Baru 3rd day without maid kan, and allready I dah stress with the other half. Pep talk me please. On the rational side I understand his work is suddenly very busy, his colleague is off and he has to do all hell's type of on call and he had to do emergency operations etc ...my rational brain understands and sympathise. KEciannn baby I...(uwek, say my kids)
My non rational diva however wanted to say - Haa?? Why you come back late one?? Every day 9 pm one..somemore dont want me to buy outside food want me to cook, who's going to help me clear the maid's room and buang her mattress? Trash who wants to take out?? Waaaaaa!! I dont care about in patients they can reschedule!! How come you come home and tidor and next day go again..help lah this is not ahotel lar
Ok . sorry.
I ter cakap this morning to him, although I had sworn not to. I mean, I AM sorry that he is working so hard but honey, so am I! Plus I have to work my normal office work too! It seems like I am making all the adjustments in this - work halfday lah and do all the housework lah, you normal je?
Or..maybe that was the point?? For me to just be the housewife and superwoman so that he can work with a peace of mind? Sorry, this has never been our style ..we have always been partners .but maybe this is what he expects now, his little woman at home? ( dont mind being at home part, just mind doing the housework part) When I moan moan he said - Sayang! It's only HOUSEWORK Lah!
Ha ha ha ni yang nak gelak ni..housework lah yang banyak and ongoing. Plus I have made it difficult for myself. I have to start afresh with new stuff because I have thrown the old pots and pans and the decrepit cutting board and I am on a rampage to throw out whatever I don't need that I have been asking maid to clear but of course she didn't . Also I have been on a rampage to get rid of house of the cat pee smell. This on top of the normal Menyapu of living room, kitchen, living room 2 bla bla, basuh baju - yah i can go send laundry but with 7 in the house its too much and too rapidlah dia jadi bukit baju, tak sempat nak lipat dah ada satu batch lain, so its faster if I wash sendiri...ha ha
Again, I tell people all the time..I go to work to rest! Full time Mom with NO maid has my highest respect..I am determined to NOT have a maid..but penat woi!!
How DO the full time housewives do it? Maybe close one eye? Maybe I will learn not to mind that the rubbish is not sent out? Hubs said biar je lah kat tepi dapur tu.. Dia too busy lah..tapi kan, if you biar then the cat cakar..so I should send it out je lah kan?? but i want him to help..but I guess .this is no longer the time when we were in the UK when he could help me vacuum while I tend to other things..now he is busy..but what annoys me is that..neither am I that full time housewife I was then..now I have work and this week is especially harrowing..so at least share my mental if not physical burden kan.
I think this is all teething problems je...I need to find a system. I will not expect the other half to help. because if I do, and he doesn't nanti I tension. So I will try to organise the skip myself. And try not to moan. GRR.
Aiyoo now I smell cat wee again. Wargh.. Kids tak bangun tidor lagi.. They have been helping , esp Nadine but how much can I ask her, with her sitting for SPM. and I gave Nadine my keys so that they can let themselves in from school if Im not there..and they did and guess what, yesterday I came home and found everything unlocked and open even the gate. Aiyoo. And the freezer was switched off. Aiyoo..Dangerous to leave the kiddoes for now.
Sigh..thank you for listening to me..I am going to lipat kain now..but..is it unreasonable to expect the other half to help? Or shall I just shut up and get on with it?