will you have a step brother! Husband gelak je) and we said - let's consult the ultimate voice of reason- my mom. So off we went to my mom's house and she said - Besar kan yang ada tu and when the children are bigger , baru adopt. That sounds very reasonable except I want this child to grow up with mine. there are pros and cons of raising someone else's child but for my husband and I , we want to raise him as one of ours, and even though biologically we are different, in all other aspects he will be ours. What happens when he grows up is Allah's will. I guess we should be prepared for him to resent us or the fact that he does not know his family (but we can always keep that line open for him so he knows he has another family. But THAT family is only his biological family and THIS Family is the one who bercengkang mata jaga him) ...I hope the family we give him , the life we give him, the education I hope we can give him, all will be fantastic enough for him not to resent us later. and anyway what guarantee do we have that our biological chimd will not do the same? As parents we have to just berdoa that all our children howsoever we came to be blessed with them, will love us and know that we love them till their dying days and of course, LOOK AFTER US. (yaaaahhh payback time kids!!!)
Dad said jangan ikut nafsu..ie think of the child not of what you want.
Hubby said, we will be giving this child what he would not get otherwise. And he has so much to give us too (like headaches and sleepless nights and extra costs- mahal oi!!)
So we are thinking about it some more... We all slept at Opah's house (my late grandma) - the last time I stayed the night there was ooohh 20 years ago. It was fun for the kids tidor rumah papan and they all berlari gedegang gedegung on the papan floor. Breakfast was served by my lovely auntie !
Now we are at home, thinking some more. Thinking, and hanging the clothes and doing laundry.