Semalam a dear friend told me that her son had been pinched in school by the teacher.
I dunno..what do you think
Somehow whenever I hear of kids receiving some physical punishment, I cringe . I tak suka. Remember Sara was once punished for not bringing a book-with 100 ketuk ketampi (squats).Appropriate or not? I was so mad because she had just recovered from being ill (the type of illness that made us take her to the hospital , thinking it was birdflu) and she also complained of sore legs (I bet!) . My first thought - nak pi school- I was going to go and confront the teacher. It was a very inappropriate action of a teacher who was supposed to know better, and trained to think creatively where kids are concerned. And the teacher had only 20 plus kids under her care so cannot use excuse that she was overworked! I decided against confronting her in the end, (me big coward) but I did go OVER that teacher's head, and went straight to the principal. I sent emails to all the heads expressing my deep disappointment that this type of punishment, which has physical impact, and does nothing to teach the child in terms of value, was still practiced- I told them they should have asked Sara to clean the toilet or help the teachers or some sort of chore (goodness knows my kids think chores are punishment) but NOT ketuk ketampi!
I didn't get any reply of course. But one of the heads told me that they regretted that and had spoken to the teachers (that teacher AND other teachers) about how punishment should have some sort of educational value. Yelah bukan nak lepaskan emosi anda je on that child! Itu setan namanya! Anyway soon after that the school announced a total revamp of how they teach, ie teachers are mudarib and supposed to mould the children . And whoever is not interested in being that type of teacher can go out. This they did at the cost of the parents of course...fees were increased 30% .
I'm not saying what I did led to the revamp but the point here is that teachers must be leaders. They must be icons for the kids. They must be what parents cannot be, They cannot be a child themselves! They definitely cannot just act their feelings out , like a child! What then is the difference between you , the teacher, and that 7 year old boy who is still berhingus?? Why do you the teacher, feel it is totally OKAY to pinch another person's child to get the point across?? A simple rap on his table to shock him out of his naughtiness (or whatever horrendous offence he was committing) should do- or order him to stand on the chair for 1 minute- should be ok! Kan?
Over emo pulak I ni..hihi..My friend ok je. I yang rasa nak nangis. Sebab I very rarely pinch my kids (they say otherwise though, ha ha). I asked the other half about what he thinks about this- he said biar je lah. HAA? ye ke ..I guess he thought he was pinched before when he was in school too, and he turned out ok. (his argument for everything). Well that doesn't make it right. I'm not against punishment. I'm against that type of punishment.
I asked my friend to go to the head of the school - perhaps this teacher can be reminded gently that 7 years ago her students were not born yet. And that they are just kids . And pinching sampai leave a bruise, will lead parents to punch you in the face if they are not calm rational parents. And totally overreacting and wrong. Cariklah cara lain.
But I think my friend takut repercussion! Yelah, dont want her son to be known as that child with the over protective mom. Alah who cares, at least they tau that your son has a mom who is watching over him, and not going to take everything lying down. (Within reason lah kan, you dont go attack teachers for no reason kan) - And who knows that teacher will probably change for the better...and choose other more creative methods to teach children behaviour . Ni kalau you tak cakap, she will continue with that type of perangai..and what contoh is that to her students...that if you are mad at someone, pinch them??
Hope you do go talk to the teacher's boss ok!!
Sekian terimakasih daripada ibu yang terover . :)
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