She is from Lom*bok . That's an island I think, somewhere far far far down . As far as you can get from KL. NOT from medan. or from jawa. The agent who supplied this maid, said that he had had it with maids from Java, or Medan , as they are too streetsmart, and they create a lot of problem.
So this maid is 37 ish (yeah , like I am about 19) , and is a mother of 5 . Her eldest is 13 and youngest about 8. She is here because her husband is dead and she needs the money. She is dark, rather pleasant looking.
The thing is, I am alwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyys telling her off. All of the things below are NOT her fault, I know. She is not exposed to what we are exposed to, and she is NOT like us. But after having maids who knew their way around the kitchen, who knew the way things work, appliances work, etc, it is testing my patience a bit to have to train her.
It's not that she is lazy. Far from it. It's just that, she doesn't know.
She doesn't know that langsir means curtain and tingkap means window. When told to open the window but close the curtains because at 6.30 am we don't want people to see us from the roadside but we want the breeze, she opened the curtains and closed the window. She also has no idea that things freeze mega fast in the upper part of the fridge so for the first few weeks I keep finding frozen garlic and onions, frozen belacan, frozen tomato sauce etc. every darn thing she freezes.
And the way she serve things - she has no idea that you do not serve tea to guests and bring out the worn out old red plastic beaker in which you made the tea (eeeeps!!) which the guests were not supposed to see in the first place, and she has no clue that you do not serve orange juice in a teacup, or hot coffee in tall glasses (eeeps ! My glasses!) AND she has no clue that the cup that says "TERAJUKON 2005" or "MY DAD IS A GREAT DAD" are never served to formal guests - unless they are my brothers . Even my dad is very fussy. Must have coaster and all! And a tray! (But in his old age, a saucer will do...) My mom nearly had a heart attack when she saw me just giving a mug to hubs!
And she spits! Left spit , right spit. Not the back of your throat , really let it out type of spit, but rather , spitting out things at the tip of your tongue type of spit. I told her to please don't do that, and I have caught her restraining herself in front of me.
And she drinks from the bottle! She said she never did but she now does because she saw other people do it. I smilingly told her very sweetly that i really really hate that, so much so that if she cannot stop it, I will send her home! With a smile people, with a smile hahahah
And she cleans the floor with a cloth rather than a mop, which I don't mind because personally I myself don't know my way around a mop. But I told her to wash that cloth at least 100 times , while you are mopping because otherwise you'd be spreading dirty water around. She not only does NOT do that, she uses the same cloth on the mirrors, glasses! Eeeps!
BUT overall, she is ok. I find myself APOLOGISING after every time I raise my voice or be impatient to her (sobs! I am so pathetic) . She tells me she does not keep it in the heart. I tell my daughter (Nadine) off for scolding her because all said and done, she is older than Nadine, she works for us, and she should be respected. My kids have a majikan syndrome. More of a majikan than the actual majikan, who is pathetic. (Majikan- employer, although some majikan thinks majikan means owner!)
I am very very determined though, that after this lady go home, i will NOT take a maid again. I don't want to have to tell my husband to please wash your hands in the bathroom and NOT at the sink where my maid is at the same time standing there. Personal space, personal space. I guard HIS , very jealously, whether its beauty queen or nenek kebayan there hehehe! I don't want to have to scold someone else for not cleaning the toilet properly . Let me be the one doing it, lagi puas hati.
This maid also likes to sit with the family. She will sit and chat with me as if we are old friends. The "Mat salleh" in me (ha? Ada ke?) think, all are created equal , so what's wrong with that. The majikan in me go- hah? Pally pally nye! heheheh Dilema.....
So that's the new maid! What do you think? :)