How to treat your 16 year old? see picture
This is my daughter**
As I am sure she is feeling , being 16 and being told she cannot go here, there or anywhere by her ever protective mom.
She wants to go, thats the problem. She's not like a docile child who is content to read and stay in the house, she's always asking to go places ...I feel larh she's pushing the boundaries, asking to go to this place, this seminar, that workshop, this trip, that trip...
Putting things in perspective, she doesn't ask to go to clubs or social places, so I guess I have to let her go lar to all these "good" places.. But the places she asks to go to, always costs money--moan moan. Ok I basically do not want her to go anywhere 50 metres away from under my armpit, is that possible?
I tell her that the world out there is dangerous. you get exposed to so many things if you are not careful, and you cant exactly trust your friends. What if the friends introduce her to -GASP- boys?? Or worse still...MAT REMPIT? He he...Her friends are giggly girls (not all of them she tells me! )Well Nadine they are all giggly at this age and they all know better.
Yesterday Saturday after tuition she wanted to go follow her friends for a bowling tournament practice and I said yes. Then when I called her to see if she is ready, (or she said she called ME) she was apparently at a karaoke place. Hmm. I felt- not happy that my daughter is in a mall somewhere loitering. on the other hand this was the first time and not often anyway right....so I let it go..with a mental note to go with her next time
So what do you think? Should I let her have her freedom? Or should she listen to mummy and wait till she's 24 before she can go out and lepaks? er I pun dulu lepak , tapi dengan Zuriati my now sister in law but then best friend, and we would go walk around Yow Chuan Plaza and try many many clothes just for fun, and yeah nothing happened to us. Eh? I think ada lah hairy situations, where men chatted us up (it was probably Zu) so there WERE dicey moments. But I was about 17 then which is a looot older than Nadine hehehehehe..
I guess Nadine you got to understand that as much as you want to grow up, I DON'T want you to . But..I will have to face reality soon!
** This picture was taken at Penang when she went with her friends for a debating thingy with the school. First time I let her out for 4 days or something.