Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Hurt feelings everywhere

I have decided that I am totally useless at handling feelings. And today was a feeling day. It never rains but it pours they say.

1. Hurt feelings between good friends (not me ok) who used to be equal at work and now one thinks the other one talks down at her and thinks that the other one is perasan she is so good. Probably right too about the attitude but I think this must be a common problem when friends get promoted eh? Am torn between telling off friend A for being such a bossy boot and slapping friend B for being such a sensitive person.

2. Hurt my daughter's feelings today , when I came home to find out that three solats were missed ...and later she told me everyday I am telling her how disappointed I am with her. First, I said sorry for hurting her feelings, and second I said, while I didn't mean to hurt her feelings, what did she expect, balloons?? I have high expectations of my Islamic school educated children about meeting her prayers..it's not easy ...and if they don't meet the standard, I would be upset. ..but the disappointment is with the behaviour and not the person. You are also NOT compared to anyone else in the family, ok. You are special but you are NOT going to get away with computer games and WII the entire holiday and expect me not to say anything about it. Why can't they self monitor?

3. Hubbs very distracted today. Came to get me like at 9 pm and then won't talk to me, instead , busy fiddling with the handphone...I asked many times what went wrong and what happened but he said it was ok. This from the man who told me yesterday that I was the calm oasis in his life!! And now, evasive. Oh well, I will leave him to it...I'm sure he will open up when he feels ready to do so....Though I wonder what it is....?? I think he is too penat lar...

Hope tomorrow brings more sunshine!!

Monday, November 29, 2010

What we did this weekend.

What a crazy weekend! The one thing we did NOT do was have a lie in..a delicious lie in , while the rain pours outside..sigh....maybe next weekend pulak. This weekend I did what I most hated in the world to do- be amongst CROWDS.

On Saturday a friend called me for a date, she wanted to give me something. So out I went at half past 8 to meet her, then we went for breakfast at a warung...I had nasi dagang and she had nasi kerabu. Not bad, that warung at Wangsa maju, flies infested but ramai orang!

Then we went home, I had promised the kids a trip to Petrosains. Off we went (about ONE HOUR behind schedule because as usual they waited until I got home and started jadi SARJAN baru nak bertaburan lari) and we arrived at KLCC in due time...headed terrruuuuuuus to...bukan Petrosains, but TGV ....sebab on the way the 4 girls said eh jom tengok Tangl*ed! I am a sucker for (a) cartoon and (b) romantic stories so memang lah saya sokong 100% nak tengok wayang Tangled tu....tengok tengok ada ticket! Tak pernah I queue sebelum ni and terus dapat..

So after appeasing the girls (I had 3 with me) we went to Petrosains to appease the boys (also 3) .. unfortunately!! Kalau beli ticket now, we could only go in at 4. Hmm movie ends 4.20 . So how? So cannot lah! The boys had a back up plan which was ....Kino!! (The other plan was Petrosains kedai souvenir - small space - er no no)

So off we trundled (which means in my head, jalan ramai ramai in an disorganised manner) to Kino.....and they had fun reading and buying books, despite my suggestions to get new books, they wanted the books that they had been reading, and in some cases, almost finishing pun...Oh well...sekali sekala....

Then off we went to makan....at Kampung Pulau Pinang ha ha.. Good food except they forgot Sara's ORDER which was so kesian kat dia, dia makan lah adek dia punya leftover...(adek Johan bukan adek Sophia) . I hope i didn't put my friend off having kids. Ever.

Tangled was great!! The kids enjoyed it! Hubby wanted to come but only called me when the movie was over so tak payah ler....Then found out my 2nd brother yang LAMA MENGHILANG diri tu, was also in KLCC so I marched over there to where he is, smacked him one for not coming to visit his youngest brother in that big house...alowwwwnnnnnee (kesian nye ada kaklong scary camni) and then they all came to the house for dinner and then I zonked out at 9 and I didn't even see them go!

That was my Saturday......


Sunday ..began with husband being excited about going to MAHA and waking everyone up. Ok lah kitorang bangun pun subuh tauuuu tapi takdalah nak terus mandi siap kan...but he was very keen to go visit this agriculture show yang dengarnye ada pets and petting zoo and some animals. I was very excited to go anywhere with him actually physically present so I woke the kids up too. About 2 HOURS later we got going ...only to find the car swerving to the HOSPITAL because he has to discharge some patients. My kids never minded going to the hospital because they always have a ball of a time at the MYnews shop, beli air lah, makan lah, magazine lah..tunggu bapaknye 20 minit je tapi spend RM50. This time around I made them bring their own money..but actually I can't lah make them pay for their cream puff and their milo and their juice etc. As we were munching away dad came back and off we went for MAHA....

Tengok tengok JAM teruk at Serdang! The UPM toll was chocka! We followed the road signs to Maha show and amazingly for the first time, the signs were right! And the sign to turn was not placed AT the very junction that they want us to turn into! Kan, selalunye nampak sign dah too late to turn. Anyway it was a craaaaaaaaaaaawllll to get into the parking area. Husband pulak, chose the furthest parking spot. One thing about hubby he hates it when I moan about parking being too far. I hate walking he knows THAT. But he thinks he is being heroic or else he is weak if he tries to find a parking spot nearer to the entrance..So we walked laaa jauh ...nasib baik ada tram. Tu pun he masam kena naik tram..but jauh siyut....(to borrow my cousin brother's term)

MAHA2010 ni, you don't know where to start first. The tram offloaded us at this area, a lot of people were crowding around. there were also some stalls, selling kueh to broadband. At the other side I could also see some other stalls selling plants. Where to go first?? Toilet, of course! But there were 4 rows deep of people waiting to go in to the TOILET so that was out. I had nooo idea where to start. U know, I have No initiative. I MUST have instructions. So the idea of them placing lots of random stalls and exhibitions and say- good luck and have fun! - not very happy with that. I found out eventually (by taking the map) that there were some halls ..to which you have to walk (mooan moan)...husband asked me what was wrong as I was very quiet as we walked up in the humid air and my non pespiration absorbing headscarf...I was quiet because I was thinking..if I can't take the heat HERE, how on earth am I going to tahan in Mekah?? Ramainye...humid nye...I hate crowds... What if I moan and moan and cannot stop?? Waaa..

Once we got in (to the aircond) MAHA was actually fun! Hall A and Hall D je we managed to visit. With 5 kids in tow pulak today, we couldn't walk too far. Sara was wearing her riding boots so they were hurting her feet so half the time she went barefoot. We had mega fun in Hall A where they sold a lot of things...they sold fish (and we borongggggggg-- ikan kerapu, ikan bawalmas, sotong besar besar (which I have grilled and squeezed lemon over) ) and also kerang , shells yang you tak pernah nampak kat pasar (lagi lah I, yang tak pergi pasar ) - yang tak pernah jumpa kat Giant pun. I beli pes tempoyak dari Pahang untuk buat ikan patin masak lemak tempoyak- thought I was so clever until husband tanya- kenapa tak beli je tempoyak? ErkS?? a-ah yek???

Seronok nye membeli!! Hall A is where you will learn (and buy) about Boer goats, fish , produce etc...made me very proud of our Agriculture Ministry!

The one thing that I was immensely glad about was that we finally OPENED our tabung haji account!! Yayyyy!!! There was a stall by Tabung Haji can you believe it!! Yelah MAHA tu pun MAHA KUASA....HE knows kitaorang ni tak pernah sempat buat ....niat je ada...so HE put the stall depan mata! Walaupun hanya RM2 sorang..I'm so happy satu family dah bukak..padahal the HQ tu so lah the dekat..tak pernah ada masa to go. And once we sat down to apply, ramai lak datang... Now I have to find a way to go to Haj earlier than 2035 (boy I would be 60) .

Satu je complain...Hall D had this huge huge food court. Tempat makan depa too big. and not enough chairs and tables. No one would give up their table for the poor lady with 5 children (husband got stuck watching roticanai exhibition) I had to hang around one table where a chinese couple was enjoying their food and instead of waiting like a hawk for them to finish (tempted to do that), I asked them if they minded that I wait there...sorry lah so rude. There was another couple also eating. So we started talking and they were there to buy orchids and yeah they're tired too and yes RM18 for the bawal IS cheap.

And a lot of people came to sit and got shooed away by me except lah this Indian guy who was limping (one leg shorter than the other) and I first told him I had booked the table then I felt like a total heel , so I told him to sit down because Sophia Yana and Yaya and husband were still queing up for the nasi ayam anyway (strange tau, stall lain kosong, the nasi ayam stall PANJANG line dia) ...he sat down , then his friend who was with him, didn't dare to sit , and instead put his plate on the RUBBISH BIN!!! (u know, the tall green one) that was behind us, and tried to eat standing up. ADA KE??? So I told him to don't be so ridiculous,. duduk je lah!! And they sat very apologetically (WHY LAH???) Maybe they were immigrants. Or cleaner. Who cares lah,duduk lah je I kesian you tu ada disability. Sara and JOhan were with me , but dah tertidur dah. Sara dah miserable sebab kaki sakit.

So since its 1.22am now, I better wrap up this drama minggu ini, basically, we decided to call it a day even though we wanted to see so much more...it was starting to rain... we walked back in the rain to the car...not without stopping to buy 5 baloons , 3 of them spongebob, ..beli lagi kan??? Husband walked back (hero kan) with 3 bags of ikan dan lain lain ....taknak tunggu I take the car around to him...

The kids zonked out in the car (me too) . I was flat out BUT!! Apparently we had been invited to visit a friend's do for his daughter ..so we went (at 9 pm) and just got back....sigh

TOmorrow can I have the day off boss?? (Or rather today) he he he..

Friday, November 26, 2010

Hi ! Mak was here


So lama tak update.

Mak and abah were here last week. They brought a lot of beef, (funny, it looked a lot, but now it's almost gone! Forgot my family is so huge) And mak cooked nasi minyak yummmmmmmm... and have forgotten my diet. We called brother in law (it was his birthday after all) and his family. Then we went to Mak Mas' house that very night at midnight to return to Mak mas the bajukurung I borrowed from her for her son's wedding. Not that I don't have a bajukurung in purple, just that I didn't have a baju kurung in purple that FIT me. Tu yang kena pinjam tu. And the sad thing is, my auntie is makcik size lah kan..and now I can wear her clothes. And it was so comfy. Sigh sigh sigh

Anyway. That was on a Monday or Tuesday. 22nd anyway. Then the next day my inlaws went for hospital check up. It was only because of hospital checks that they are here for so long otherwise mak would worry about her cats. She said nanti matiii tak bagi makan. I said (under my breath) tapi kalau mati takyah lah risau dah hahahaha..ish im so bad. Actually you know Im such a softie

It was nice to have them around. My kids kena kerah semayang sorang sorang. The way they kerah us. STILL. Husband lak suddenly sibuk. Ye ke...suspiscious betul sebok masa mak ada nih..tak nak kena leter ke?? My son came down one night, (I was downstairs) with tears in his eyes. I tau dia kat atas tu kena "train" how to pray by the nenek. She was watching and correcting. He came down and he asked me..how long are they going to be here???

Kurang asam betol...I said as long as they want. And he said "She's torturing meeeeee!" And I said she is just doing what she did to your father and she is right to teach you. He did not like that. since mommy and daddy so soft kan. Leter sekali dua je...pas tu naik tangan. Hahahahah.

Anyway now that they've left I miss them. My mother in law and I spent hours (2 to be exact) in the kitchen chatting..she told me the Pak Ghani behind their house in Muar was the one who named Mak Z and Mak B- and also she told me of the antics that her sister got up to. He he he...everyone is young once...

I just feel sorry that the son , was not able to be around. Penting sangat ke orang kena tembak tu yang...hehehehehe..

Saturday, November 20, 2010

I am a Possessive Mom

So nadine has created her Facebook account. You know how I feel about my children having facebook account. Yah yah, I know your kids have them, and okayyy je right? But entah I am having a bit of a problem dealing with my children growing up. I just wish they wouldn't ask for it you know? Yeah FB is great with connecting with old friends but when you are their age, what old friends do you have? You are still meeting your friends what. Sara, who had secretly created her FB account without telling me and is very upset that I want her to delete the account, had her friend's wall post appear on hers lah kan. And the status is entah apa apa- you are exposed to other people's way of talking, (the particular post had bad language) - entah can I have my kids stay in Kidsland for a liiiiiiitle bit more?

So anyway to give in to Nadine, I told her that I will create the FB account for her. And I did. And she deactivated it ! She said she has created her own, lah mummy. AND she would NOT give me her password or user ID . Whatever I said she would reply "I KNOW lah Mummy! Would I do that? or would I do anything bad?" Sighhhhhhhhhhh it's not what you know (and at 15 you know everything kan ) and of COURSE you would not do anything bad but I don't want you to be out there in the Internet world without me being able to access it and protect you. Yes I am 100000% behind parents who read their children's diaries. We have a responsibility to protect those we bring to this world, however unpopular we become - but don't lah tell them you read, that would be real tak pandai he hehehe.

Bila anything bad happen at least no one can turn around and say Why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you stop me??

Kids, they need guidance. Kan?

Ok so I am upset lah with Nadine. At the same time I feel that I should trust her. But husband is supporting me (or rather, jadi batu api) and said no internet!! maybe that's the way it should be, lah,. the old parenting style where you don't dare to raise your voice to your parents. I'm a bit confused as I WANT to be that parent, but I am actually a membermember Im your friend kind of parent. At least with Nadine. And it doesn't help that I cannot say NO.

Kids if you are reading this. I don't want you out there where your information can be accessed by the public. You only have to google a name and if the FB account is there, he will be there. Seriously . How many times have I googled my clients and within minutes I can find all their personal info including their family pics! Vice versa lah they can also google me, but I have nothing to hide and I don't think anything can be used against me. Unless, like mom said , there are people out there who may wish you less than happiness and will go visit the bomoh to make sure you dont stay happy. I think about that too but still, I can't worry too much!

Ok lah either you think Im such a great parent, or you think I need help. Sigh....

PS By the way Nadine is having a great time over there! She has gone sight seeing, gone to celebrate eid at her room mate's family house in Yemen (how lucky is that that her room mate has a Yemeni family??) and has taken a lot of pictures. She is only now washing her clothes though and when I called her she couldnt come to the phone as she was hanging up her clothes. Ha ha my baby..membasuh kain.

PPS/ on the other hand i dont want the kids to grow up into ME, who was very protected that I didn't know how to catch a bus until I was 19 and I still don't know how to shop properly in a pasar. (I asked hubbs to come with me to identify the fish). Sigh. sedihnya.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Eid Ul Adha break

Ok ok . we are in Kuantan..hi hi hi...

Apa nak buat..my parents are in Ireland, my in laws are in Kluang and too far to go to for one night, so either we spend our day with our many relatives in KL, or we stay home , or we go somewhere. Husband of course had many patients to check on until I reminded him that he ALWAYS has patients and he has to choose lah what to do with them. So he chose to let his colleague who was on duty to handle his patients for the time he is away (yeah , honey, all of 40 minutes I'm sure) - Im sure she will do fine...I actually didn't know whether we were really going, until quite late, due to his schedule suddenly clearing up.

Anyways. So of course lah we chose to head to Kuantan...the nearest decent beach right? And we have decided that the best cleanest hotel there is the Hyatt. Have been to many , and Hyatt has the best room, the best view, the best beach and the best service. Siap spa lagi.

So I hangkut my baby brother, who now that my dad was not around to order him around, is at a bit of a loss. Gedebuk gedebak by the time we left, it was 9. Ada ke?? We fetched Shah first.

Oh my gawd the traffic was terrrrrible!! It was basically a crawl from KL to Bentong !! We stopped at Selesa Hillhomes JUST to go to the toilet!! I took over the driving from then on as husband suddenly felt tired..he doesnt feel tired until he actually sits down, then the exhaustion takes over!So he was asleep all the way to Maran , then we changed again.

We finally arrived at the Hotel at 1.30 am. Giler kerja. Had to prove to the receptionist that husband is actually a gomen doctor (to qualify for the gomen rate which is RM100 cheaper than the normal rate! ) Kids were sleeping and groggily settled into the rooms. Shah had his own bed, Sophia had her own bed, and the rest crammed into my bed ha ha.

Subuh bangun and dengan excited nye reminded everyone nak pi semayang raya at the Masjid Kuantan.

the next thing I knew it was NINE AM. The nearest we got to Hari Raya prayers was to watch it on telly. Huhuhu! And everyone got their baju melayu lak tu. Everyone rushed to breakfast before they close at 10 am, all tak mandi . And hoo hooo takda rendang...semua berhari raya with mushroom omelettes, congee, etc. Husband "tala" croissants. And then said tak berapa sedap. After the SIXTH croissants. Ha ha ha

And then we all HIT THE SEA! Sungguh menggoda the laut. I have not gone into the sea for absolutely ages - selalunya tengok je. But the beach was clean and the waves didn't look too bad- er NOT! The waves were huge - Kuantan Five 0. Ha ha. We had fun lah until about 1 pm and then everyone headed to the pool, except me and Shah and we headed to the chairs and then we fell asleep and then we realised that it was 3 pm and we had better go up - only to find that everyone else had also gone up from the pool . We all had KFC for lunch- nasib baik lah extend one more night. kalau tak terkocoh kocoh nak kena check out.

Eh boring lak baca this diary ye?? Ok ok sat lagi kita discuss pasal Prince William nak kawin dengan Kate ok.

Now we are heading towards Adi's house - hubby's friend who he has not seen. We plan to squeeze a visit to NONI if she is in...but tengok time permits or not.

Esok kena kluar at 5 am!! Semua orang kerja!!Boss I garang hooo he he


Tuesday, November 16, 2010

HI there

Watched Megamind last night. Cool! The bad guy turned out to be the good guy in the end. Must go and watch ok. very cute.

called mom in law yesterday. She's ok. Thinking of going home for Eid and husband tells me he is working . Alah he's always working lah!

Actually , quite at a loss as to what to do for Eid. Shd really just be staying in one place, reflecting about sacrifice. rather than travel here there everywhere. Although may go see the sea.

Anyway..selamat menyambut hari raya haji peeps...

Sunday, November 14, 2010

How are you?

Just chatted to Nadine

She's not homesick yet, she said. All the food that I gave her, has been emptied into the common pool of food - everyone surrenders their food and shares. I told her - make sure she keeps SOMEthing for those long nights if she malas nak turun ke apa ke. So far she has finished all the Indomi goreng (my favourite too) and her stash of milo in 1- the common milo ada lagi lah in the kitchen.

She has bought herself a ni qab- the veil on the face. Of course lah I miss my darling daughter. She's been gone about 10 days. another 50 days to go~! I'm ok at the moment..tak tau lah if next 10 days macam mana..take it one day at a time. How can I justify spending money to visit her, when I know that I can use the cost of the ticket, for the other 4 at home?

And on that topic-----! School hols has officially started and apparently Im bringing the kids to London or Australia. This is according to Sophia ha ha. I would LIKE to go, is what I said, because my parents are there until March. Ireland I mean. Not London. Or australia. Would be nice, to surprise them...however surprises like that tend to clean out the bank account heheh.

Have been pretty grumpy lately. That time of the month. Actually I think it must have been all that rushing here there everywhere, I finally felt the effect..I had a mega headache all day Friday, Saturday and only now does it seem to go away. I yelled at the kids, and just found them incredibly annoying. Johan said to me, "Mummy, you must have forgotten what it was like to be a child when your mom shouts at you...?"


This morning the Islamic school had a performance day. Daughter no 2 got best in english. Daughter no 4 got no 1 and also best in English. Daughter no 3 was performing with Daughter no 4. Me, son and hubby lined up to watch. Despite being told that it was to start at 7 and rushing like mad cause we all woke up late.

Hubby mengelat..rupanye dia plan nak pi tengok patient dia...so off he went. AND MISSED THE ENTIRE THING!! He only came back when Sara was about to get her prize, 3 hours later...When I told him , why lah you do this..he said I dont need this. Wei??!! Hello ...the kids are our joint project, and I am not going to have the partner miss the project key milestones - this is a partnership and not a sole enterprise.

The performance day was v interesting. It was a drama about 5 boys who were on their way to Gaza. (Gaza is a special cause for Adni) and they were supposed to be on a flotilla...and then they got bombed and they were floating in the sea, praying that they would be rescued and they decided to tell their lifestories and what led them to where they were ...so sorang sorang cerita lah..one, had been very selfish until his very kind wife died and he realised that she was right all along and he has to be kind to others and think of God..and one pulak was always very angry and then his father showed him that anger will always leave scar. etc etc.

So menyayat hati and I of course lah shed a tear. I pun tengah that time of the month ..so minah leleh lah sikit...

Sophia and Dahlia took part in nasyid by the way. They looked so cute! Nanti kalau ada gambar, I will upload.

Ok nite nite!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

The Happy ending..ish

Firdaus is finally home with his family.

After 3 weeks being lost, he "surrendered" to his auntie! He was found walking outside of her house. It was a miracle that she was outside at that very same moment, because had he come the day before, no one would have been home.! It so happened that he was outside, and she asked him in. He wouldn't go in at first !

In the meantime, three other men at least as well as hubby, were in LakeGarden area looking for him, as he was spotted walking there. Hubby was in shirt and tie, coming straight from the university where he was giving his talk. As they were searching high and lo, they heard the news that Firdaus was found and had been successfully lured into the house and was now eating. Alhamdullillah.. i couldn't go but i couldn't stop feeling so choked up. so relieved and it now struck me that my brother in law was on the streets for 3 whole weeks, mealtimes came and went..what did he do when he was hungry? He must have been rejected, or shouted at, or hit, even. He was thin. he had a scar on his head, he had a beard, he was holding his right wrist as if it hurt. The doctor brother checked him out and declared no bones broken. Did anyone abuse him? There must have been people who were kind to him..his tshirt was new.

What amazing timing though, that he came home right after Idwan got married and everyone was in KL. My inlaws were allready here and they went straight to the house together with my brother in law (who lives in JB!) I was the one meng"war war" kan..sorry lah macam attention seeker kan but it was really out of love and concern for Firdaus.. i just hope no one feels embarrassed by it.

Mental illness happens in the best of families. It happens in everygeneration. And the worst thing that they can say will be - look at so and so, poor him, his family is so well off or well to do or well brought up or well anything, but no one cares about him. I do NOT want us to be the family who abandons the parent- you know the story you read in the papers where the parents have 9 children but end up in old folks home. Whatever lah the background,. families stick together.

But on the other hand..everyone busy..and what can you do with mental illness in Malaysia, very little knowledge and even more little (heh? Bantai je lah buat perkataan) support. This sms I got from ths person CW who has been very concerned about Che Daus missing, ends with him/her telling me that his/her brother is suffering from schizophrenia also and is in a good home being taken care of by a family friend.

Of course I hope there is a cure for Daus...he was the star of the family, it would be lovely if he can have a normal life. His parents hope for him to be a functional member of society, knowing how bright he is. As it is he loves to write. He writes Ayat Qursi in his beautiful handwriting...and I have a host of career for him that he can do without actually speaking! Come to think of it, speaking is way overrated anyway..! Maybe banyak dosa can be avoided if kita diam macam Che Daus!

Anyway here in this blog I would like to say a very big, KLCC Tower size thank you to everyone who has searched for him, or wished us well, or spared a prayer for his return...and a special mention to these lovely selfless individuals :

1. May Cheong Abdullah
2. Niki Cheong
3. Wan Shana

Plus Faiz, and Irman and everyone who has spent time and effort and sweat to look for him....

Im so glad there is a happy ending (of sorts)

Sunday, November 07, 2010


By now, some of you would have read about Firdaus. He walked out of my house 2 weeks ago and we haven't seen him since. This is the longest time he has gone.

Let me tell you about Firdaus.... This has been a blog post I have never wanted to write..ever. I had hoped that his condition would improve, and that he will get better.

I first met Firdaus in Nottingham., his name means paradise, doesn't it. ..I had just started dating his brother and he had arrived from Malaysia to do his A levels in Fettes College in Scotland. Wow.. a good school, Tony Blair's school- He was fair, pretty and quiet. although not sombong.I would see him quite often in Notts, and he became friends with our friends, DadofSix and Kitchenguardian included. I learnt that he was his mother's favourite . He was also the champion qari (quran reciter) for either the school or the state at one time.

Then he did his Alevels. I heard he was quite badly sick in Scotland- the teacher called hubby (mr hot bf at the time and not mr paunchy husband yet ha ha) and said that something was not right with Firdaus..He came back to Notts and stayed a while. He did do his Alevels and he got 2As and a B, fantastic results by anyone's standard (by mine, certainly) but not to do Medicine in UK..so he got admitted into pharmacy in Cardiff...and being there, we saw him settled with his malaysian housemates...

Then we got a call to say Daus was behaving weirdly..we went to fetch him. We were married then and to cut a long story short, it was believed that he was having a breakdown because he wanted to do medicine instead..so the JPA people helped him get admitted into Galway University in Ireland and off he went to do his first year....

And he did brilliantly well..best student in first semester...but soon we had another call. This time from a doctor in Galway. He had been sectioned. He came home to us (we were in Essex then) and my in laws came over. Time to bring him back to Malaysia...he had been hearing people talking about him behind his back , he said.Classic paranoia complex.

Zoom to now..he's 38..his future that was so promising, is gone. He was diagnosed with schizophrenia, and has seen countless doctors, with countless visits. Plus countless medication. His father was, until very recently, the only one he would listen to in terms of medication. He once told me he hated to eat the medication because of the side effects. This was before, when he was still talking. He stopped years ago about the time we admitted him into the MentalHealth Hospital. He didn't say a word after that. Is he angry with us?

I'm sorry, is this an embarrassing post to write? Is there a stigma? I asked my husband, do you think this will hurt your career. having a sick brother? He said categorically NO. He doesn't care. In fact he spent 4 hours yesterday walking along the roads of TTDI looking for him. Firdaus didn't ask for his fate..

Now all of us are very worried about him. Makan apa, minum apa, mandi tak, dah lah specs pecah sebelah. We hope someone will be kind enough to feed him and take care of him wherever he goes....

Please, if you do see a lanky, thin, man, walking around, call us - Shila 0126356546.


Friday, November 05, 2010

Penunggu Airport (or, "Nadine's gone hu hu" )

If there is one thing I want Nadine to be, its safe. Safe and sound. Never mind lah not happy ke, homesick ke, although of course I hope she is happy and is NOT homesick (well...maybe a little bit) but on the whole she is in Yemen and I want her to be safe!

We sent her yesterday. Yarabbi mak cik tu relax lah pasal packing..leeeepak je. She thinks I've overdone it with the medicine etc. I have packed as if she is going into a warzone ha ha. She's got ubat for everything that I can think of- Pil chiketek on included, and her dad bought some antibiotics ! I even gave her detergent although I'm quite sure she has never washed anything in her life. And we have taken some travel insurance as well! On the food stuff she's not lacking either, although initially I only gave her some 3 in 1 milo and some snack bars. Then Mr Dad of Six whose no 2 was also going, told me that he had bought Brahim (you know the one, they're basically cooked Malaysian dishes in packets), tuna in tins, nesvita etc. Alamak I didn't get lah! So I pun went to get..after all the kids wont get breakfast in Yemen, only the other 2 meals right...so they will need to eat SOMETHING . Now my daughter can eat brahim for approximately 2 weeks if she pandai stretch it.

Husband came back only at 2 pm, by the time he came back I was freaking out, as I had to swing by Bangi to pick up some specially ordered Kueh Tart. I mean, they ARE going to celebrate Raya there...so at least got kueh. Darn it I should also pack some DODOL and BAHULU..apa lah I nih!

Got to the airport , huffing and puffing, only to find parents loitering around and news that the flight had been delayed from 6 to 8 pm!! Managed to eat and solat before we got called to go to the departure area. Then the organiser, Sara, (this English revert who runs the Arabic Language centre) gathered everyone in a circle and we all read a doa for their safety. Huhu..so sad.. masa ni lah orang berair mata. My daughter however was happy as a bunny~! he he

Once we saw her off, we went to lepak at Bro in law's place in sepang...they took us for dinner at Auntie Aini- a really nice place! macam dalam kampung gitu...and the food s' good too! Western for the kids and local for us! Steaming hot ikan jenahak asam ..yumms!

Then at half past 9 balik ke airport again!! Mom and dad were waiting allready, having just checked in..they were all dressed for ireland,. As usual mom has this perpertually worried face on, I had to tell her to relaxxxx.....she would have to check out at Frankfurt airport and re-check in for Cork!

Finally bababababaabaiii at half past...phew! Glad that they both went off safely....

Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Divali with my new friends

My friends at BNI have invited me over to their deepavali do! Waah I feel very the one Malaysia because for a long time I have only ever gone to like 2 houses for deevali... Now I have more than 2~!

The guys at the BNI are very interesting people. There's Colin who owns Jadibatek gallery, smack in the middle of KL near Beryl chocs where you can actually learn to draw batek there and have classes and bring it back.I went to the gallery...its big ! And I don't know why he's in BNI it looks so successful as it is! The other day he brought about 10 pieces of batik material to the meeting, (he was presenting) and I bought SIX!!

Then there's TG who is the locking specialist who supplied unreplaceable uncopiable locks to UIA and reduced the illegal residents by 90% ha ha. He's really sweet and attended to my mom when she got burgled! Dua je locks I beli but he was so attentive and fast!

Then there's Angie, who everytime she comes to the meeting, would be swathed in jewelry..she is the jewelry shop owner! She is very interesting cause she would tell you about the properties of certain metal, or which is cheap this month, she does all sorts of stones and is now repairing my wedding ring which has dropped a diamond !

There's also the very cheeky Rajiv..he's young although he's such a internet
savvy guy..he brings traffic to your blog or facebook or twitter etc..he advertises at your blog and make sure you get money out of the blog or fb or whatever. very useful if you are a business owner! Of course he works hand in hand with the Website specialist, Jon!

I also really like Mr Muru...he's so soft spoken but very savvy...he owns Kapoor Lamp shade and of course he sells lamps and lightings, He will attend to your order of one or 2 lamps, but he's also supplying personalised customised lighting and chandeliers for mosques! He was asking us to look around for those who want to clean their chandeliers- he supplies hotels as well ! Anyone wanting to refurnish their house I will direct you to this man!

Then there's Dr Fauziah...she is very the famous allready lah in Melawati..very flamboyant lady..got website drfauziah.com. her forte is whitening and cosmetic dentistry . Natalie from Hitz.fm pun went to her to cantik kan her gigi.

Thats only haf of them..ada pest exterminator....ada Smarthomes guy (one remote for all!) ada wireless cctv guy (can put in after house is built !) and ada travel agent and events coordinator, ada corporate gift guy...etc etc!

Tu yang I dont mind waking up every Friday morning to meet up with these people, Their drive to promote their business is amazing...and they are genuinely good in what they do (if they are not there would be complaints allready from others) . The best thing is, they are nice!

Happy Deevali guys!!

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Stolen phone

I lost my phone.

On Saturday night, the conference people insisted that we follow them to dinner. I really wanted to find our own food, and had been salivating over the Penang food trail brochure that Nadine took . Oh well, maybe they would take us to some hawker place..Nope. They took us to this posh restaurant. A proper 3 course meal - starter, main (beef steak) and dessert.. The restaurant was nice, and the food was nice, but after a whole day of swimming the kids were so tired out and they only picked at the food. Plus we had a late lunch at the local nasi kandar place (sotong goreng dia sedaaaaaaaaaap) and were still full! So I spent the time chatting to the doctor beside me.

Just after dessert suddenly there was a flurry of movement. A group of doctors had gotten up- to go to Nasikandarberatur! TUlah. datang penang makan lah penang food kan? Maybe the organisers should take note. He he

So we all pun went off lahhh..I was still chatting to the lady doc beside me. We went on the bus and arrived at the hotel. Subconsciously I thought where's my BB but I thought- alah ada lah in my bag tu. BIG MISTAKE. Once I arrived, I checked the bag and of course lah it was missing. Husband and I scoured the bus. But of course lah takda. Called the restaurant- takda. Called my phone it had allready been turned off. The restaurant denied ever seing it. I rasa lah kat restaurant tu, ada orang panjang tangan.. The celcom ppl said it probably was taken since it was turned off. Boohooo..

TAPIIII!!Best gak tau takda bb...it was a relief NOT to have to check your email, or to check your fb status, and it was a relief NOT to have the urge to update your status EVERY SINGLE MINUTE. And the palm feels free not having the BB clutched in it...Ha hahahaha....So in a way , its a blessing in disguise lar

But on the other hand, felt it was important enough to buy another one. So back to the grind ...

Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...