Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Where did the year go?

Really, I'm sure if I go back to all the old posts around this year I'd find myself asking the same thing that I am now: Where the heck did the year go?? What ever happened to january, february etc etc?? 

I must say though I'd be glad to see the back of this year. Personally it has been not a bad year for us, with the kids all doing ok, and everyone remaining more or less healthy. Parents are still well, alhamdulillah. We even managed to acquire one kitten a couple of weeks back. He's doing ok now, getting bigger behaving like a real toddler, except with claws. So when he wants attention and he's meowing at your feet , if you ignore him he can climb on you. And always coming to us whenever we pray. and just now wanted me to watch him eat. How I know? I was praying, he was meowing. I finished, and looked for his food. He ran to his dish, which was already full of food. So he knew where food was. he then ate, but kept turning back to look at whether I was waiting for him or not. So it looked like he wanted me to wait with him while he ate. 

Or maybe not, maybe he was just meowing. heheheheh!

Where was I? Oh yes, Personally, yes a good year. But for Malaysia- it has been a year of terrible tragedy. Serious tragedy punyer..bukan main main. After decades of peace, tranquility, with nary a tremor, and me smugly thinking wah Malaysia escapes all those tornado, typhoon etc..Well, after decades of all that, we are now seeing floods the like of  which have never been seen before, we are seing twisters, we are experiencing tremors or earth quakes..

and 3 of our planes, have gone missing, got shot down, and crashed. ALL in one year. 

What is happening?

What is the message? I cannot help thinking we are being reminded that for all our superiority complex  thinking we can conquer the elements, with our sky scrapers etc, we are still His subjects, puny in His hands, and servants, actually. 

It's hard not to think we are being punished, too. I know, who are we to fathom divine intention,  but boy it sure feels like it. Maybe all those greed and corruption by all and sundry at all levels of society got us into this fix. Whatever it is, we must accept with open heart, and keep helping in whatever way we can. 

Aiyoo this blog dah berceramah pulak. I better stop before I get too boring meself - off to send Sara to work. She's now got a job with 3 of her friends at one of the friends' mom's place. They basically do basic clerical stuff. I actually do not like her to do this, and I think after 2 days of being there the gloss of working with friends, is fast vanishing. But biarlah dia try...

Ok byeee

Friday, December 26, 2014

Why I cannot watch Kdrama

..because once it's on, I can't do anything  but watch. 

This morning I was out at work when the kids called to tell me a monkey is in my room what should they do?? Monkeys memang residents kat my area, and can be seen playing outside in the trees most days. Usually harmless but this is the first time they dared to come in. 

Anyway when I came home , i wanted to carry on working in my room . Tapi takut dengan monyet...bright idea, perhaps I should turn the telly on, maybe the noise can scare any potential trespassers of the monkey kind. 

And thinking that I wanted to do work, I turned on something that can make noise but not something I would want to follow, I turned on a Kdrama. It's called I hear your voice....

Sudahhhhh...now I'm stuck. and my kids have joined me and are now in the room transfixed on the telly. 

DARN YOUUUU KOREAN DRAMAAAAAA

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

EndlessBooks

Ya Allah, I'm so annoyed with the kids, specifically the schoolgoing kids. The book list has come out like a week ago, Sara has  on my request asked her friends who man the bookshop, to please reserve ALL the books on the booklist, while waiting for the rest to return from their camping. The idea was once they are back, they can find out how many of the books in the book list they actually needed. I mean, what is the point of having a sibling in the year above you, if not to pass down the books, right?? That is, if the school doesn't decide to change the entire book list lah kan!

Until today I am still yelling at the kids to please sort out the books. Sophia has to find Sara's books. Daya has to take Sophia's books. Johan takes Daya's books. Johan is done, to be fair to him, and he only has about 6 books to get. (from a list of about 20) . At least this way we can save sikit. It's scary looking at their booklists! 

(sophia has to decide what exam she will take- the O levels, or the SPM- before she can decide what books to take!) 


It's not  just text books, there are work books, and writing books (exercise books). By the way, I am NOT going to buy all those exercise books. Use up the old ones, tear up pages that have been used, and use the blank pages. Bukan kedekut (not being mean) but the house is FULL of exercise books, some barely used! 

Another thing I am refusing to buy is eraser ruler dan sewaktu dengan nya. I rasa they already have so many- kejap kejap beli kan. That mamak shop and the grocery shop next to the school are a bad idea- who ever allowed them to operate next to cashcarrying kids?? So now the kids will have to search the house for the old usable ones. I dont care if it's stubbed. We bought loads usually at the beginning of the year- you all makan ke?? he he!

Bukan apa..every year , this time of year, parents (us) will be heading to Tesco/Popular etc to get all their stuff. Uniforms,yes have to get new ones as they grow out of them, or get paint on them or even tear them. Tudung- PLEASE buy new ones as some have holes and cuts (how??) . Shoes, I understand. But a lot of stuff they still have from the year before , which can still be used. I got them new stuff every year. But not this year ok?? Bukan hari raya kan, kena tukar baru semuanya. 

(you think mummy can hold on to her resolve?) 

And kids, for heaven's sake, can you find your books already?!!! 


Saturday, December 20, 2014

how to shoot kids' street cred to pieces.

Last week the younger 3 went off to Kem Bina Semangat, Wheretheheck, Selangor. heheh no lah it's actually at Kuala Kubu Baru. The kids had been practising daily before that, marching in school and doing something called "base"(?daze? Dais? Bayze? Beige? no idea)

So off they went, armed with cookies and handphones and tshirt KRS and the like, The house fell silent, with only Sara and me and daddy (actually Sara and me, most of the time). And Tom the kitten with the voracious appetite and the white socks.

First night,  Jojo called. then the girls called.  then, their phones must have died because we received no calls. Then, Jojo called again- My toothbrush fell in the toilet (!!) , and I forgot to pack enough shirts. With visions of my son going around all yellow teeth and also wearing old dirty tshirts,  I packed what he needed, and by the way Sophia said can pls bring fruits and cookies too? Wanted to go the next morning but work interfered so planned at night with hubs. Hubs came home past 11 pm so that plan was shot. Parents came for dinner and heard I was planning to send food and stuff to the kids and dad , a former colonel , was simply HORRIFIED. Let them be! he said. Let my cucu suffer! Camping is not supposed to be fun!!

Yeah but no toothbrush dad, that's a pretty big deal..!

Ok but don't go alone, do you want us to go? Dad asked- at 11.pm dad. no way.

The next day I don't know what happened but hubs agreed to come with me to send the stuff. I fetched Nadine from college and then fetched him. I think he was supposed to welcome some foreign docs who came to visit the Uni. But he passed that to his other colleagues for the sake of his kids whom he hasn't seen in a while. I actually think he just felt like NOT going to the uni heheheh...after several days of heavy call at both places of work. I seriously don't know how he is managing to juggle these 2 places..

Anyway off we went to this place. Mak kau JAUH NYA!! So far into the boondocks! Husband, clearly feeling the effect of all those late night calls, actually stopped to sleep at the R&R. I would take over but I pun ngantuk- since the kitten came we have been up feeding him every 3 hours. Kalah my own kids.

We eventually drove on. Passed a neighbourhood with abandoned and incomplete shoplots, and seriously bad roads, riddled with potholes. Felt like we were really far far from urban KL. Stopped to buy lots of kueh at a stall. Finally we spotted the camp..it's near MRSM rupanya..A big open space area, and from afar I could see rows upon rows of tents erected. We drove on to the entrance.

And as we approached the gates I suddenly felt the overwhelming urge to hide. Malunyaa!!!. There the kids were, in their green uniforms, the boys were in the middle of constructing some tower with bamboo. No adults to be seen , what more parents. And here we were, in our MPV, with tinted windows , coming with clothes and toothbrush and cookies. ER, this was NOT a good idea. Our children's street cred is NO MORE.

Spotted Johan with his group first. Trying to do what, I don't know, but they had a lot of fat green bamboos with them. They fiddled with them, and it was obvious they did not have the faintest idea what to do with the bamboo! In the end Johan went to send the bamboo rods back to to the pile in the middle of the field. Failed for the team- hehehe but to be fair they were not taught how to make clocktower or watch tower from bamboo- only lots of marching. And that base thing.

We parked RIGHT in front of the kids, and everyone stared, at least I think everyone stared, I can't tell, as I was hiding in the car. I peeked though, to see if  Johan noticed us. We wound down the window . He was actually looking around - his face when he spotted us!! Priceless- hehehe eyes were ROUND and mouth actually fell, and then he walked to us beaming- street cred be damned!

Then I called Adni's teacher in charge's hp, and the teacher came over -  I passed her the kueh to give to the girls. She happily updated me and Nadine on what had been happening- Adni kids were not too experienced, and it was good exposure for them to see how the others were. There were kids from Indonesia, and Thailand cadets too! We walked to the back of the field to where the girls were, the other side of the building. (the camp is divided into two parts- in the centre there is this single story building - office ? don't know) Sophia was in her tent, and Daya went off to have a shower. Boy were they surprised! hehehehe! I saw their friends first, the Adni girls were grouped into about 4 tents, and in the middle there was this mat on which the girls were lounging around- everyone of them were like my own kids, and they're always coming home with our kids. It was really nice, to be able to hug them in the middle of their camping - they were NOT expecting us to pop by in the middle of the day- but I suspect they were thankful  that we came the day the activities were all done, at least no marks to deduct, for having moms and dads come over!

After about an hour, we left..Johan muka sedeh...wanted us to go see his tent- apparently because they arrived late they were given the most outside area- nearest to the entrance! We saw the tent when we drove away...with him waving at us sadly..(pathetic tol kan citer ni, walhal the next day dah nak balik) 

The moral of this story is: NEVER VISIT your children at camp! Buat maluu je hehehehe!





Tuesday, December 16, 2014

kidless in kl

Not such a glorious day today, because the kids are all at (yet another) camp. This time it's a PRINT competition - youth cadets. They've set up tents I supposed by now. Johan has called me twice, telling me his phone is dying and he can't charge it because he's in a tent, so he might as well burn it by calling me. Awww..hope he stays my baby foreVAH. I offered to give him  the tee shirt I slept in , in case he misses my smell. He struggled to find a way to refuse without offending me ha ha. Dahlia just refused. I said ya it's stinky but at least it's mommy stinky! Heehee!

Talking about babies (yes we were) We have a baby cat in da house. I never remember if i've blogged about things, so if you have heard it before, ignore je lar ok. Daya found this kitten, so brought it home and now we are taking care of him . Boy it's a full time job! With the 3 gone, tinggal sara alone to take care of the guy. BUT! She's taken a job with the library, selling books! How? maid is ignoring the kitten. The kitten needs food every 2 hours. I came home at 5. I asked maid what time kitten ate, she said 1.pm something. I said eh! Feed the cat lar...Not having ever taken care of an orphan kitten, we're following vet's instruction to the letter- feed every 2 hours. Kids have been playing mommy. Johan pun will feed the kitten. When the 3 mommies went off to camp, leaving Sara, and then when Sara went, tinggal lah Maid to help. BUT does she help? Na-ah! Example, did not feed the kitten. 

Maid ni ada clever sikit, she said she didn't feed the kitten because she could not find the food- I opened the fridge and there it was. She told sara she's busy. She has no intention of caring for a kitten.  I told her she has no choice, the 3 kids are not around, and I'm asking a favour. This lady needs to be yelled at I think, she is soo not suitable for a passive aggressive employer like me. She thinks she is the boss. If I tell her X she will often tell me no, cannot must do Y. I ignore the Y and repeat the request for X. But it gets tiring  not to  yell. When  you soooo want to. Because although she is nice, and she is good, she is also insolent. Huwaaaa....I want my old Bibik backkkkkkk!!!!

Foooh!! Enough about maids- repeat the mantra- at least someone sends out rubbish and does the laundry......Yes I am truly grateful for that...

Moving on! The other day Dr Fauziah the fantastic dentist who does makeover (go to the link to see her gallery of miraculous makeovers) . Anyway she shared about setting goals. She outlined 8 areas of your life where you can improve - set one goal for 2015 for each of them- such as Want to have 24 dinners with the family (under FAMILY). 

I  was googling and I found this on goal setting. 

Goals have to be measurable. and goals have to be reasonable. No more "lose 20 kg" goals. More like "Lose 1 kg a month" . Hey let's just forget about the losing kgs. how about "cut out carbo at night" or other stuff that will hopefully lead to the losing weight. I say this because, everytime I set the weight goal, people will be sending food over, or I would have some makan makan do, and that goal is BUSTED. 

Goals have to be measurable, she mentioned, like , you need to say I want to read 12 books this year, (under say, mental goal). I want to NOT be mental. Is one of my goals hehehehe....

I want to go for haj eg, before 50. Have finally registered and can now go  at the ripe old age of 100. Why have I not registered before? Because I  have been told that you can register anytime...and submit your appeal once you have the moolah. I was NOT told that the moolah here means the superdooper expensive packages. Inshaa Allah lah doakan lah ada rezeki I will go before 50. Without selling my house. or kidneys. 

I want to er..er...er..pray on time at least 2 prayers a day  how about that for a start. Selalu pray tengah tengah or dah dekat nak masuk the other waktu..which is BAD BAD BAD!!! Whyyyy is this difficult. Hope you don't judge me ok by the way he he.  I have started my sunat solats (voluntary prayers)..which is great..once you do voluntary prayers , the compulsory prayers seem so few an offering to your maker. It takes 2 weeks to form a habit they say. After 2 weeks you should be taking it for granted. OK let's put that to the test

 Not that easy, you know, setting goals - forces you to THINK about what you are doing, rather than just stumble into things. I don't think I've ever actually set goals. If you don't set goals, they become just dreams. 

Which is ok cause you need to always dream. But nicer if you can say I set out to do X and I achieved it yay!! 

Ok lah tara...

Sekian terimakasih....





Saturday, December 13, 2014

Saturday diary

Hi there all! What a glorious day it is! Ie, the sun is out. hahah ala ala mat salleh. Everytime the sun is shining it's a glorious day. You can sustain long minutes of conversation just babbling about how nice a day it is, and do you think it might rain later? Nowadays, force of habit, in Malaysia when the skies are blue and the sun is shining I think-what a glorious day! Walhal panas nak mati.hehehe..if only the temp is a cool 26 degrees ke...baru lah best....hehehe

(on the other hand, if the temperature DOES drop down , we'd equally freak out- the weather on the east coast got really cold earlier this year and I remember thinking- END OF THE WORLD!) 

Yes I'm babbling. Actually I'm waiting for the kids to get ready. We're going to fetch Nadine and then Ampang Point. Nadine and Jojo have gone to the Al Ansar school. Every Saturday she volunteers to teach Rohingyan kids English (I thought she was teaching Syrian kids) For the Syrian refugees she helps the single moms sell their biscotti- they make GORGEOUS biscotti - some with cranberries, and others with huge hazelnuts. Nadine bought 18 jars the other day for purpose of sale. I am ashamed to say we did not sell them- we ate every single biscotti. She came back from college the other day, opened the cupboard and wailed "MOOOMMM What happened to the Biscotti?? Now there's only 3 jars!!"(er, 1)

By the way I am no longer Mummy, I am MOM now. Kids growing up I guess. I do miss their "mummy". The other day I asked Sophia "can you say "I want your tummy" like you used to tell me everytime you wanted to go to sleep?" (She'd just rub my very nice and wobbly belly then until she falls asleep) . Sophia: MOOOMMM!!! (Frowned and cringed)

Anyway yes, we need to go and get Kaklong from this school . She has dragged brought Johan, who I hope is enjoying himself or at least not suffering too much. Johan could not think of a good reason to refuse teaching these refugees, especially when I said they have so much less than you. Nadine wants me to stay too, maybe I can do it after - after- after I stop procrastinating. I have so many good ideas, and good intention,  but so malas to do anything. I have to CHANGE this. Last week I went in to their meeting (Nadine said pot luck, and everyone is invited mom, went in tengok ada meeting), and I ended up suggesting so many things- eg why don't they open up to Malaysian teachers who want to experience teaching in an international set up - the fellow volunteers are all from Australia, Canada, Afghanistan, Maldives. ..you'd be getting precious experience! Anyone here minat to get that exposure?? hehehe

After getting Nadine I'm thinking of taking them out for lunch. Which will make the maid mad,  I know, since she already started to cook. This maid is very fierce, she'd tell me off for not coming back to eat when the food has been cooked. I told her there are still my kids, even if I eat out. Eh ehhhhhhh!! Lebih kuah dari sudu lak. She  has this whiny whiny voice- but I am sure she is a good person, and I am more than grateful for her presence. 

Am going to have a facial- have not been for 4 months, and I'm sure my face is now hitting the ground ,  it's that droopy. Facial place is near where Nadine is, (see, mummy smaaart) , so my plan is to go for facial while I let my kids loose in the mall nearby. Well, they are teenagers after all. See how much I have changed?? Dulu SORRY lah. 

And after that- husband's family is having a bbq in PD at sis in law's corporate bungalow. He's so chuffed to go that he woke up so early to go to market to buy all the lauk. He said he'll be back at 2 pm.  I remain neutral and "we shall see" as in, "We shall see what time you come back , dear". Saturday is supersebok day as everyone wants an appointment on Saturday.I am SOO sure he won't be back at 2pm, I have booked the facial FOR 2 pm. hehehehe

Ok i better go, the kids are finally ready. Byee. have a great day all. 






Friday, December 12, 2014

My night with Anuar Zain (whooooot!)

The title is pretty tantalising hehehehe...

Last weekend, my husband had his 2 nights 3 days hols with his mates- his  30 years reunion back at the School kan..so there I was thinking I will be bored- hohum twiddle thumbs- wondering what to do..

Tup tup Friday tu, hours to his departure,  my cousin called me and asked if I was busy. She said she had a spare ticket to go to a charity dinner to support something or other and Anuar Zain will be singing - would I like to go? Hmmmmm....

Now ..in the unlikely event that you have not heard of Anuar Zain, [ which is only possible if you (a) live abroad (b) have no female malaysian friends and (c) are a man who have no female malaysian friends ] , he is a 40 something year old crooner who first  burst into the music scene with a Hariraya song that is still top of the charts today- kain pelikat. He now sings mellow songs and he has such a powerful voice and is kinda cute - he is a popular choice for secretaries week, I hear. And all the ladies love him. I've never seen him live. 

So should I go? What do you think?? It was (a) a free seat (b) Anuar Zain was there and (c) dinner also served - what's to think about! I went home, got dressed in a slightly dressier outfit , and bade a hasty and cheerful byebye to the husband who left the house with his mates at the same time (I normally would find it hard to let him leave without at least 2 big hugs- I have a problem, I know). I took all the kids with me, and promised them they could stay in a room upstairs (it was held at a hotel). I checked them in, and said byeeee and went off to the ballroom. 

When I arrived I saw loads of very glittery ladies in full make up- there were a few though who were 'biasa-biasa" like me. Quite a lot of men. Found out that this was to support the paediatric unit at IJN- I was thrilled when the TwoTuns came - Tun Dr Hasmah was the patron. I'm so amazed at their strength- at 80 plus , leaning to 90 years old, they walked straight, unsupported, and I'm going to think of them the next time I feel the urge to moan about my pains.

Anyway the reason I got the ticket free was my cousin's client who invited her and her husband, also invited Ms X who fell ill (Thank you heheh). My cousin's client was with one of the main sponsors of the dinner (Phytoscience). If I hadn't heard anything about Phytoscience before the dinner, boy after one night with her I know all  you need to know! They (a) are an MLM company and (b) sell health product. I wanted to tell her that (a) my husband will kill me and views with suspicion all  MLM especially that claiming health benefits but (b) if she persevere with me, I will buy anything she sells because I am that type of moron person.

Very well organised- and good presentations - slides to show how kids suffering from heart problems can now get treatment there. A few dancing dancing by kids dressed in hip hop- tweens and teens in make up and dancing away on stage--soooo cute but thank goodness my kids are not like that I thought! hahaha when did I become so boring. 

Adibah Noor was the MC and she was good- she also sang which was good, she walked around for photo op- I tell you who said we Asians are shy? Everyone crowded her for pix

But whatever happened to Adibah Noor was nothing compared to what happened when Anuar Zain came on!  He sang a few songs, and then he went down to the audience - and the girls! The girls! (ok , hardly girls, some of them, makcik rather) all go and rushed forward for a pic. hehehe! I texted a friend and she said- you've never seen his concert? This happens all the time. 

I must say I was suprised to find that I don't like him when he is NOT singing! His banter was so creepy and flirty at times, I cringed. I kept thinking- erTun Mahathir is in front of you lar. When he sings- wow. It just blows you away. but when he does his routine. er..

Of course my cousin was in heaven lah kan. There is a pic of her gazing dreamily at the stage with her husband staring at her perplexedly hahaha. 



He had to leave cause he had work, as soon as he left she shot to the stage, when Anuar Zain called those who wanted a selfie with him. She asked me- should I ? I said in between cringing- SURE! GO FOR IT! The ladies were seriously begging for pix and gushing away at Anuar (who I suspect swing for the other side but that may be his mannerism)

Hehehehe the night ended soon enough with almost RM900k raised (hurray!). I thanked my cousin and went into the lift to head to the bedroom. I was mentally shaking my head and found all this commotion just because of Anuar, very amusing. I had this superior attitude lah, since I was the cool one . I didn't take any pics, i only appreciated Anuar on a cerebral level.  Hehehe..

Then something happened -  I forgot which room I had booked . In the lift , the other passenger asked which floor and I said "That's what I want to know too!" 

I went out again on the 2nd floor, and called the hotel from my hp. They laughed (??!) when I said I was lost, and after grilling me about my father's name and mother's name (no lah they didn't ) they told me I was actually on the top floor. Yes in my rush to drop my kids and go to the show, I had booked the grand suite. Not such a free seat, after all eh. 

So off I went up..lift door opened and lo and behold who walked towards me? 

Anuar Zain. 

And what did I, this supercool, not affected highly superior woman, do? 

I gushed.

I said, IMMEDIATELY as soon as I saw him- NOW I can take a selfie with you!!


And I fiddled with the phone camera. Which I suddenly forgot how to use. And he was ok with it. I think I said something like I was soo shy before . (Control macho is what I said)


And I floated to the rooms...(not before I posted it up on FB lar)

And I spent the next 2 days cringing at myself at how embarrassingly fangirl I was hahahaha- do you think he thought I was stalking him? 

But at least now I can say..I met Anuar Zain! Ahem- Ko ado?? hehehehe

Tu lah ceritanyer.......




Sunday, December 07, 2014

so to babble on....

Wow...It has been almost 3 months since my last post...

why haven't I been posting?

Firstly, the kids can now read my posts! and comment! and ask me to edit! Aiyoo lecehlah you...hehehe. I can no longer just blithely talk about their exploits!

And anyway their exploits are just getting too many for me to write about!  They have been so busy!

They go on camps- cadet camps, leadership camps, prefect camps, this camp that camp. From not being happy to let them go away for even one night, I'm now  having to let them go to Pahang, etc for  as long as (gasp!!) 3 nights . They come back sweaty and tired , zonking out on their beds immediately! I then hear of tales of nightwalks, of Jojo eating a leaf, of Jojo hitting his head on a tree. Invariably they'd bring home awards: best participant (Johan at latest camp) , best group , best speaker (Dahlia?) Best this and best that. They seem to thrive under this school. Either they are super brilliant, or this school is super into appreciation! Hahahah! I think it's a good concept- to appreciate and recognise the kids . All kids. The kids under this school seem to bloom , some bloom more than others.

Talking about blooming..remember that girl who refused to go to school when she was in lower primary, kept saying she had a tummy ache. who came in 38th in a class exam? I moved her to this school with far less students in one class - and the tummy pains thankfully stopped. Then one year,  her siblings (younger and older) were all made prefects, except for her, and she was sad...and I had a quiet word to the teachers to please give her a position - they didn't realise she wanted one! he he - she was then made the cleanliness monitor. Well, this girl bloomed into a prefect, then head prefect, then house captain, and with a the occassional tears and hugs and regular personal tuition in subjects she found hard(but actually not if explained by good teachers!) - at the recent graduation/performance ceremony I am beyond happy to brag, that she was given the school's top award ! Yay ! Give it up for (drum rollllllllll) Saaraaa!(ra! ra! ra! (echo) heheheeh)  We are mucho proud and by the way you must carry that" top award" in your heart with you all the time, in your lifetime, perform in studies, work, relationship, as if you are that Muttaqien - a top person  . When (if) people put you down tell yourself- well THEY didn't get the top award, did they??? hehehehe

Shout out also for Dahlia ..she finally beat her best friend who was forever getting top , to come out the best student for her Year! yay daya!!! It's nice to be top isn't it? But make sure you also deserve it lah(and Im sure you do) - kalau setakat beat your friend but your marks are low, then must make sure you understand more and learn more effectively horait??

One kid who I feel will need the spot light on him next year is Johan.  He has not gone to any extracurricular activities, having quit debating on account of it being too confrontational and people too aggressive (Im with you there) - he didn't get around to joining another club. I have asked his friend to be his CCA buddy  - ie make sure he joins an activity and goes to the practice! His studies pun average. On the plus side he is admired by his teachers for his akhlak and his maturity! I told him he is actually waiting for his body to catch up to the mental age he is at - which is 25 at least. hahahaha. Until of course he plays his games- then he regresses to 10. *Grin!!*

Sophia is now the eldest in the school- with Sara gone! A prefect, and hopefully carrying on the tradition of being the head-prefect next year. Sophia has just told me she's not carrying on her taekwondo next year- she's red tip. She makes decisions as if she alone has the right to her life.  Which I take offence to, having long considered that I have the right to meddle. for ever. Will someone tell her?

Nadine's pretty settled in her college- her sponsors and her college both better not mess her life up, is what I say. While we are grateful for the funding, she has had her A level programme which she had been taking for one year, suddenly stopped after the apparent dismal performance of her UK going seniors- and she found herself and her group transferred to the American Credit Transfer programme instead, a year into Alevels! - Which is ok, if you want to transfer your credits, but a no-no if you want to aim for the Ivyleagues (and she got heart to dream lar) -

First we questioned her sponsors on the wisdom of doing A levels and not the American degree foundation , they told us yeah it's ok.

then , now that you have stopped the A levels programme and I have TOLD you that the Ivyleagues won't accept transfer students (as per their websites) , many many emails have been sent by me , I even called Princeton , but you still insist that she can apply, just don't transfer the credits, and if she has any problem, you will "xplain to the university and appeal" (Boleh??) well- you had better be there if she gets rejected by any of the university, oh sponsors and college. I remain eternally grateful while I resist the urge to bang your heads together for  lack of foresight and common sense, oh dearest sponsor and dearest college (you i hold even more responsible, as you give the sponsors advice). Now we shrug our shoulders and pray!

Ok that's the kids done so far..the hubs now

Well, he is super bz . Super super super bz. From the looks of it a very popular surgeon and very popular lecturer (alhamdulillah). So busy that I have resorted to abandoning going to the office most days in favour of tagging along for a ride whenever he goes to the university to teach/attend meetings/etc etc. The routine is now work- work at uni- come home- sleep- work. What a life!

I don't mind (or can't mind) sitting in the car waiting for him, and for the sake of time together I have to work on the go. Which is not so good, but doable. I am now feeling my age as all this travelling around and begging for his time, is tiring.

I have to be clever in getting time together also- had a last minute booking at grand hyatt the other day, midweek. Seriously not worth it as only there for a short time  but what to do?? Betol tak.



He's back to his college this weekend, to celebrate 30 years annivesary, having miraculously found the time, and I must tell you it's a relief not having to think of when he is coming back or whether he is back for dinner. I have not had many calls from him at the college,  (other than the one yesterday) and amazingly I have resisted the urge to call him (not wishing to embarrass him in front of his boyz). I worry about his health, as his dad has heart , diabetes, gout, and hypertension and it can pass down to him too. He eats late at night, having missed his meals in the day. I saw him in action while waiting for him in clinic..doesn't stop! With the women he's pretty friendly (but then  he has always been , even way back when) and I don't generally worry except I told him I do not like the way this one nurse who "takes care" of his clinic and his patients , talk to me about him the other day- she was soo admiring of him and said he was soo nice and it was clear that they chat a lot as she tells me things he told her. I hate her. Married or not. I don'tcare. You do not get too chummy with a woman you see more than your wife. I know, I have a good friendly relationship with my partner as well but I don't care if it's double standard, I absolutely do not like it. And he's not allowed to talk to the maid, I insist. Cause I know he's friendly. And will be asking about what they eat in Indonesia lah...this lah that lah. So, I don't worry, I just set rules. Teruk kan I.


nadine asked if I have anything I want to pursue on my own other than being supportive to the kids and daddy. Loads nadine but the obstacle is not your dad, It's my laziness and inertia. I want to be fluent in Japanese and Arabic and french and Turkish, for one. I hate not being able to understand any gossip.. (and reading quran is better if you realise what you are reading is not just sounds but powerful message and lessons to take and use in daily life years and years after it was first given to man) , I want to study history of man, and wonder who the heck is Khatib koyan (he was a penghulu).I want to lose 20 kg. I am now over 70kg. a mere 10 years ago, I was 20 kg lighter. Wow . 2kg a year.

I am still working. with KG's partner. who I hear from the hubby, is also superduper bz. We should share notes, both her hubs and me, being spouses to superduper bz people. The difference between us though is, being me, I can whine and nag and it'll be cute. hahahahahahha!

Parents are fine- in laws are here more and more as they get older- DIL was admitted for a week that day for ubat poisonng- overdosing on gout pills and took 10 days to flush out of his system! Now he's driving around like normal much to the joy of my MIL!

My parents are ok, moaning that we don't see them enough. My brother no 3 and family have moved out, my brother no 4 and wife are in the UK doing his phD- so they are pretty lonely.

Ok lah guys, Nuff for now. I hope I can continue to blog. I hope I lose this "I cant be bothered to do anything " thing that is caging me now. And I hope I can get a nice long holiday after this!





Winter Sonata sure is different at 49 years old!

Believe it or not I am rewatching Winter Sonata.. ee geram betul I dengan si Yujin tu lah... she really was a wutz wasn't she? and...