Monday, December 31, 2012

Sampaiiii jugak


When you are in KL you never think cold can be THAT cold. Well, here in Zurich, let me tell you, it is COLD. The type of cold that you wished you had worn another pair of pants over your pants. And what were these cold things attached to your arms? oh your stop feeling them after a while dah hehehe

We arrived safely thanks to KLM. Stopover at Amsterdam. Transferred to another smaller cuter plane. Both flights were very smooth, I would recommend this airline to anyone. The stewardesses must have won some anti aging campaign because I swear they  are all over 50  (all pretty, all efficient) Everytime they say something it feels like your teacher talking wonder everyone was so well behaved! If they ask you "Chicken or beef" you feel like nodding and say whatever you want, teacher...hehehehe.! The seats were okaylah, would have been better if the guy in front of us did not decide to push his seat wayyyy back into our faces...just cause you can doesn't mean you should, bub! Nasib baik tak spill drinks or what. The food was also good and they didn't have kosher or vegetarian, they said to me, when I asked ...they only have halal- Hahahahaha.. what a miscommunication..i wanted to ask halal in the first place but didn't know if they understood it, so used the word kosher..should not have bothered. Rupanye food from KL halal sila lah bedal...

Too old to sit through a long flight, I tell you. Badan penat...and kept dozing off. KLM has this screen in front of you with a gazillion movie cartoon, etc and the tv ada comedy lah drama lah ..i watched NCIS, 2 and a half man, friends, frasier, and this movie called Royal Affair (totally in danish I think but really surprisingly good-check it out)  Because of the tv thing hubby and I didn't really speak! And this was supposed to be our anniversary (among other things) trip!

There's one funny thing immigration in zurich from amsterdam. The plane offloaded us right to baggage claim (turn left to shops if not ready to go to baggage yet) and thereafter, straight out! My passport does not have zurich on it! Pelik ek?  

I am very very bersyukur dapat jejak kaki here..wanted to come here since 19 years ago - kononnye nak pergi honeymoon dulu masa kawin..tak jadik sebab mas cancel their flights to zurich. So this time dapat lah merasa...

Am of course worried about the kids...have sorted their school things..and given directions to them all and especially Nadine as kaklong..Nasib baik lahhh school is 5 minute walk from home..and none of them start standard 1 or what (although daya is FORM 1 yay!) .. Peti ais dah penuh and duit dah bagi. Thankfully my amazing mom and dad are with them (boy I seriously need to find a fantastic present for them- suggestions? ) and my brothers too! I don't see my brother and their families often but whenever we go away (and we kinda go away a few time gak lah so far) they always always come over to check on the kids- this time around I heard they dropped by and apparently they will take jojo until school opens..thanks Pol I love you (and will carik present for you too ok) ...Tapi kena budget budget kat sini..things are soo expensive..! Naik cab to hotel , a mere 5 minutes drive is 23CHF (francs)- ie RM70 kau!! Pikirkan dah penat je...kalau tak dah  I jalan dari airport..and considering that I hate walking that's saying something ! 

Ok lah..time to tidor..sebab dah 1 pagi..tapi i dah tido since 8 pm ..camana ni? subuh pukul 6.25 am , cerah pukul 8 lebih pagi ! maghrib pukul 4.20 i think. Cabarannya duduk negeri orang ni..toilet takda paip nak cebok..(i seriously will market my collapsible cebok how about it guys, ada buyers tak)  bilik hotel (novotel - very efficient and not too mahal) don't have kiblat markers (taram je) . makan cheese kena check if vegetarian ke tak ..syaitan kan, suruh makan je.. (seriously, I did think kalau makan je senang kan) but then hey! fight to do right! (macam solat-senangnyeee kalau tak yah carik bilik prayer kan) = fight fight okay shila! (self remindernih) 

Babai..catch up tomorrow ok. 

Friday, December 28, 2012

Alfatihah for Maklong

Today...mak long passed away..

Maklong is (or was?oh tidak) my mother in law's eldest sister. She was 76 years old. She used to live in Segamat but since she became unwell she lived with her son in Shahalam- She had kidney failure.(macam karangan english lak).  I got the message this morning via sms that she has left us.

Yang  very unsangkarable is that I just saw her about 4 days ago! Sunday night ..sorry about 5 days ago. Mom in law was in KL  and wanted to go visit and so we went..  Arrived maghrib time at the son's place- the daughter in law siap buat mee lagi. Maklong was praying when we arrived but then came out to chat with us.

Best duduk dengan maklong..borak pasal how young she looked! And you know what, she did look young. Her skin was blemishfree, no liverspots like me, and also she was glowing..My how she beamed to hear that- in front of her younger sister , my mother in law pulak tu. She said her skin haritu pun ada orang remark..(modest he he) and she said her tip is- WUDHU! senang sangat- she was also the one who advised me once- say Allah 1000 a day , the 4 quls 70000 in your lifetime. Boleh buat ?

When we saw her she was just about to start her dialysis at PPUM... She went everyday ... and today the nurse told her she can do it at home..and she was so happy, she collapsed. She had actually collapsed in a similar manner three times allready..(one time she said she heard people read laillahaillallah...and when she recited it , she woke up...she was actually out having a heart attack !) ...but this time, was her time. Again on a Friday morning.Rezeki you mak long....

Sigh.just goes to show how fragile life is.

Paklong seemed so lost. When we went to visit them that night he was so quiet. Today we put him in our car, to go to the burial ground, he was so chatty: about her, about how they met, about how he did better than her in school, about how he never realised he was waving to her for the last time. After the prayers we all were about to go to the cemetery, then saw Pak Long alone, I think he was told to wait there, because he is not mobile (stroke and needs a wheelchair to walk) ..we put him in the car and took him to the cemetery but just as we arrived, the skies REALLY OPENED ! so we sat in the car watching them baca talkin and (for the first time ever for me) a jentolak mengaut tanah!

Alhamdulillah..dah selamat kebumi ..the son came over, opened the car door, told the father..It's done, dad. I've done it , I've completed her burial. And Pak long said : Thank you son, you are a good son. And he choked.

And huwaaaaaaa! I cried finally.

Whenever I am at a funeral I am not the one to cry- I always feel like the person had gone outstation to another world and there must have been a reason why and it's always a  better reason. For Maklong, perhaps she was to be spared the dialysis daily? Or perhaps she went quickly, without anyone but her son (who accompanied her) with her, to spare everyone from the pain? My sis in law told me Mak long once said - she wanted to go first because she could not live without pak long.


Ok lah itulah ajal..redha lah..for the family..I pray for you to be strong..and please take care of your father..the love of his life, a truly good woman, is now gone.

Al fatihah Maklong.


Thursday, December 27, 2012

5 minutes on my kids

I am totally blessed. My kids are lovely. 

Selalu kena buli dengan mummy, kena buat kopi atau picit kaki, kena jerit bila tak mandi , kena jerit nak makan nasi ,kena jerit suruh solat sekali. Hishhh despite that my kids are very cheerful, and love to chat and never fight for toooo long. 

Insyallah this will continue..

I hear of teenagers who don't talk to their moms..glad this is not the case here! maybe boys more likely kot....girls susah nak suruh diam. I play the BE QUIET game whenever dah stress..esp in car..when they talk very loudly ..mummy will call out = let's play the BE QUIET game! sapa can be quiet the longest wins! They will play it sportingly even though the prize is just a kiss. And of courselah masa be quiet tu...mulut je tak bercakap, tangan dok tercuit cuit and apparently buat sign language pun ada..tapi, the most important thing: it's quiet. and i get peace for a few blessed minutes!

Everywhere we go it would be so loud! Even Nadine would be disturbing the sisters or johan, and they would be squealing away. Kat hospital bapak dia, kat kedai, sama je. Sometimes rasa nak cubittt je. Yesterday we were at the new restaurant kat melawati called the HALICONYA cafe...(ok je lah) - pun cakap kuat kuat...I had asked them for their memories..what do they remember of say Sophia, or Daya, or me, and it was hilarious the stuff they remembered! Daya put a whole pearl in her nose, one time. Johan drank milo basi . Nadine had tissue in HER nose. Sopiha loved Richard Scarry. I should have blogged earlier, maybe I would record all this for posterity he he

Eh okaylah. better wake these kids for subuh

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Rambling on and on today

Ya it really 25th of December ?? Where did 2012 go? Baru nak bermesra mesra , dah pergi. chet! 

Betul lah..time just goes and waits for no man. It doesn't wait for you to get organised or get that book software or get some savings going, it just goes and goes and before you know it you are another year older and still have the SAME resolution as LAST YEAR.

Well. This year I dah start the gym so that's one down. Although I don't know if that's an achievement because I will actually start the year HEAVIER than I ended it last year..oh I cant believe I once thought 52 kg was heavy...sigh those were the good old days. i actually put on 15 kg in 5 years. dari age 18 to 36 ish, maintain about 52-53kg. paling tembam 56kg lah. SEKARANG--heh dont speak lah. sodeh den. the only good thing is , si suami pun sama sama naik sympathy. And the other good thing is..I cannot see that I am fat. Nampak macam normal je? hehehehehe. 

I cannot believe my kids are all getting bigger...taller than me sumernye except for Dahlia and she is 12 and belum anak dara. Wait till she becomes a proper lady..hah kau...sure she will over take me. 

I have to go get their stationery today. And shoes. School starting dah! I am forcing them to sleep at 10 and wake up at 5 am. No more mengular sampai pukul 11 and tidur pukul 2 pagi tengok Naruto ok!! (Subuh buat lah donchwarie) 

Funny how they turn out: Nadine likes exotic stuff, like cheese and salmon etc and omputeh punyer resipe. Sophia lak tak suka makan durian ...but love kueyteow and meehoon just like me. Sara loves daging and dont like durian either. She says she likes soto best. Daya suka aiskrim mahal mahal and will polish it quietly by herself and not remind the others about it and also she heaps on the nutella on her bread - she will not take the cheaper stuff and her dad once got angry cause she didnt touch the bottle of nutella ciplak we bought. johan likes pizza and would be happy to eat this every day. either dominos or nandos. He's happy with fastfood! thank god. 

Nadine has to sort out what she wants to do next..she keeps putting it off, and mummy cannot tahan to see her lounging around in the I dont know what to do now phase..although she actually DOES have homework which is to 1. apply for Alevels or IB and 2. apply for tahfiz programme or arabic programme. 

She has decided to pursue her degree in the omputeh world (ok mummy has pushed her to get it) - ie SOAS, or oxford or cambridge insyallaahhhhhh (sangat sangat saya doakan) but she needs like a gazillion A for that..Her dad said buatje subject a level yang senang senang nadine..nak dapat A..( I Second that..jangan lah berangan macam mummy nak buat British History and French Revolution,just because nak ambik law- last last dapat B je kan - ke C ha? tak ingat) The moral of the story is orang uni tu tak pedullik lah .depa tengok A you je...

Nadine is ok (ish) with this proposed plan instead of going to Ummul Qura terus after 2 year diploma in KL because we found out kalau nak go to MiddleEast she has to have a husband or brother or father or mahram related , to stay there. Saudi Arabiah lah (Madinah tu kat Saudi kan..ish ish gograpi mummy fail tol) So i told her to go find a handsome mat salleh ustaz in oxford and then bring him when you do your masters in the middleeast. KIDDING!! I didnt say that .. but i did say do your phd and master etc kat sana. Madam nak jadi ustazah kan..mummy yang nak push dia jadi macam shuhaibwebb or yasmin mogahed.

Eh talk about nadine pulak karang jeles bebudak yang lain,especially johan who tells me i always say girls and never boy. Takkan lah I nak panggil "ok , girls and a boy, lets all do this and that" right?? Usually I terpanggil girls...or if I remember, I say "guys" or "kiddoes" or "babes" -or is babes for the dad? hihihhih

Sara got 3As in her recent JHSA (Junior High School Assessment) exams out of 9 subjects. ala ala PMR lah but then it's set by the school. The interestng thing was how she told me. She went to her friend's house to sleep over and the next day baru I picked her up and she began by saying how much she has improved ! all Bs and 3 As! and no Cs! 

heheheh...kita yang nak marah ni pun, tak jadi. Yes it was indeed, an improvement. And shows that if she likes it , she can do it. she obtained an A in geography so she has my highest respect - me who thought the name Chao Praya was soo familiar..was it a restaurant? author? Until hubs barked- SUNGAI lah!!! hihihihihihi!  

Yelah kita ni pun dulu taklah pandai na..although I would say my skill is human relations..or communication..I pandai jaga hati (waaa way to spin my total need to please others !) So my kids become diplomats's in their genes hehehehehe.. 

Sophia sebok dengan kawan this holiday. Baru je balik daripada day out with her friends for her friend's birthday. dont worry mummy the auntie will come and get me...entah apa lah mak orang tu kata ek..kita farm out anak kita lak...she went ahem- iceskating and planned to do laser tagging..what ever happened to main masak masak ah??

Dahlia dapat 4 A kan, mula mula nak gak masukkan MRSM..last last malas ler...she oso dont want..she got her Junior School Leaving Assessment results (she takes it in same year as UPSR) and she was so happy to say that she got 9 As out of 11. Wahhh achiever lah you Daya! No wonder kakngah boring dengan you! She just got back from a weekend away with her cousin kat sepang..kena pick up baru nak balik, jumpa kat wedding of another cousin, taknak balik dengan we all 

How about that boy Johan??? I tak tau..seriously. He's going around telling relatives that he is scared of next year because he is sitting for UPSR next year. Tapi tak macam scared pun hehehhe...he doesn't blog anymore (novelty worn off I suspect). I still ask his opinion on most stuff. Like, im taking the dad away on holiday soon and he said- are you going to fight? you better not otherwise you spoil the holiday. okayyyyy faham...

Eh have i rambled about this before? Ok ok next subject..
ermmmm..OK lah! 

By the way can I share my dislike of how people yang pakai tudung but show boobs?? the tight tops? Aiyooo im getting older right? I now pull my scarf down down...when I dont have anything to show anymore....hehehehehe

and another thing- dont lah wear short sleeve if want to wear funny like that. and also...dont lah wear tight skinny jeans...

it's tutup aurat not bungkus aurat..cover not clingwrap-- hey! this makcik feels a teeshirt business coming along

and if you say its whats in the heart that matters- you just denied the need for any law or legal system! hehehehehehe

ok lah dah meraban raban....babai!!

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

weekend report


1. Sara brought her friends over. So we went for lunch and then batik painting. That reminds me- I have to go get the finished tshirts! They had fun and Colin the owner was nice enough to give me discounts since there were about 7 kids. My own pun nak buat tshirt gak walaupun dah masuk many times. 

2. Discovered Colin had really implemented my idea for Batik shawl. A silk scarf. Dia ada buat, but narrow ala ala for style je so I told him I want a long large one so I can use for hijab. And I found in his shop! So nice! Only wondering if he can give me a good discount on it since it's RM380 ! Mak kau! 

3. While the kids were batikking painting(!) I took Nadine to the Edu fair...ok lah..good to see what is out there..nadine stopped at Fairview offering IB, at KYUEM = dah habis dah tempat for January! Er thats it. For what she wants she is still thinking whether A levels or IB is the best option. Maybe do a 2 yr tahfiz instead ? She wants to go to Madinah University who currently does not take girls. Kelakar episod at the UIA Institute of Foreign Language...this guy spoke Arabic to nadine. and was thrilled when she spoke back. Tak main lah kaifa haluki you ..hhahahha

4. Sunday- TIDOR!!! and sending the kids home..
now..tuesday??? aishhhh

Saturday, December 15, 2012

The reunion and other things


I went to the reunion. Was late, because got lost ..mana ke darah "The Bee" kat Publika??? Anyway they were eating when I came, and I ordered caesar's salad..chewah berpura pura betol..since when I makan salad you ask me?? he he

There were allready a few girls there. From top class, to bottom class. I kenal about 3. Did not know the others. One of them maintained her glam glam image. Ok if you ask her she is probably going to say she's not glam glam but even when she was in school she was the one with the apartment in Kensington London (not Ealing ke apa tau, must be Kensington- tempat posh) . She was still sweet and very tattler..and I  am gajah lah next to her kan he he...but she is very sweet. Only thing is , she blur lah the way I buat joke..tak the end I had to say sorry (I felt the urge) if terkecik kan hati ! hehhe. 2 of them there were on their second husbands  or divorcing the second one? two were housewives , one was a corporate trainer who thought I was very funny and told me I should do stand up comedian. FINALLY someone recognised my talent ha ha ha ! No lah..kidding..

Hmm at school was I like this?? probably not .. at Uni was I like this? Probably not either..I am now much much more comfortable in my skin than before..and dont really care about what they think of me...not longer than about 20 mins anyway..something I hope my kids will get from me also...that the only person who can continue to make you feel bad ke embarrassed ke or upset you. YOu have a choice to feel happy, or moody. Taulah ada tragedy ke, or crisis ke...but how you react to it is important tolong jangan bagi I pulak rasa tempias bad mood you kan?? 

CEHWAH!!! Motivator material tak he he

Back to the reunion....

Your friend here, of course, talked non stop. Now of course I feel bad lah...hehehehe... But it was interesting ,to meet them. There was one lady who came late, look gorgeous and apparently has ovarian cancer..she didn't say but her friend had told us before this lady arrived . Had to remove her womb and the sad thing is she married late and had been trying to get pregnant. sad....when you have women who abandon or kill their babies on the other hand..kesian..

Oh talking abt cousin has just published a book : Even the Most Postive Person Gets Cancer. Mezwyn dJunus [what use is a blog if I cant plug her book he he] She has breast cancer..just my age.. the most positive person you are likely to find (sometimes, annoyingly so)- you can find it in Poetry of Flowers kat Prince Court Medical Centre .. I really hope she pulls through I played with her a lot masa kecik kecik..I remember her dad was sangat kaya masa tu and ada pool etc...and they went to private school and jauh lah dengan I sangat sangat yang ala kadar je nih. I also remember her telling me to jump in the deep end of the pool and I did that . and almost drowned..Hmm thanks Wyn! Hehehehe. Also I felt self conscious sebab masa kecik dulu dulu depa england so terror and I broken only...and they laughed at me jugak. Although now I dah ok lah ,it is still quite a traumatic experience as a child! :) 

And then my laptop died the other day..ada ke..I was with Sara and Sophia and their cousin Yana at KLCC.. konon they want to shop..ok lah kan Sara pun takda I ingat nak leave them in Isetan and mummy can do work maaa kat kedai kopi. tup tup mati terus laptop! aduhhh itulah nyawa I ....

Eh Okay lah ...i gotta go..I have 10 kids in the house and they require sending home ..ciao

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Merapu pagi pagi....


How are you ?

I'm still at home...working at the dining table while watching MHI. Hubs has gone off. Usually I would follow him , he'd drop me at the office, and then about 2 or 3 or 4 (tengokler) I would go home. Not that I cannot do work at the office, since I now have a maid at home (superefficient yoU!) but just because malas nak duduk office. My boss is very nice to allow this, as long as I actually do work. And I do, more often than not, more effectively at home , than at the office because at the office there are other people and you tend to borak borak, minum minum etc.... Ketua borak is the said boss he he he

Today I am at home because I have a 9 am meeting with a colleague, and then my CBN-ers are meeting at Publika at 11 to ring in 121212.

Alahai....lomah den. I had said "OK" during FB invitation. Now regretting it but I have pulled out of these get togethers so many times before rasa segan pulak nak pull out this time..These are random girls from my batch and I know maybe 3 out of 20 . Ye lah, day school kan, if you are not classmates, or house- mates, or in some club, then how would you know each other? I don't want to have to be forced to make jolly with people I never did know before! Pelik kan, old girls network ni? 

But I have said yes, so Imma gonna be going... where is that good blouse of mine..I think it's gone to Al Khadeem lah (kena pau dengan nadine kot)...that blouse can somehow eliminate at least 3 kg ! magic kan? Im sure you have one baju like that right? Tuuuu lah you'd be wearing ke mana mana , sampai luncai he he

Kids ada extra 2 today- sons of my brother. They came over semalam..the youngest boy is 6 and berani tapi manja nak say babai to his mom...hari tu kena ada bajumak dia baru boleh stay...hehehe so sweet. My sis in law is veryyyyyy soft spoken with them. Dapat lak kids yang more boisterous and suka jerit jerit jenis main lasak ...macam tak sesuai pulak dengan mak dia yang lemah lembut ni.. Tak macam anak-anak I ,. mak dia terjerit jerit, anak cool je. he he he. Anyway Jojo will be happy lah dapat boys in the house. 

My maid is working out so efficient that she finishes her work, does not want to watch tv, tak reti lepak, all my lemari dah susun, all the baju dah gosok..woi you pakai HANTU ke maid oi? hehehehe...I remain like before, majikan bodoh ...I am still nice, still mintak tolong rather than order ..guess all the bad experience has not made me a tough cookie - masih lagi lembik! 

Oh yeah , I tengah berangan nak renovate kitchen ni guys....tapi mak kau kos dia tu boleh gak tahan far RM65k , tapi campur the wet works, the dry kitchen wet kitchen bla boss said it's quite ok ...sebab masuk barang barang, I still think it's mahal! but maybe once and for all we do a big kitchen, and we can lepak there...and then tak yah usek bila boleh keluar Dividend ASB ah?? hehehehe

Ok then back to my (yawwwnnnnnn) work. Take care guys and have a good Wednesday! Semoga level iman kita tetap on UP today..I doakan janganlaaaah I malas nak solat on time..or jangaaaaanlah I termengumpat orang....biarkanlah Diana Danielle tu...dah kawin pun....tak yah gossip gossip hehehehehhee...OK? Meh kita jadi orang yang baik today...


Sunday, December 09, 2012

Sunday dah???


Nadine is going to Al Khadeem camp this morning. Until Thursday. Ada outbound activities,. ada white water rafting...ada Us Hussain Yee-- macam macam .. 

She also started her driving lessons yesterday. I sent her to Imkeda kat Keramat. She said it was deathly boring. All her friends were there. 

Note, I did not arrange the above 2 things- sekarang nye we are mere drivers je to them..tau tau have to go here there and the other. Sometimes they have to be reminded that they still need our permission, walaupun dah besau panjang! Semalam nadine came down, fixing her scarf and I asked her- eh where are you going? She said: Im going to x y z bla bla...then I said : Don't need my permission ke? She grinned sheepishly and said: I nak tanya lah ni..hehehe

And same goes to other kids. It's not "mummy can I go to my friend's house". It is now "Mummy what time can you send me to my friend's house"! Aiyoo.

Mom and dad came over yesterday. Kecian depa now on their own kan..boring gak. My brother the Dr and his family are still with them but weekends they are at his in laws lah. Kena lah bagi bagi masa kan. I should go more often and visit them kan... i ni pun penyakit M time depa karang time I ...tunggu laaa anak datang visit hisk hisk

Oh yeah we had a British guest yesterday..Piers. Husband's schoolmate masa kat UK dulu. Funny how things turn out. Hubs had been talking about him for how many years, until I got fed up and tracked him down via google and emailed him, asking him hey! Are you that Piers who my husband tak habih habih cerita ni?? and he said yes! And rupa rupanye memang dia ni selalu ke KL /Thailand and even worked in Singapore. Budaknye baik, rendah diri, tau bawak diri. takdalah action ke apa. Kesian dia kena tidor bilik Nadine yang  katilnye patah dah and senget sebelah..

Anyway ok! Off to send Nadine to camp now!

Wednesday, December 05, 2012


OOH! Forgot to tell you. Nadine asked a question at dinner just now. 

The mother of a boy, who is going out with Nadine's friend (call X) , has just asked X whether she wants to marry her son. 

like now. 

both hubs and i said NOOOOOOO

I said- can he take care of her? is the reason, to prevent sin? If so, are they so uncontrollable that they will definitely commit sin, if not getting married? 

Husband : They are too young. 

Actually when I was in Form 5 there was this girl who dropped out...she got married to her bf..ostensibly because the bf's grandad requested at his deathbed..could be because she was pregnant..who knows. I hope she's still happy and married now. 

In my batch pun ada a few couples yang kawin during college (but not as young as SPM lah) ...ada yang kekal..some make it..some don't! Some yang kenal since 16 then when go to Uni..ok lagi..and then come back and work...then discover you want different things...

I joked...if i had  my way I would have married your dad a lot earlier nadine..but he knew he was going to be stuck for life with he tried to make it as late as possible ha ha  ha..(actually he was waiting for enough money but to me- who needs money to get married?hehe)

To say don't get married, what about our grandparents who married really young? 17 would be considered over the hill during their time. *(yes but it's not their time now etc etc)

But I donno what to tell this girl (who i suspect i know who) ....get married is fine..just...Not yet. 

your thoughts??

Can a woman and man be friends? jeng jeng jeng....!

I had lunch with a friend just now. Thanks MO for giving me the free lunch for 2 thing that was going to expire anyyy day now. So anyway this friend I met during shipping seminar, dia funny, dia kelakar (eh sama lah tu) , dia boleh discuss macam macam..

But...dia laki laki,you! Once in a blue moon he would text me for lunch and we'd hang out and crack jokes and discuss world affair. And discuss his family of 4 kids and wife who is not working and me with my 5 kids and hubs. He'd be telling me bad lawyer jokes too. 

The thing is. I would definitely FREAK OUT if my husband goes out with a girl to hang out and exchange stupid jokes right. But if i do it it's ok? I did tell my husband and did invite him also- but dia kata go ahead...hmmm apakah dia tak jeles?? 

It's all very innocent one..but what do you think? 


Yesterday Sara turned 15. I had to go to work, and then I promised I would take her and a couple of friends to Laser Tagging in Gombak somewhere. When I finally arrived home at about 3, I honked and waited outside for her (not wanting to come in) . 11 kids streamed into the car! Seriously! there were so many girls and one friend of Johan (so 2 boys!) anyway yeah we all went to this laser tagging thing and Mummy got lost several time because  mummy had to speak to this very stubborn lady who , even though I said I was driving and will call her back, insist on "one more minute" . eee bencinye aku kat this woman client of mine grrr!

Anyway we were there for 2 games..they  had fun and asked to go again,  but I said balik, Asar, then we go watch movie. Plus it was RM200 per game for the entire bunch. So we went home, and soon I heard them sing Happy Birthday to Sara..awww..

The movie plan didn't pan out - tak fofular..they wanted to go ice skating but I said wait till daddy came back...but then daddy came home late (from serdang, a normal occurence these days) so I told them reschedule to another day..nasib baik pun since the parents started to come and fetch..imagine if they come and we're off iceskating...

They all lepak in the tv room and watched movie i think..sedapnye...ada he he

Sara had I hope a good birthday..present from mummy and daddy belum lagi tau! 

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

When you got the blues....

I think I have the blues....but have to fight! 

Body feel very old...dragging feet..have to force self to stop moaning..hehehe...

ni mesti from that 20 min session yesterday at Concept1010.. I came home quite ok..typically came straight home, did not shop or rewang at the Publika walaupun takda masa and takda duit pun and takda keinginan he he...but when I sat down je..terus all the tiredness and soreness came rushing and I just DIED. 

Could not move a muscle. So I guess it's good (?)

Anyway they did a test for me and said my fat content is 30%. (basically I wont feel the cold lah as fast he he) and that I should target to lose 6% of that..they asked me to write down (or rather, tick off ) a list of what I think my obstacles are and there was this one box that said " I don't have any obstacles I'm just lazy" . GUESS which one I ticked he he he

Of course lah, the usual obstacles like time, family, the fact that they are in Blardie Solaris Dutamas so blardie far. (but im getting used to it now, about20 mins je drive) 

SO! new me new  resolution ok! 

In the meantime, felt low on other areas..want to cry for no reason..don't like my work all of a sudden....don't like the people I deal with ....hoohooo.....guess you have days like that? or maybe this is MENOPAUSE??? he he he 

Today Im still tired and sore! But !! mental kena positif ok!! Because....jengjengjeng: 


She is 15 years old today! Wow my anak dara dah besar besar...sobs sobs....anyway hopefully we can take her out to dinner ! Her friends are coming over and I am to take them to laser tag later (i just found out pun)..hope she will have a fantastic birthday!

Bye!! Think positive!! Be happy!

Sunday, December 02, 2012

about the kids

Hi. sedar tak has been a whole month since school holidays started! 

Nadine is still taking her spm...three more papers she said. I dont know where she is getting the stamina... kalau i dah penat..She and 7 other girls in her class...imagine that, only a handful taking spm of the whole school! Kalau sekolah kebangsaan maybe 80 or 100 kan. I told her the other day that I don,t think she is as focused as say her friends in National school...For sure her friends don't look focused. Can go out to watch movie in the middle of the exam week, ok! perhaps it's good to relax..I would say that too but the thing is I dont see them having anything to relax FROM. hehehehe. Terukkan I..for all you know they study to the wee hours in the morning. 

These girls stay in a house for the duration of the exams...rented by the school. They call it the "hostel" . I was thinking that it's a proper hostel where you know, they have discipline and stuff but apparently they are free to come and go as they please! In fact one night I came by to drop nadine really late (like 12 something midnight) the day before we were to fly to Kangar, the girls were just walking back from somewhere! And I'm sure they have boyfriends right? Hmm maybe I should take it up with the teacher about their freedom ? And render Nadine the most unpopular kid in her class he he he

Anyway yeah. nadine is interested in being an expert in islam and alquran. her dad said "take conventional courses lah nadine, like medicine ke" but to me, hey do what you will be happy doing ..I for one, would be JR Rowling had my father not pushed me into law (ha ha berangan) ..So I have told Nadine, if you want to do this, you read all about what to do and where to go and tell mummy. Preferably in Oxford, although she wants to go to Alazhar. I imagine nadine one day telling me i am so unmuslimah..i told her nadine, you must never, regardless of how high  you go, forget that I am your mother and you must respect me. If i say no, then no it shall be. he he terukkan. 

Anyway Sister Sara , the english lady who runs the Arabic Learning Centre , told me this morning that her daughter is doing a diploma at IIC, Gombak, in Islamic science that Nadine might want to do , starting this January. Basically you skip all those kafuffling about IB or Alevels..cause you would know what you want to do allready . I dont me another 2 years to save up to send her somewhere for her degree! 

 And the sisters...Sara is form 4 next year. Im going to check if MRSM accepts form 4 igsce her a chance to experience life in boarding..although I still am loathe to let them go out of the ketiak..he he...kena tanya dia lah pulak 

Daya is NOT going to apply now. She has said no, plus I think 13 may be too young ,. Selfish selfish ler...heheheh with her cousin today , Yana. So interesting, Yana and her..they are both of the same age, and Yana started at Adni ,but went to another contemporary school. She is now your normal teenager with teenybopper fashion..while my sophia is upset if her tudung does not cover her upper chest! lain betol kan? 

can't say it's my influence , I remember telling Nadine takyah lah pakai tudung kat luar, when she was 13...she wanted to much to keep it on..and so did the others..I thought that they were too it was them who wanted to wear the hijab at a young age, I'm just going with the flow..and counting myself really blessed that at least I dont have to lecture them about clothing pulak! he he!

I would consider ourselves as moderate...and modern..but always wanting to improve self..and be better muslims. I pray the kids will be openminded muslimahs,able to counter whatever argument in a rational, calm way, able to give justification for their beliefs, passionate in their faith and always compassionate to others (mummy terlebih lebih compassionate lak) ..hopefully as is the hope of Adni, the kids WILL grow up to be intelligent muslims

and mummy camana pulak?? kena lah more pious kan.karang termalu pulak dengan anak (not to mention god) he he


Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Getting attacked!

1. My blog is getting attacked by spam! yikes! I get email telling me Ms Anonymous is trying to sell me viagra etc! Kalau betol takpa lah gak ! hehehehehe

2. Gaza attacked...aishhhh kesiann and what is frustrating is the argument of "right to defend itself" that Israel and its supporters are using..hey! if you keep bullying someone and then that someone kick your shin, you do NOT get to bash him senseless under the guise of "defending yourself"! Tak cukup lagi ke dapat state free? 

3. attacked at work...clients oh clients...let's leave it at that. let's leave it at me wanting to leave practice . Do I need this negativity??  Anyway yes wish I have other people to pass the bullllll to he he

4. attacking the fatcells- ok i have finally signed up with a gym called Concept 10- 10...the thing that sold me finally was (a) no sweating allowed and (b) it is close to publika! and (c)   only 20 minutes! Let's see ok. I ni disiplin punya department, very weak one. But it's just to tone muscles right and hopefully the fat will know what to do when that happens

5. Attacking the housework..I surrendered you allllll...i got a maid! This lady agent was referred to me , I called her, she said she  needs this much (RM6k) which is very very cheap considering the current trends, and I was sufficiently harrassed by housework that I PAID!  Husband could not pay  fast enough..I was not smiling, I was always grumpy, there was NO romen romen - how dare you ! and I was very holier than thou (don't you dare take those shoes in on my lovely clean floors young man!). And my very very good luck, there was a 38 year old lady whose employer changed his mind as he was leaving for the USA and I was given this lady. Maybe  a total lie, I know, but me not going to ask. I felt very very lucky when this lady came home with me and she has taken to my house and housework, silently and efficiently and I hope hope hope that this is going to work out! she has a handphone, she wants to go back once a year, and she has worked here before. let's get that out in the open and we shall do fine. Come on guys...I was not going to work and my first thoughts upon waking up were: nak basuh baju/ BAJU tak kering! 

Although my kids and I have learnt a very important lesson..take ownership of the house..this is our house and not the maids...and therefore dont leave everything to them. Bilik buat sendiri, pinggan basuh sendiri...know your house, act like the owner and hopefullly no one will bring boyfriend to house...I hope .....


Monday, November 19, 2012

Update update!

Dah seminggu dah tak update???!

Actually it wasn't that I didn't have anything to was that every time I wanted to say something it would be about the maid or not having  a maid and that was boring ME what more you out there..right?? Although I have to tell you that my neighbour Dato A just decided to tell me that sebenarnye he wanted to tell me a MONTH ago how my maid had introduced men to his demure cambodian maid and she got so lovesick that he had to send her back. He knew about my maid and HER boyfriend ok! Even got the guy on CCTV and suspected him of breaking in. Gee Datok thanks...I said Datok if you are reporting to the police I will support you 1000% and he said hastily- oh no no no, the cops have other things to worry about...which made me (and later, hubbs when I told him) think- eh?? Datok ni ada apa kat rumah dia ni takut polis datang?? hehehehehe

Anyway yes life is ok..I was grumbling all the lah kerja rumah never ends..nampak sikit kan?- basuh baju, kemas sikit sikit., masak. Kan? Apa kecoh.? After all the cleaner comes twice a week-  tapi kan kerja rumah tu ALL THE BLARDIE TIME!! basuh baju ,pas tu basuh lagi! Wash cups and then get dirty again! Things get spilled (Milo especially) and etc so yes..mummy has been grumpy..! 

So grumpy that on Wednesday malam, I checked us (sans husband) into Berjaya Times Hotel. In response to the constant request..can we go to Cosmoworld? can we go to Cosmoworld? My kids don't demand , they "remind" . ALL THE TIME. So they wore me down and I said OKAY LAH! I booked us a superior room (1 double bed, a sofa bed and then I ordered another extra bed) and we went after isyak...husband came from hospital serdang reallllly late (1am!) adn then marah cause I didn't open the hotel room door (tertidor lah beb) ...he was grumbling why lah I go into hotel...and I told him- need it! And the next day he left like really early, promising to come back at 11. The kids went swimming until it rained....and when daddy came back they all got ready to go to CW....unfortunately daddy dah TIDO berdengkur! So I let them all go by themselves and we went down to meet them. Oi bebudak....seronoknya mummy tak ikut ye...depa naik macam macam rides yang memanglah mummy akan BAN!! Space attack la apa the time they all came out (at 3pm) dah hijau or what the omputeh say- green around the gills!! Hehehehe In the meantime sementara tunggu depa ni, kita orang tua dok lah kat luar...makan laksa, and then pekena ARCHERY satu round..hehehehe I was just happy that hubby was around! and awake! It was getting ridiculous! didn't last about 3 we went home in separate cars..daddy went to the hospital again...semoga Allah swt memberkati penat lelah nya....teruk tol kerja..takkan sampai cam tu nak avoid buang sampah kot?? hehehehehehe

Anyway Friday and dad came over...nak masak for me katanye (I LAB YOU MUM) but then I dah "ter" masak lah...labu masak lemak (my fave!) ayam goreng sayur kangkung bodoh..masalah nye labu masak lemak tu my fave alone...yang lain takusek...hihi..

My parents reallyy superstar lah...i lah orang yang paling bertuah...dapat mempergunakan eh! Meminta tolong...daripada my parents..sebab on Saturday we had to go to wedding cousin husband in Kangar! As husband has gazillion important patients he could not stay overnight and therefore I was tasked to buy flight tickets to Alorsetaq and for the 2 of parents said oklah you can dump your kids with us ..and anyway the kids need a break as by Friday depa dah tak tahan kena kerah buat kergheja. Sooo on Friday malam buta pukul 1 am kot..we sent the kids to Opah...and then went home at 2am..and terbabas alarm clock at 5 am...mandi, pack (baru nak pack!) dah 5.30 am baru lah keluar....

which is ok except our Airasia flight was at 7 am..which meant we have to be there at least 6.40 am...which is STILL NO Peroblem lah since pakai highway..pecut je what..apa susah...UNFORTUNATELY Allahswt maha mengetahui-- it rained cats and dogs and horse and sheep and apa lagi lah! Sampai tak nampak depan! Speed limit about 70 km kot! We reachedquite early gak lah kat nilai etc area tu...and I said to husband when I saw sign for terminal LCCT- turn left here. Then entah macam mana, I yang teralert  ni, tertido. And when I bukak mata...he was at KLIA!! Aiya! I said eh?? boleh pergi Airasia ye from  here/ (dalam mamai bodoh) ..heheheh..marah ler member tapi apa nak buat..orang dah kata..sampai hari ni we don't know how it was that he went to KLIA.. 

Anyway sampai LCCT..nak park lagi (tulah orang kata naik teksi)...and then I rushed (in the suddenly heavy rain) and got to the counter..depa kata ...(cuba teka)...sorry gate is closed! 

I dah tawakal dah sebenarnye you..all in God's hand..ada lah reason tu,,dengan bangun lambat nye..dengan hujan lebat tak pasal pasal....

Husband wanted to insist with the Airasia counter people..memanglah kalau you dapat masuk pun..bukan depa terbang pun at 7 am...apa lah air asia nih..berkira betol..kalau international flight i paham just to Alorsetaq! But they remained firm,,gate is close and your money is forfeited teehee! 

So now what?? MAS? Flight at 2pm- miss wedding nanti. Firefly? What will happen to the car? Park at Subang then flight back at LCCT? In the end-  drive....! 

And when he fell asleep I took the wheel and if I take the wheel you are talking 170 km ler...berapaaa lah kena saman ni....

Anyway the wedding was good....Seri Malaysia Kangar..cantik!! Couple pun cantik kan...small but meaningful. We were telling all about how we rushed to the wedding and ada cousin husband dengan baik hatinye mengoffer kan driver dia to take the car home, so that we just take the return portion home..tapi in the end we tak take up the offer because (1) seganlah nyusahkan orang (lain daripada mak bapak adek beradek) and (2) mehlah kita jalan!~ This was the perfect op for us to go dating! 

Actually it wouldn't be so actually...takda lah sangat nak "pak toh" ...kesian gak kat kids and mom and dad..but then I tengok I had to drive daripada kangar....other half dah ngantuk sakan ..and he slept all the way .it was as if now that he wasn't at the hospital he was ok to zonk out...and I know we couldn't  drive on to KL macam tu..I pulak mata bengong kalau malam....

So it was that we detoured to a room at Golden Sands...although I knew it was going to be for a very very short time since someone had booked to operate  at 12 the next day..which means check out at 5 am lah tu..but NEVER MIND! Hotel is still hotel!! buffet! room  service! bed that I dont have to make! coffee and tea facility! rain shower!~ Yay! 

By the time check in dah 9 pm..terus makan..I went up first cause husband nak mengenjoy dengan buffet ..ya lah dia dah tido all the way dah sampai segaq lah no ...(eh jadi orang utagha lak kita) ..Biaq pi lah....kita nak I naik mandi pas tu BOOM!! 

Esoknya makan buffet ..i ingat ada orang tu nak rush lah kan..tengok tengok dia dah  make arrangements and in the end we left at 12~! Alhamdulillah takda emergency from hospital (otherwise I hantar gi airport je lah) and alhamdulillah weather was brilliant...I rasa lepas ni dah recharge dah him AND me..takda dah grumpy grumpy dah....

ohh rupanye macam tu ye...buat housework penat penat- pi holiday! Weii mahal lah cam tu! hihihihih. ambik maid lagi murah! 

Anway let me just say thank you soo much to mom and dad..and brothers who took the kids back to kampung and bought satay etc you love you and you know I'd do the same for you if only you abandon your kids like us..hehehehe we are BAD Parents...tsk tsk

sekian ta ta!!

Monday, November 12, 2012

getting into the groove

I am a happy bunny today!!

Sorry lah girls...moaning and groaning macam diva manja...(memang pun)'s a LOT BETTER NOW

Okay..update. That was posted when my cleaner was here. I was sooo happy that SOMEONE ELSE was doing the work ! This filipina muslim convert arrived when I wasn't at  home, kids opened the door and half an hour later Nadine called me (as I was driving home) to whisper- mummy she is sooo gooood!! I came home to find her mopping my kitchen vigorously, having done the living room..she went up to clear the rooms and toilets, and even the maid's room! Her mouth tak berenti bising about how filthy the old maid was. 

The cleaner said I was too kind to my ex-maid.. which is a nice way to say what a tip your house is! The ex maid memang never clean "properly"  and longgok saja stuff, periuk, plastik what have you -and me and family also macam tak kesah because like we don't know any better and anyway it looks clean ..except once she went back I saw how messy it was (maybe I ni kena jampi? naah i think I just malas je) 

Those who have maids probably know what I'm talking about tend to relax because you know you have delegated the job to someone else. it is a lovely feeling and the reason why people keep taking on maids, to be able to order people about....but even so i should have been more alert. Husband said, kena lah ada maid, we have to have one, because we need someone at home, to throw rubbish, open doors, sweep, hang clothes while we sleep on.......I told him housewives do that all the time you know..if you want me to do can, I charge about 12,000 (one more zero than Philipina maid which I heard cost RM1,200 per month) Hehehe..he said the problem with me as a maid is I nag him to help! 

I love my kids..they are soo helpful..although helping is not automatic to them..having been pampered for so long..even johan has manned up and cleaned the old toys . 
Sara was caught watching drama when mummy was mopping the porch with jif and all and hence got called to help.. !. Nadine's friends are also here...they came to spend the night..last night was McD for 10 kids in my house...and hubby came home by 11.30 pm and he already ate (thank god cause no nasi at home at ALL because beras dah habis). Actually I went to send Nadine for tution at 8.30 pm and then went to the supermarket to buy grocery tapi ended up sleeping in the car ....too tired...and by the time I woke up, decided against going out to buy anything...not bothered . 

Chores are more organised now...I'm happy that our (suddenly too big) house has been mopped and swept clean. I'm throwing away hangers etc. I have donated the baju lama lama yang berkepok dalam almari to Kluang and some to Adni for them to distribute there. 

I have mopped and brushed our porch tepi kiri and kanan and depan, and washed three loads and dah kering pun, it was so hot. Actually once in a while this housework malarkey is good therapy! Rasa berpeluh, pinggang macam nak patah..and I cooked lunch in the middle of it too- ikan masak asam and rendang daging sans santan. (sedap lah jugak)...and I washed the ABSOLUTELY Filthy fridge! Yang kat luar lah, yang kat dalam nanti lah kau...(ada dua sebab satu was the last owner which is too darn big for me to get rid of and it still works so ok lah)

Oh yeah I need to wear hand dah kasar..

Oh yeah also when I was hanging out clothses to dry I notice some of the kids need new tua and fraying and ada yang putus putus ikat balik..alah cian..mummy neglecting you ye.

SO! memang lah like you say - ada blessing in disguise...we get to know household stuff again..and get closer..and like someone said..the kids can start learning how to do housework! 

Sekian report saya

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Slap me please- the diva is moaning.

Hi there ..selamat cuti sekolah kids have started their holidays although I think they probably are just realising that this time around they won't be enjoying it as much ahaks!

Baru 3rd day without maid kan, and allready I dah stress with the other half. Pep talk me please. On the rational side I understand his work is suddenly very busy, his colleague is off and he has to do all hell's type of on call and he had to do emergency operations etc rational brain understands and sympathise. KEciannn baby I...(uwek, say my kids)

My non rational diva however wanted to say  - Haa?? Why you come back late one?? Every day 9 pm one..somemore dont want me to buy outside food want me to cook, who's going to help me clear the maid's room and buang her mattress? Trash who wants to take out?? Waaaaaa!! I dont care about in patients they can reschedule!!  How come you come home and tidor and next day go lah this is not ahotel lar

Ok . sorry. 

I ter cakap this morning to him, although I had sworn not to. I mean, I AM sorry that he is working so hard but honey, so am I! Plus I have to work my normal office work too! It seems like I am making all the adjustments in this - work halfday lah and do all the housework lah, you normal je? 

Or..maybe that was the point?? For me to just be the housewife and superwoman so that he can work with a peace of mind? Sorry, this has never been our style ..we have always been partners .but maybe this is what he expects now, his little woman at home? ( dont mind being at home part, just mind doing the housework part) When I moan moan he said - Sayang! It's only HOUSEWORK Lah! 

Ha ha ha ni  yang nak gelak ni..housework lah yang banyak and ongoing. Plus I have made it difficult for myself. I have to start afresh with new stuff because I have thrown the old pots and pans and the decrepit cutting board and I am on a rampage to throw out whatever I don't need that I have been asking maid to clear but of course she didn't . Also I have been on a rampage to get rid of  house of the cat pee smell. This on top of the normal Menyapu of living room, kitchen, living room 2 bla bla, basuh baju - yah i can go send laundry but with 7 in the house its too much and too rapidlah dia jadi bukit baju, tak sempat nak lipat dah ada satu batch lain, so its faster if I wash sendiri...ha ha 

Again, I tell people all the time..I go to work to rest! Full time Mom with NO maid has my highest respect..I am determined to NOT have a maid..but penat woi!! 

How DO the full time housewives do it? Maybe close one eye? Maybe I will learn not to mind that the rubbish is not sent out? Hubs said biar je lah kat tepi dapur tu.. Dia too busy lah..tapi kan, if you biar then the cat I should send it out je lah kan?? but i want him to help..but I guess .this is no longer the time when we were in the UK when he could help me vacuum while I tend to other he is busy..but what annoys me is that..neither am I that full time housewife I was I have work and this week is especially at least share my mental if not physical burden kan. 

I think this is all teething problems je...I need to find a system. I will not expect the other half to help. because if I do, and he doesn't nanti I tension. So I will try to organise the skip myself. And try not to moan. GRR. 

Aiyoo now I smell cat wee again. Wargh.. Kids tak bangun tidor lagi.. They have been helping , esp Nadine but how much can I ask her, with her sitting for SPM. and I gave Nadine my keys so that they can let themselves in from school if Im not there..and they did and guess what, yesterday I came home and found everything unlocked and open even the gate. Aiyoo. And the freezer was switched off. Aiyoo..Dangerous to leave the kiddoes for now.  

Sigh..thank you for listening to me..I am going to lipat kain it unreasonable to expect the other half to help? Or shall I just shut up and get on with it? 


Wednesday, November 07, 2012

yay yay!Sudah free...!

I'm freeeeeeee!!!

Maid has gone for evahhh!!

husband and i sent her half way then husband got a beep beep call from hospital so left me and her by the roadside to take cab (sweetheart waited till i was in the cab though to go so that's sweet) and then we both went to the airport and I checked her in and spoke in a pseudo Indon slang and the lady at the check out counter pun speak indon dengan i SEKALIK Tengok!!! Dua dua melayu malaysia laaa hahahahahaaha, dia ingat I Indon , I ingat dia indon keh keh..

Anyway I dah periksa dah bag dia...takda lah apa...baju je...although baju nye kecikk sangat...bagi toyol pakai ke?? I can only fit in my ARM.

Pas tu I took herfor lunch however she said she did not want any. 

So I sent her to departure. This lady knows what to do man..she gave passport and went down (KLIA ok) and then walked to the immigration place..tak lah termanggu manggu at all...

I told her I owe her about RM550 (I kurangkan deduction seksa I tu to only one month salary) and the ticket is cheaper than I thought (DAMN YOU LIONAIR) anyyyyway...I gave her RM200 in Indon rupiah and she had Rm100 in her handbag

Cukupler tu kan..I pulak worry whether cukup or not ..and whether she has someone at home to fetch her...she said she needs to call someone which number is in the phone I confiscated ..i said it's with the cops..I think it's in the office....I think lar

Anyway she told me she met this salman guy when she was about to come to malaysia..apa apa laaaa ...

then I had a lovely time trying to find how to get a cab back...rupanye kena turun level 3, pi teksi counter and then ambik coupon...then queue baru naik...perghak tol

Sampai je rumah the first thing I saw was the daun daun at the porch and it never bothered me before but this time I was like- I HAVE TO CLEAN THAT NOW!!

And I masuk rumah and I immediately saw all the stuff I have to clean NOW. (walhal masa ada maid tak kesah pun)

And then neighbour recommended her cleaner so I went over to talk to this very very chatty muslim philipina and she agreed to come twice a week..

only thing neighbour's mansion is so nice...while mine is so semak

so I have to clear so many things before she comes!

And now Im cooking spagboll-spaghetti bolognaise...bung it in the oven

and doing a list for my kids as in chores..

They are all sitting upstairs..tak kesah pun mami ni nak masak..hik hik

we are going to be so great! Looking forward to clearing my house yay! 

(injury report: burnt my finger allready on the hot pot hoo hoo)

Maid (postscript)

Today i go to klia send princess

i have gone to the immigration place at the new Syariah court in Jln Duta and paid penalty  of rm100.00 

there was  no parking and i drove around for about 3 rounds 

it was blazing hot

and i had to queue

3 times

and imagine when i turned around. saw her sitting down next to another maid, chatting and  smiling happily

i called her to stand in line with me. got no shame ah. got no sense of menyusahkan orang ka

and today she is flying back

she is so happy. the bf is at home now

i told her -- i dont mind the bf part. i dont mind her going off part..i hated the lying. and she has lost RM8,400.0o which she could have made in a year

stupid girl. 

and im charging her for transport and penalty and her flight ticket and etc etc...she  has no salary left except for 200.00

i wanted to send to agent for  him to send, but husband and friends think i should send her myself. agent might keep her here and recycle. 


Sunday, November 04, 2012

FULL VERSION of the maid story

Well. I missed my Japanese class. 

because I had to report my maid's allegation of rape


for my fb friends you probably saw my updates

before our Perth trip mom and dad helped send her to do her fomema thingy as her permit had expired and I had to extend it . Actually she had asked to send her back before that, citing her dad wanting the title of the house, which only she has, but she has to go back personally to give it, because she had buried the title somewhere on the land. 


After I rolled on the floor laughing, I said no, anyway your permit had expired so I have to renew that before you can even think about going back, or going out. at all. 

Delay delay procrastinate procrastinate tengok tengok dah expire by 22nd. October. 

Panic and sent her to my auntie's clinic. 

Back from Perth auntie called. By the way can I bring her in, her test is positive. Not ujian bahasa malaysia, but pregnancy test

I was still ok- because auntie said it might be false positive, ye lah, they have so many samples kan. 

I told her -in a lighthearted manner - eh I have to bring you tau..because you may have a baybeee....(smiling  the idiot that I was) 

I thought she was going to go - hah? how on earth did THAT happen? 

But instead! she crumpled to the floor and said I wanted to tell you something...2 months ago...this man came in and he wanted to kill me! he held a knife at my throat! 
It happened during eve of eid, when the whole family went off to Kluang-- she was sent home by my brother (remember, my mom had a pre-eid kenduri and borrowed her for a few hours) . Anyway she wasn't making sense and I was like- huh?? orang came into the house..but then why didnt you tell me? 2 monthss ago?? she said she was scared of me. 

Ha ha ha! 

Anyway i couldn't sit there and I went off for a meeting. when i came back I sat her down and obviously she had more time to figure out her karangan. I absolutely did not believe her of course but was interested to see how she was going to tie everything together . 


She got dropped off. She came in and found door unlocked. She went in, wanted to have a bath, took off her clothes, decided not to, cause she felt uneasy. SUDDENLY a man came out of her bathroom (adjoining) and put hand over mouth, and also held her hand and also held a knife (3 handed, of course) and then pushed her to the tv room, and then I asked her-- how come did not go upstairs?? because, she had struggled and together they struggled back to her room (im actually fighting the urge to giggle now) and then she lost consciousness cause ada fragrant smell...from his mouth ...and then she got up in the morning with her pants off (but later told the cops her undies were on) and then she did housework as normal and did not tell me because she was scared of me. FOR TWO MONTHS. 


Several things: 

She alleged she was ahem attacked on raya eve. I was away only for one day (due to hubby being on call) and came home on first day jugak (malam I think). The next day (2nd Hari raya) found out from neighbour that he got burgled. Asked my maid about it, she said she didn't see cause she was upstairs. Then she said oh yah she saw a man walking up and down behind the neighbour's house bla bla

Now, why didn't she tell me- oh by the way, your house ALSO got burgled last night?? hah?? And I got attacked ? hah??? If not for the burglary next door I would not have asked her specific question about whether the house was locked etc..but I did and she said everything was ok and did NOT tell me about the "rape"

Secondly...if you were attacked, surely you'd be traumatised . are ok

Thirdly..she had gone off to do her urut - she asked to go with next door neighbour 's maid cause her back was aching. Then she came back and said the lady told her she needed 3 treatment and there was a pain that moved around her body like an egg

She did actually tell me she was having back pain all those time she never mentioned hey! it could be because two months ago I was attacked..bla bla..mouth got smoke coming out..woke up no pants...bla bla=- kan??  There I was thinking of giving her a scope. Kalau betul lah ..she would have said kan...

Anyway-- i listened to advice to go get a police report done, as she may well accuse the other half of being the culprit. or my brother. so off I went. and she stuck to her story. the police kat station melawati took it down and told me to go to the sexual crimes unit in taman dagang..then i went to see this lady, Inspektor Masnirawati, and she interviewed her without me...for a longg time..she was softspoken and Im sorry to report there was no violence used. Apa lah!! Where is all that police brutality that I hear about?? hah?? 

Anyway Inspektor tu said she is still sticking to the story, so she has to go to hospital to get chcked out. Tomorrow morning I would have to go to the HOspital Ampang, she said. But tonight she would come to the house, she said, to take pictures of her room etc. 

On the way back (several hours later) i was yelling at her. My maid. I told her if what you are saying is true, how dare you not tell me that my house was burgled. My house was burgled and I have 4 daughters..who the blinking heck cares about YOU but my house was actually broken into and you never thought to TELL Me? (kalau betol lah kan).W hat if he came back?? you didn't think of the other maids around the area?? what if he came in and raped THEM? 

Anyway she made that no expression face that I swear will make the DALAI LAMA hit her. I said you told the police you ada pacar ye ..She said yes but never met him. Dont know who he is or what he looks like. Huh??  

Lagi FENIN (headache) kepala dengar cerita mengarut dia., baik kita diam je.I told her, I will pursue this rapist thing, the entire neighbourhood now will have to be told that a rapist came  so everyone can be on alert. You think its just about you? And of course I have to tell the next door neighbour as he might be very interested since the guy could be the same guy. Well, maid , you said you were raped, I have to follow through. this is a serious crime. Mom and family came over and then the cops came after dinner and by this time, she was a bit ashen. I left the cops to take the pics ..and closed the door to the kitchen where they were. Dad said not to disturb the investigation.

Suddenly the Inspector called me in. She had confessed. She had her bf come in to the house AFTER my brother dropped her (btw saiful AND HIS entire family dropped her off I am very relieved to hear) .she did not hear the bell she said she did not know how he came in. The photographer, a man, told her...of course you can he must have told him to come. She said no, all of a sudden he came in allready. ahahahah! The photographer asked her again, she finally said he rang , and she opened the gate. ARGH..but she said she never asked him to come. And I said you never asked him to LEAVE either did you???arghhh you know I would KILL you if you do this and you went ahead anyway??

Anyway...the cops found a hand phone (that maid had sworn she did not have kan) and gave it tome . they told me to do a "covering" report and I went off to  the 3rd police station of the day, Huluklang (tadi melawati, then ampang) and they were waiting for me...and they had a good laugh at the report it seems (apparently all reports made in m'wati and h 'klang are tied and in system) and they wondered what would be the ending.. I had to request for more patrol in my report

and today..i told her i want her to clean everything up etc etc and dont think you can just b**ger off and get yourself pregnant and then ask to go home and I have to be the one checking for your ticket etc etc..grrrr. I want to yell all the time . 

Anyway i also said I dont know when to get her ticket. (see earlier post)

She is trying to make a joke wiht me just now. (Seriously muka tak malu) - I am now stone face and I could not look at her and I said in her bahasa sasak  kamu lenge! (you are disgusting) - 

So that's the end...I hope!

maid oh maid (I hope final instalment of the saga)

I'm torn between sending the Maid  home now now now, or make her wait until I get a replacement maid. 

I'm torn between wanting to HAVE a replacement maid, or go without. 

No maid means I would at this moment be having to go bring the clothes in because of the rain.

And I can't exactly leave kids alone in the house. 

I would probably be ironing at the mo (cause with 7 ppl in the house the laundry can be horrible) 

The goodpoint is:

1. I can break her room up for the new enlarged kitchen
2 I can use the RM10000 (NO KIDDING) fee that Eddy agent charge to get a new maid, for a holiday
3. I can also save up to RM700 (new salary from now , I was told) a month and buy something nice 

4. I dont have to worry about having someone have SEX in my house with her boyfriend

That last point is clinching it for me. I think I'm leaning towards having NO MAID. 

Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...