Which is great news, because she is my youngest brother's age and has been dating this guy for about 4 years ish. She also speaks Japanese because she worked there for a while, and that's where she met her bf.
The sad part is, the wedding will be organised by her sisters. Why? because her mother does not want to know. She doesn't agree, and she does not want to be involved. He's Japanese, and she thinks he won't guide her. Allready her lifestyle is not so muslimah (appearance lah , for all I know she willbe the one going to heaven ) and marrying a non muslim is not as good as marrying a stable malay muslim man (where? Got ah??) - My cousin has 4 sisters, and all but 1 will be the ones doing the inviting, planning etc. The eldest takes the mom's side.
When I was first told by one of the sisters, I was delighted, although surprised that the mom, my auntie, was still against it , and quite in awe that the daughters dare to defy her. This sister told me that the mom is resigned to it, but she reaaaaaaaaaaally doesn't like her youngest daughter to marry her chosen one!
When I met the eldest sister recently she admitted yes, its true, she is not getting involved...because to her , the others should not be encouraging this wedding. It's going without mom's blessing, and mom dah merajuk and is offended and now takes the attitude of "go ahead if you are so clever" . And it's better for the sister to separate from bf than to go ahead and marry him without "restu mak".
And she got me thinking...yah lah...life without your mom's blessing is scary kan. It IS important for your wedding to be blessed by your parents. Many couples have broken up before because of lack of approval, usually for reasons of different religion. There are couples who continue to be happy notwithstanding the disapproval , and patch up with a baby..but there are also couples who hit the rocks.
But I guess when you are in lurve....it's very hard to say bye bye just because mom said no. And if you are the partner being dumped because of that, it's harder to take! Especially if you felt everything is perfect. I'm sure you'd forget about how she feels and concentrate on how you feel. Right??
Entah lah..what do you think. Should they go ahead?